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ok heres the deal.(im using my message from my journal)

well some strange messed up things happened during the holiday... This guy kept saying some really messed up stuff all holiday to my girlfriend that just got her depressed bigg time and the stuff that was said was just sickning. and then for the end of the holidays like the day we came back all of a sudden he never said any of it and that just made her worse and at first I thought she had enough of it and saw what was really going on but she is kind of trusting to people and she seems to be giving him one more chance to stop but he has not stopped yet and he is only enjoying her pain it seems at times and it makes me sick and if I didnt know it would make her upset and I would get into alot of troublt I would hvae told him to back off bigg time but he has already used his little connections with his family to help stop that from happening hes related to the princliples at school and if I would even just go to him and tell him to stop and that what hes going is sick and she doesnt deserve that stuff I would probably go to PASS or be exspelled just like that. what the guy is doing to her is just sick and i ant stand it and she is beleiving his story that he never did any of it but he told her that strait up and I cant see how she would think that it wouldnt be him when it was obviously him the entire time... What he is doing is sickning but I know he will keep his sick little prank up and sooner or later she will see what hes doing and put an end to him and I really hope its alot sooner than later cause all hes been doing is making her misserable for weeks and even months... This junk has to stop and his sick little game has to stop... its like the only way he will stop is when me and her are not even friends anymore and not even talking to each other and he uses her to his amusement and then he will just throw her by the waste-side and leave her feeling like sheit and worse than ever. im worried for her all the guy does is say one thing and do something and then all of a sudden its something completely different and it makes me sick and this guy has to stop...
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I want to know if theirs anything you can think of that will make her realize what hes doing and anything you can think of for me to help her a little more... the guy is using her and acting like its a game or something... the guy is not sane ill say that much... this guy needs to be stopped from doing this and it seems this is not the first time he has done this before... and whats worse is that his older brother is on this too and I beleive one of his friends... something is just wrong with these people they taking this girl and just messing with her head and she is very close to me and im not sure what to do right now. so please give me advise and some kind of help about this. cause This really needs to stop and something needs to be done about this... this guy is not right right now and he needs to back off from her.,..

I'm not really sure how this relates to percussion, let alone band in general. I suggest taking this thread to the life issues sub-forum in Gaia's public forums.

I don't care if this is in the wrong place or not. No. 1, use periods and commas. They are you're friends an by the looks of it are very lonely right now. No. 2, just sit down and talk to the guy, don't do it out in the open, don't do it loudly, and don't call attention to yourself. Also don't try and make it obvious that it was youwho talked with him so the girl will notice you and/or will make you seem like a hero, because that usually make you look over dramatic/ a douche bag. tell him to cut it out or you're going to kick his a** and iff he whines to his parents and gets you expelled, he has absolutely no balls. If you get in trouble for any of this, talk to your band director, he can help.