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So this is a rant about my opinions regarding weight and appearance. Before you get all defensive in your seat, settle down, I have no ill will toward anyone of any size, or structure for that matter. I see pros and cons with each. I do however, have something to say about preferences.



I go on those lolzbook pages (and other sites) off of facebook and all I see are negative comments regarding fat chicks and dudes, and or retaliation off of those with slander to those who are tinier. All I can honestly say, is what the bloody F?

I'm an artist. Part of art is drawing. I took a figure drawing class whereby we drew plenty of men AND women of all kinds of sizes. Here is my personal opinion after seeing people of a variety: not one was more beautiful than the other. They both had loveliness and issues with their bodies. In the skinnier ones, it felt like their bodies were brittle, being able to see their rib cage and having -for the most pat- minimal curves to their breasts (I am speaking about things that are regarded as beautiful by society-- I in no way am saying small breasts are a bad thing). However, the contour lines of their collar bones and the very obvious facial shapes were beautiful, and striking, as I believe is conventional.

Likewise, it was difficult to draw someone who was fatter because they took up more space, and their body lines were more abstract. Their bodies felt heavy and immobile because of how large they were (and I'm not talking about you in-betweeners who are neither really fat nor skinny -- or even those who are sort-of fat, I mean someone who was rather quite large). That being said, they looked soft, and their breasts and ends were well rounded. Their oval shaped faces were endearing, and most of them had cutely tinted pink cheeks.

For those who were in between, the negative I see is that neither are their features striking nor are they not. They are average, simply put, but they also do not struggle with being immobile or brittle.

To me, what is beautiful is what is interesting. You don't have to be drop dead gorgeous or hideous to be interesting -- those can elicit such an interest, but I mean... every single face is unique. The eyes -- color, shape, size, the nose, the lips, the jaw, the creases when someone smiles, the tilt of the eyebrow in suggestion. I see those things on all kinds of people, and I don't understand why it's so difficult for both parties to get along.

Now, fine, you may have a preference. You may prefer a man with great abs, or a lady who is really fit. However, and I do say HOWEVER, that gives you no reason to be rude toward those who do not fit that description. Nobody is forcing you to sleep with them. So don't sleep with them, but remain courteous. After all, in their position, how might you feel?

Likewise, if you are heavy set, don't say things like "real men like women with meat!" because that causes a backlash from those who might have otherwise supported you. And men, don't question the intelligence of someone who goes to a gym. If a lady wants a guy who looks like that, then don't pursue her. Ladies, if a gentlemen wants a gal who looks different than what you look like, don't pursue him. Do not obsess, do not oogle, do not wish, turn your heads. You are all worth more than that. Everybody has different things they bring to society. Some people put emphasis on appearances, and others do not. Find someone who cares about appearances to around the same extent that you do. If appearances aren't very important to you, pursue someone who is the same. If you are shallow, expect someone else to be shallow about you.

I know this is already a long post, but I also wanted to clear something up.

Many regard those as heavy set as lazy, and those as skinny as stuck up. While there might be a select few who follow these stereotypes, many do not. As someone who fluctuates weight a lot, I can honestly say I know just as many skinny people who are lazy as there are fat, and many kind people who are skinny. I know people who cannot control their circumstances, as well as people who don't care to. That's their preference, and their right to prioritize. We live in a world where many things are considered 'bad' or 'unhealthy' but as long as we are not hurting others in what we do, it should not be you or my obligation to police them. Quite frankly, if beauty and weight are so important, then I don't understand why we do not prioritize intelligence, or kindness too, because attractiveness IS reflected in the quality of a person, regardless of how much emphasis you put on looks.



That's my thought, anyway.