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Well, today I was awoken by the usual sound of swearing and cursing (plus, the sound of Mexican Festival music, which gets me up quicker than anything else so I can turn it off). Then, I go back to sleep, only to be disturbed again by the phone. I pick it up because it said it was the school district my sisters go to school under, and find out that its Sarah, my sister, saying that she needs money (she always needs money) for her field trip today; which she has not told anybody this. It was really aggrivating because my mother was on her way back home from dropping her off.

Now please take into account, that my mother is an extrememly emotional person, mainly due to high amounts of stress, because everybody in the family, except for me it seems, needs her to do something for them that they can easily do themselves. However, they depend on her to do their work for them. Example to this: My sister, Sarah, has been refusing to take the bus to school and has my mom drop her off every morning. Now, doesn't seem too bad or extreme, except Sarah's blaitant excuse is that she has to be there "early" so she can do her clubs' activities. However, the bus itself, comes by at 6:30 and arrives at school exactly at 7:00. Sarah at this time is just getting up and then makes our mother take her to school, so she won't get in trouble ( she's already spent more free days in her first semester this year than I have in 2 years when I was in High School). So, my mom, trying to get ready for work hears that suddenly my sister needs money for her field trip after she a already dropped off and gets understandably stressed.

Now my sister is one of those use-anybody-until-they-break-types and is not taking the bus mainly because (she admits this) to squeeze a car out of my parents. Even though, they had both said to me that I have to buy my own car and insurance, which I'm saving for. Now, most families at least have a car for each parent. But, one has been in the shop for 3 months now. In other words we all share one car. So, we ALL (mom, dad, and I) have to go out of our way to give Sarah money for a trip she didn't tell anybody about and go back on with our lives to work and school. My mother will now be late again, for the countless time, my father will have missed the bus to get to his work. Now, my mom will have to drive him to work and be incredably late to work herself, which they might fire her soon because she can't get to work on time. Plus, she didn't have much a weekend either because, both my sisters needed something out of her as well. Sarah, had forgotten her tip money from her own job, at the restaurant so my mom had to go and get it. And Katie, my other sister has a power point project, which our mom does for her, because Katie won't do it herself. And now today mom, has to finish it for her and make sure its turned in by today, and is still not finished.

Most people, would say well where's the dad to help, or make things easier and smoother. Well, he's playing games on the computer at home or out playing Ping Pong with his friends and not doing a damn thing when he should be helping. I would help, except I have school and a job myself, and I'm usually one of the first people to leave the house, and the last to come home. Plus, I don't have a car to help even if I did have the free time. So, mom is stuck doing all the jobs in the house for everyone and was crying to work today because nobody can help themselves. Plus, everytime I did offer some advice such as "Why don't you just make Sarah ride the bus?" and "If Katie can't do her project on time then it'll just have to be late" My father, while in the car, gives me this angry look and flicks and quietly flicks me off, as my mom sits there sobbing and driving and my dad isn't coming to her to make her feel better either. I basically try to help this situation at home by staying out of the way and being self-reliant but things like this still happen.

This is just a sample as to how things go on and on.

Is it crazy to get negative feedback for trying to help a problem? Or is it just insane to let things go and not have them fixed?

My house and family seem to be degrading lower and lower and everything just seems to be getting worse.

Does anyone have any suggestions?