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I have a conundrum regarding my mother's irresponsibility (I've mentioned this many times before). My mom said she would buy groceries for the family today after she gets her paycheck but, once again, she hasn't fallen on her word. I've checked the kitchen and there really isn't any food at all. Like, no food.

One option I have is I do have my current earnings for my grocery budget next month (I don't work next month and I was planning to use the entire month to work on my design portfolio and search for jobs) and I have my emergency savings (currently about 100 USD since I just fixed up the fiasco that my mom did to my accounts). I could easily buy food for the family, though probably for only about a week before it severely hurts my grocery budget for the entire month of January.

However, if I purchase food, my mother will know that I have money and will do everything to get me to pay for anything else and I can't do that; I can't afford to pay for anything else, and I'd like to keep savings intact (because that's what savings are for). My psychologist would tell me to do what I need to do first before helping out my immediate family, but it's still a conundrum.

I know that's what I need to do, but the thought of essentially having my aunt and my sisters, who haven't done anything, potentially have no food is a really bad thought.

Yeah, I know, and I know that they understand that (because they told me themselves). It's still an uncomfortable feeling regardless.

Alrighty... I guess I'll just have fun here then, as odd-feeling as it is, it's better than other ideas.

feed yourself for a few days by eating outwards, then she either has to do the same, or buythose groceries..no?

Buy ramen for everyone and say it's all you can afford and store some better food in your room. You don't want them to starve, but you can't let your mother take advantage of you. Give them bare essentials but keep ragging on her because it's not your responsibility to take care of everyone else (at least I don't think so). she has money, she needs to buy food. Food is even more important than bills (in extreme cases). She can't NOT buy food. Tell her to stop buying other crap. That's rediculous.

Maybe you could try to be sneaky...if there is some sort of food you love but that your mom hates...you could buy that ...and only that? Then people can eat..you wont feel bad and your mom will eventually get off her a**, right?

I've already decided not to give in. But I do worry about my sisters though. I'm hoping my mom won't be so dense as to actually not provide any kind of nourishment at all.