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 Posted: Sat Oct 04, 2008 7:04 pm
[Introduction]
I'm Capri, by now you all know who I am, though I have changed my name a time or two xD
This is a pretty straight forward thread.
||Take what you need and leave the rest||
In here there will be a list of useful resources that are free for all to use.
Anything that helps you you are welcome to.
It is updated as often as information comes to me from whatever sources, be it other Gaians or information that I stumble across or come up with on my own.
Feel free to forward information to me that has helped you that you want to share with others.
I apologize now if the information starts to get out of order it's bound to happen when the post box-thingies get full xD
Also there is A LOT of information. I won't apologize for that though. I've read them and use them 
That's as far as introductions will go.|i|Links To Resources|i|{Roleplay 101} by - Electric KoolAid
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Posted: Sat Oct 04, 2008 7:23 pm
[Resources:Characters] ❣ ||Normal||[x] Make the characters seem vivid, real, alive.
[x] Simple tool for organizing thoughts about character and keeping track of a particular idiosyncrasies and relationships.
[x] Not every element of the profile will be useful, always pay attention to the requested information from GM.
[x] Filling out profile in entirety helps in getting to know a character.
[x] Feel free to change the fields to anything that is more useful to your needs and you can even send them to me to share smile
✎ Rei's Profile Hints and Help: Incomplete but still very helpful.One Option [x]General
Real Name:
Known Name:
Race:
Social Rank: (Position in a social hierarchy; dependent on wealth, education)
Age:
Sexual Preference:
Educational Background:
Occupation:
[x]Physical Appearance
Height:
Weight:
Eye Color:
Hair Color, Length, Quality:
Skin Tone, Skin Type:
Tattoos:
Bone Structure:
Body Type:
Glass/Contact Lens:
Face Shape:
[x]Background Information
Mother’s Name:
Father’s Name:
Sibling’s Name(s):
Spouse: (How they met etc)
Place of Birth:
Early Childhood Experience:
Fondest Memory:
Past the character wishes they could change:
Weaknesses:
Strengths:
Fears:
Dreams/Wishes:
Habits:
Health:
[x]Personality
More introvert or Extrovert: (Elaborate)
More charitable or vain: (Elaborate)
More emotional or logical: (Elaborate)
Thinker or Feeler: (More likely to think a problem though or go on instinct)
Listens to other’s thought/opinions/suggestions: (Elaborate)
Leader or Follower: (Elaborate)
Good intuition: (Elaborate)
Social Disorders: (Extreme shyness, sociopath, etc)
Three good traits:
Three bad traits:
[x]Journey
Character aware of strengths?:
Character aware of flaws?:
Does character want to change?:
Will character attempt to change?:
Will character have to face their fears?:
Who/What will help them on their journey?:
Who/What will hinder them on their journey?:
When/Where/How will the character’s personal journey begin?: (Not necessarily beginning of story)
When/Where/How will the character’s personal journey end?: (Not necessarily end of story) Quote: [x]Homeworld Characteristics
Climate: (Cold, hot, tropical?)
Environment: (Forest, Ocean, Desert)
Air breathable by Humans?:
Location of planet:
Name of Homeworld:
Approx. age of homeworld:
Major Cities:
Why are these cities important?:
Other important facts
[[x]Society
Population:
Capable of space travel?:
Number of planets colonized:
What items does this race consider highly valuable?:
[x]Species Characteristics
Name of Species?:
Body structure (Humanoid, Reptillian, etc):
Height:
Hair Color:
Describe appearance:
Do the males look different from females?: (If yes,, describe how.)
Average Lifespan:
Herbivore, Carnivore, or Omnivore?:
Describe any natural weapons they have:
Any other special powers or evolutionary curiosities?:
How does this species reproduce?:
How often do they reproduce?:
How many offspring are typically produced?:
What are they afraid of?:
[x]Abilities
Languages:
Advantages:
Disadvantages:
Quirks:
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Posted: Sat Oct 04, 2008 7:49 pm
[Resources: Organizations] ❣ ||Societies, Factions, Organizations||
[x] This is a general, but detailed template for any type of secret (or public) groups, societies, organizations and cults. Everything you can think of from founders, to rules, to punishments, to credence, to hierarchy and history.
[x] Again all fields may or may not apply.
