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------So this October 2019 I made a film called "Postscript" which is about friendship in a way. It was a dedication to old friends who I'm not in touch with anymore, thanking them to be a part of my life. It is also however, a self reflection of ideas, painful ideas, of who I was about five years ago. I had to dig into this book around 2013-2014 to get inspiration for the script. I've since then came to terms with those ideas over the years but one of them never changed, at least not until now as of lately. The idea was of friendships and expiration dates.

------I had this idea that friendships had expiration dates, because life takes over or because of distance and time among other factors. I was always sad and melancholy when I had friendships expire. I have a list of friends here that haven't been online since 2009 and I'm always pondering if I should clear them. If they ever do come back would they even remember me? I would get all sad and lonely in my head. Because of this idea, I've always tried to cherish every moment I had with my friends because I knew they would not last. But on the bright side I always knew that I'd make new ones to replace the old ones, kinda like getting a new pair of shoes after outgrowing the old ones. Thinking of friends as shoes isn't right though.

------I've gained a new perspective as of late. Hence, Post-Postscript, because the movie contained my old ideas. I encountered this perspective with one of my recent friends actually, Sierra. I think of her as my sister, we're both part of this Audio Engineering program I'm in which I'm sure I've mentioned in this book at some time. We were having dinner in an empty classroom once, it was late around 11pm and we we're gonna stay the night in the studios to get work done. We were talking about my movie and I told her about my ideas of expiration dates on friendships when she told me that its all about effort.

------She told me I wasn't putting enough effort into friendships, and at first I was taken back, kinda offended. But then she elaborated on how she has friends from when she was younger who she still has contact with. She tells me that she keeps a conscious effort of keeping in touch with them. Ever since she told me that I've been sorta applying it. I've texted some old friends I was super close with as of late. Some replied back like Ed, others disappeared and I'm wondering where they are now, like Anya. I've also talked to Selena as of late which is surprising and very heart warming. Now I'm trying to put more effort. I've sent out PM"s in hopes of maybe those offline friends from 2009, when they'd come back they'll read the message and think of me and maybe keep in touch! Who knows! But I promised myself that I wouldn't think of friendships as articles of clothing you grow out of anymore.

Thanks for reading, this is Anikacy Signing out!

P.S: (actual use of post-script) I've been thinking of changing my screen name. I've been using Anikacy for almost a decade now and, I'm wondering by the start of the new year if I should change my screen name. End of an Era they say but, in the end, no matter what I call myself: I'll always be Ani!