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 Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 5:58 pm
So what are your views on it? I'm completely smitten with this one girl, but she lives so far away. I'm in Cali and she's living over in Wisconsin and I would totally go see her, but I'm currently poor and need to save for a car. I have thought about the whole dating her though online and stuff, but I don't know. So yeah anyways any thoughts people out there in the virtual world?
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:04 pm
I know a few people that have made it work. One is a couple, who are now married and have a beautiful 1 year old son. He lived in Washington, and she lived in the UK. They met here on gaia. I think it could work if you want it too, and if you have a strong enough bond, to deal with the distance.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:15 pm
Anything that is worth the time spent on it will work out if both parties want it hard enough to. I know there is this one lady and she lives in another state from me, but I do want to see what will happen. I just wish her and I talked more though.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:16 pm
I think it can be a positive thing, depending on who the person is. Strong feelings can develop online, the same way they can in person. In my experience, I've found it to be positive as long as you are safe with what you do online and are completely sure of your feelings.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:16 pm
I think it depends on the people. I know some pretty sweet success stories with online dating that just turned out so well. But there are those people that want to have that amazing online relationship, but they don't seem the right people to share that with, since it's easy to lie over a computer.
So there's a risk either way, but I would say go for it and if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out. That's just the way things are.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:44 pm
It can work but first, there are a lot of things to take into consideration.
Some people find it easier to lie about themselves, they tell you one thing about themselves and it might be differentiated in real life. It's easy to put on a mask to someone who doesn't have the opportunity to see you face to face. For example, you might think you are talking to a sixteen year old when in fact it could be a fifty year old predator, it's unlikely but anything is possible so be sure to play it safe.
I am giving you this advice because I managed to attract a stalker at one point and he wouldn't give up until he was put behind bars.
negative note aside over with!
To some people it can be a bonus to meet on the net first, it might make a person more comfortable to get to know someone online first before meeting in real life. It's a good way to get to know someone to tell the truth, I met all of my boyfriends well, now exes... but, I met them on the net before I met them for real. We met on facebook through an anime convention.
Another thing to think about, if it's long distance...
Will you be able to deal with being so far apart from your lover? it can be difficult depending on the couple but it does work for some.
I personally would prefer to date in real life rather than date through a messaging system but just meeting someone that way is a different issue.
regardless, no matter you choose e-dating or real life I wish you happiness!
edit:
Oh, and to make things easier for otaku there is a dating site out there called maiotaku.com
It even helps you locate others in your area.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 7:20 pm
I've done it for years. I mean on and off. Calling the person, having web cams also help the relationship. In fact those make it easier. If you don't have those...then don't bother. A "text" only relationship is not going to last if you can't hear or see each other. I speak from experience. My last relationship lasted over a year, we called, we had cam. But since we both were on opposite ends of the country. That and an age issue also got in the way. So we both agreed to end it. *shrugs* And that's that. I send my best of luck to anyone that can keep it lasting for more then a year.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 8:10 pm
I know I'm saving up to possible make a visit in person to see the person I'm interested in. I just hope I can get enough saved up within the next year. This year is shot for saving towards it because I have to save up for a car.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2011 11:45 am
I don't understand e-relationships. For me, part of a relationship is the touching, the courting, and things like that. If I met someone online close enough to be able to do things together besides Skype, then yeah, but without the courting and stuff, I can't see myself being in a relationship like that that would work.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2011 11:54 am
XD lets see....I've been dating my hubby for 13 months...Talked on the phone with him atleast 150 hours a month, sends over 1000 texts per month and can spend over 12 hours on webcam a night just looking at eachother...
Online relationships can be hard, but If you really think you have something go for it! If something goes wrong...well atleast you tried!
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2011 2:53 pm
My boyfriend and I have been dating online for three years now and we met right here on gaia ^^ He lives in New York and Im in Washington State. So really, were on opposite sides of the U.S but we're making it work. We text everyday and call each other as often as we can. We've even made plans to go to college together once we both can. Of course with every relationship there are problems. Our happen to be distance and living arrangments. We do plan to move in together but neither of us really want to leave our home town, we'd be pretty far away from our family, you know?
All in all, I'd say were making it work pretty well. If your commited and determined I think you two could pull it off too ^^
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Posted: Wed Jul 27, 2011 5:46 am
I think they work better if you live some-what close by. Me and my boyfriend are a couple and he lives in Ohio and i live in illinois. We understand one another, laugh and love each other deeply. We are planning on see each other someday soon hopefully and i've been with him for over a year now. We are very comfy with each other too, we can talk about anything. whee
Yes relationships need some physical things like touchy touchy but i'd say talking with them first is the best thing, helps not make physical mistakes you might regret later. wink
Take all the time you want, there is no rush for loooove~ I think i can work <3 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2011 4:04 pm
Biyanka I don't understand e-relationships. For me, part of a relationship is the touching, the courting, and things like that. If I met someone online close enough to be able to do things together besides Skype, then yeah, but without the courting and stuff, I can't see myself being in a relationship like that that would work. This And we both rock the pink and bluish outfits very well ^_^
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2011 4:35 pm
I think that they can work, but, it takes a lot of effort to make it so. When I was in high school, I had an online boyfriend for almost 2 years. I ended up ending it because I just felt like I was robbing him of great experiences. The love wasn't lost, but, it turned out to be a good thing for him.
Now, I've got my sights set on a very special someone. I know, I know, I'm married IRL but, that's going down the tubes quickly. This online someone special is just amazing and I'm very interested to see how things go with that.
With online relationships, you have to take into account that at some point you're going to need to see them for real. So, in my opinion, if you live in the US and your online significant other lives in England, you need to make sure that at some point in time, you'll be able to meet up and see how the chemistry goes. It's more reasonable to expect an online relationship between two people from the same country will work or last much better than a e-courtship between two people from two totally different countries...or continents.
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2011 5:09 pm
They work depending on how willing you and the other person are to make it work.
-points to siggy- I live in California and I fell in love with this amazing guy who lives in Florida. We're planning our first meeting for next summer and have both been commited to make it last as long as possible. I've spoken with him quite a number of times over the phone (something I would recommend if things seem to be going well.) so I know he isn't some kind of 50-year old predator.
There can be less ups and downs in an e-relationship, but it is very easy to lose the person or be cheated on, so you should make sure to find a way to earn their true trust before you make your decision. It is EXTREMELY hard dealing with the distance because there are certain things that you can't do together through text. So if you choose the path of an online relationship, be warned that the path can be more frozen than it looks.
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