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I saw you inquiry for advice. I have no advice to offer you, but I do have the support of being in the same situation.

I am young, my boyfriend or friend with benefits as we call each other for the sake of not being serious, is 30, once divorced, and in the military; almost a total unstable foundation. Yet he is the sweetest most wonderful man in the world to me, but his roommate is a 40 year old looking woman who wont let him go, or maybe he doesnt want to her go, I dont know. She is the total opposite of me. Mean, invasive, disrespectful, messy, ect at least from the impressions I have of her. For 3 weeks I nearly lived at his house and he treated me like I was his queen, yet the weekend she was to come back from her vaction, this weekend past, he suddenly became distant. He barely touched me.

Then she came back... That was Sunday. First, she used his phone to txt me and trick me into coming over, then she yelled and cursed and was totally rude the whole time I was there. Now he barely talks to me. I havent seen him since Saturday. He seems to not even care that I exist anymore. I am so confused. On one hand, I want to move on, but in my heart I cant. He says he doesnt want to be serious so I am making myself not be, but I feel like Im losing him even as a friend and it hurts. Soon, I dont think I'll even cross his mind anymore....

So I know how you feel. I wish the best for you and me. Thanks for listening