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Aye. The best thing for you, Monique, as I see it, would be for you to continue to discover what makes you excited in life. I cannaught use the word *happy* because I can tell that your soul thrives on the side of things experimental, which pushes boundaries and invites the opportunity for new horizons.

Ye might continue to think about yer exboyfriend and the memories might conjure up the fascinatin times -- aye, tis a way of nature of us all -- but remember where ye be right now, and how you could be associatin with the current love of yer life. Know this too, that you are living with your new love, and this is never easy. I would compare it to *trying on a taste of marriage* whereas otherwise ye could be *playing out the dating game* which is suitable to some people, aye. Now me, I am satisfied to be a crotchety ol bachelor, and it fits my character well.

Ye are an authentic person, this I can tell.
An as ye be wearin the Nurses uniform, please remember to nurse yourself.

As, always, this be my own opinion. Take the best, and roll the leftovers back to me.

Sandy Gruelgrimm the Cobbler

may i ask what were your issues between u and ur ex? if they were infedelity problems...well, u made the right decision. u want to be with someone u trust completely. to explain u and ur ex's fairytale love...well, that could have been infatuation. who do u feel the most comfortable around? who satisfies your every need. who will support u in the long run...who do u want to wake up to when ur old and wrinkly? i find myself thinking about my ex all the time too. its never thoughts of "i wish i was back togther with him" though. its just as sandy said...memories. i was with him for 2 years so of course i was going to think about it. but everytime i do, i find myself saying "you know what Lindsay, you were never really happy with this man were you? he didnt complete you like your best friend does. and im always wondering if he really loves me like he says routinely everyday. im always worried if he will cheat on me."
when i broke up with my ex, it was the most painful thing i have ever done in my life but you know what?....it was the SMARTEST. i am currently with the man of my dreams and he is my best friend also. we got along better than me and my ex when we were togther. i know what i need in a man, and so should you. that is why i left the ex. my best friend was doing everything that my ex wasnt...strange huh...so i decided it was time to let him go and be with my best friend who knew me more than my own boyfriend...now thats sad! so yeah....think about your future and your needs. i know u will make the right choice.