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Summer Fears Is it normal to fear the end of school? Is it normal to be falling so in love with someone that you would give anything to not see them hurt? That all you want to do is spend time with them and be with them? That you don't care about anything really but them anymore? Alright, perhaps I am exaggerating the last part... But in all honesty, I am having a hard time figuring out what to do about the future. Again, a subject I harp on far too often. I just want to give my all to him...I would do anything for him. He is...amazing. I broke down last night and for once, there wasn't someone telling me to just get over it or anything. For once, somone actually cared. I don't think I'll ever find another guy like him. In all honesty, I don't see how I could. Is it plausible to meet the perfect man so early? Perfect in every way...except that he doesn't want to get married. A subject I should stop thinking about. I worry about hurting him because, although he respects everything I want, I often feel as though I don't return the favor, especially physically. I don't want to hurt him and I'm afraid I have... How do I get him to teach me how to please him? Having a roommate sucks, because we have such limited times alone together. And then, over the summer...how often am I going to see him? He doesn't live that far away and he keeps saying he wants to get together over the summer...but I'm so scared that over the summer he'll just naturally stray. And not that he has any rules about straying. We aren't going out...we are just dating. I adore him so much. What can I do to show him this?? Please feel free to leave me a comment on this!!!! I'd really appreciate it.

Posted by: wilderness.magic Tue May 17, 2005 @ 01:46am

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Jester 42
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Commented on: Tue May 17, 2005 @ 02:43am


	i dont know how many times i have told u this but i dont know what to say so go with what feels good to u

Commented on: Tue May 17, 2005 @ 03:30am


	All I can really say is, Between 18 to aroung 25 years of age, men and some women prefer to have a more adventurous and "Wild" lifestyle. If he does stray a bit then adapt to what ever it is that he is straying into... Try water skiing or bungee jumping if thats your thing... I would suggest for you and him to have Beach parties and mabye some home parties with alchohol, That should apease his craving for action. Also you should let him have a few "nights out with the guys", but ask him to think about you if his friend try to get him to go to places like hooters, It should make him feel ether, guilty of not being with you, or more consience of your trust in him. it should work but it might need some changes depending on the guy (I might become a regular here if thats not a problem)

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Commented on: Tue May 17, 2005 @ 06:30am


	Kane Daithran: In straying I guess I'm more worried that he will just lose interest over time since we aren't in a relationship. I guess I have that perpetual fear that over the summer things will change... It's not that I'm worried about him changing his lifestyle... I just know I won't seem him as often and I'm going to miss him so much. And we wont be able to do a lot over the summer because of his and my parents...we've taken to sleeping together and stuff...and that certainly won't be happening over the summer! I'm going to miss him so much until I come back...and I know I'll see him, but it's not the same. And I just want to find some way to show him how much I care about him before we leave for summer. Jester 42: Yeah...I know. I just like to hear other people's opinions since it helps me when evaluating my own.

Commented on: Tue May 24, 2005 @ 03:21am


	tip if boy is generous hes like me just ivite him to stuff hel accept then the relationship will go on and then someday u might convince him 2 mawy u heart INVITE ME TO THE MARIAGE CEREMONY _ j/k razz

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Commented on: Tue May 24, 2005 @ 04:41am


	Yuishi: That's good advice...I might try that. And if I thought you'd be anywhere nearby I would most certainly invite you. Kane Daithran: I would love it if you'd become a regular here...Really would. Please feel free to go through back posts and stuff... I'm writing up a new post right now.

Commented on: Tue Jun 21, 2005 @ 04:12pm


	I agree with Kane. I am going to become a regular if you don't mind?

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Commented on: Sat Jul 02, 2005 @ 12:17am


	jene-chan: I would love you to! I always respond to the comments left, sooner or later, and you are welcome to leave further responses!

Commented on: Wed Jul 13, 2005 @ 11:13pm


	dating and going out are the SAME THING. so don't say that he can stray because ur not going out. that is NOT true. look i really don't think he will stray. there should be no worries as long as u can trust him and he can trust u. just figure out ways to hang out. the movies, beach, park, something, n e thing. u guys will be fine just keep in touch and make sure that the both of u express that u still feel strongly about eachother. now about the whole pleasing him thing... u should talk to him. tell him how u feel and ask him what u could do to please him more OR u can talk to one of ur best guy friends, who knows a lot of info on the topic. he can maybe help u out in giving u ways to please him. PM me if u wanna get specific with things cuz i might be able to help u with that situation.

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Commented on: Sun Jan 08, 2006 @ 08:29pm


	It took me a long time to read it all but I can't really relate Im 11 an boys my age are just discusting

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Commented on: Fri Dec 29, 2006 @ 01:08am


	Your fears are understandable.. because when you're away for a summer, and you aren't able to find enough time for each other, feelings can stray.. but if he lives somewhat near AND he wants to meet you, i don't think his feelings can stray that easily.. do what you've done before, let things move naturally, when the future comes, and it will, grasp on and take Jon along with you wink Try to spend as much time as you can with Jon.. he won't be able to get away from you that easily, right? lol.. Well, as for what he wants... and how to please him, isn't it easiest for yo uto find out? it doesn't necessarily have to be physical.. and maybe he likes to spend time with you.. maybe that's enough for him... Remember, worrying too much will do you no good

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