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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 3:48 pm
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 11:24 pm
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Not-So-Sweet Transvestite
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 11:25 pm
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Posted: Fri Jan 20, 2006 7:25 pm
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 11:21 am
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Mooshakes squire to fools The Armored Rose is a very valid resource for the female fighter. There are lots of physical references which can save her countless tears, injuries, and inconveniances along the road. However, the psychological references are outdated and generally don't apply to today's figher. Read it. However, don't take it as gospel. I know a fighter or two who wipes the floor with the author on any given day. Um, the psychological references are outdated??? Definately not. I have everyone of the hurdles in the book. I am afraid to hit other people, I am ashamed of being hit, I feel like it is a boy's game, I avoid large fights with people I don't know, and I feel like fighting is something I just can't do.
As much as the hurdles are influenced by culture those parts of culture that have taught me to be like this haven't gone away. I haven't gone to a practice in months but I still re-read the book because of it's psychological references and the solutions to them.
Do we know what "generally" means?
When I started fighting I was excited as hell to compete with the boys (and still am). When I got hit, I felt a bit foolish, because I wasn't blocking, but it's a lesson. Don't let him/her hit you there again. I have no problem hitting other people, so long as they're in armor. I've never been in an unarmored or anger-inspired fight in my life. I'm a very peacable and laid-back person. But when I'm in armor I do all in my power to kill my opponant before he or she kills me.
I experienced the shame hurdle once, though. Two weeks ago I had a really bad practice. I was trying really hard, but I just couldn't fight for s**t that day. It happens, and an experienced fighter knows to shrug it off. But I'd had a really good practice the week before, and with the lack of sleep (probably the cause for the bad practice) it was getting to me. When I was fighting my trainer (pelican and chivalry) I was judging myself so harshly that I was afraid he'd stop working with me, and I started crying. He dropped his guard and asked me what the problem was. Having trained a number of women, he knew tears could mean anything. Knowing my fears were unfounded, I spoke them so he'd know where my head was. He gave me a reassuring talk and then asked if I was ready to go on. I was, but I still felt shitty. Later I took the first stick-to-skin shot at full speed, and my eyes welled up. The guy who hit me told me I was done, and to go armor down.
This was the only time I felt shame. I have a huge strong-enough complex, and being told by a man that I was finished felt like I wasn't strong enough to play with the boys, and that they knew it.
Once I'd calmed down this feeling went away, and the following practice was another good one, in which I killed a goodly number of people and didn't let them kill me quite so much.
My primary trainer's lady, also a chick-fighter, is a friend of the author of The Armored Rose (whose name now escapes me). She said that when she was growing up, girls did not compete against boys. Beating a boy at something was bad. Boys were taught that there is no higher shame than losing to a girl, so a girl winning at anything was hurtful to everyone involved. However, girls in my generation were not taught these things. We were allowed to play with boys on a more even keel. Boys still teased each other for losing to a girl, but any girl in earshot set them streight.
Beyond actual upbringing, the life of the female fighter twenty years ago was significantly different from her life today. Then men could and did refuse to fight women. Today there are a few, but it's not considered a good thing to do. There a female fighter was an outcast. Today, she might not be accepted or honored as highly (but then again she might), but she has the company of other women. Last week my group's fighter practice feilded almost all women. My mom and I were the first ones on the field and the last ones off.
If those hurdles are still problems for you, work through them as you must. But don't assume that all women have them. Most female fighters under thirty didn't have an issue when they started.
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 11:22 am
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Posted: Thu Feb 16, 2006 2:45 pm
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Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2006 1:00 am
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Posted: Tue Feb 21, 2006 12:36 pm
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Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2006 2:47 pm
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Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2006 6:10 pm
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Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2006 6:27 pm
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Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:29 pm
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