[x] Feel free to change the fields to anything that is more useful to your needs and you can even send them to me to share smile Option [x]General
Name of group/society/cult:
Estimate of total members:
Alignment: Good, Evil, or Neutral
Public group or secret?:
Founders/Leaders
[x]Founder/Leader(s)
Age(s) when they founded/lead group:
Reason for forming/leading group:
Founder's/leader's short-term goals:
Founder'/Leader's long-term goals:
Founder's/Leader's creed and ideals:
Are the founder/leader(s) feared? Loved by group?:
Why?:
If founder is deceased, does the group still follow his/her ideals?:
If not, why?:
[x]History
How old is this group? (Ancient? New?):
How was group formed?:
Is this group stable or unstable?: (high turnover, fighting, shift in leaders, etc)
If unstable, why?:
How is group ran presently? :
Is it the same now as it was when this group began?:
If not, why?:
[x]General Hierarchy
Is there a second rank?:
Is this position called something special?:
What are their duties?:
How did they receive their position?:
Is there a third rank?:
Is this position called something special?:
What are their duties?:
How did they receive this position?:
How is one promoted within the hierarchy?:
How can one be demoted within the hierarchy?:
Are there separate ranks for warriors, mages or priests?:
[x]Membership
How does one become a member of this group?:
So members take an oath, or is membership more casual?:
Can membership be revoked?:
If so, under what grounds?:
How are new members treated?:
[x]Rules and laws
What are the rules of this group?:
What is the reasoning behind these rules?:
What is the punishment for disobeying these rules?:
Do these rules come from the leader, or a higher power?:
Where are the rule located? A book? Tablet? Scroll?:
Do all members have a copy of the rules?:
If not, where can they go to access laws?:
[x]Attire
What attire does the founder/leaders wear?:
What do regular members wear?:
Any sigels, distinguishing marks, tattoos, badges?:
If so, describe them in detail. (Location of marks, shape, color):
Any other special accessories? Jewelry, armor, headwear? Banners?:
Magic Users: (do they have their own attire? Describe it in detail)
[x]Rivals
Does this group have enemies?:
Who are they?:
Why are they enemies?:
How long have they been fighting?:
[x]Religion
If any, name the religion this group follows:
What God or Goddess?:
How does group worship as a whole?:
How do individual members worship?:
Commandments or laws of the religion:
Punishment (or hypothetical punishment) for breaking laws:
Does group have a high priest or leading religious sect?:
If so, what are they called?:
What are their duties?:
How do they fit within the hierarchy of group? High, low?:
[x]Magic and Special Skills
What magic or skill does leader or founder wield?:
Is this magic/skill special? Why?:
Are magic/skills a focal point of this group?:
If so, why?:
Can any member perform magic?:
If not, why?:
Are members/high ranking members expected to have certain skills? Describe skills in detail: What they are, who has them, and why)
Are there special trainers who teach magic/skills within the group?:
If so, teacher's rank within the group?:
Are there special tests a member must take to qualify as a student?:
If so, what are they?:
Are there special tests a member must take to complete training?:
If so, what are they?:
[x]Weapons
Does group have a reputation for using weapons?:
What weapons does this group wield?:
Does leader or founder(s) have special weapons?:
If so, what are they?:
What system does group have to train its warriors?:
[x]Funding
How does group fund itself? Details.
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Posted: Sat Oct 04, 2008 9:07 pm
[Resources: Worlds & Settings] ❣ ||Places||
[x] This is where you can write important info on planets/worlds you made up.
[x] Again all fields may or may not apply.
[x] Feel free to change the fields to anything that is more useful to your needs and you can even send them to me to share smile Option [x]World Features
Name of World/Planet:
Air breathable by Humans?:
Location of planet:
Approx. age of World:
Major Cities:
Why are these cities important?:
Other important facts:
Continents (Names):
Other important facts
[x]Problems/Conflict
Is the planet under pressure of some kind?:
If so, how?:
Biggest problem this planet has had:
How did this planet handle it?:
[x]Life on planet
Is there water on this planet?:
Do any type of species live on this planet?:
If so, name them:
Do any made-up creatures live on this planet?:
If yes, describe:
Do any magical creatures live in this world?:
If so, describe:
Other info
[x]Human Society
Do humans live on the planet?:
Any magicians? (a.k.a. wizards, witches, sorcerers, ect.):
If so, name some:
Governmental Structure (Democracy, Dictatorship, etc) :
Describe how the planet's government works:
Describe any festivals or holidays:
Does this planet have a justice system?:
If so, how does it work?:
If no, why not?:
How do most individuals spend their days?:
Other info
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Posted: Sat Oct 04, 2008 10:11 pm
[Resources: Descriptions] ❣ ||Random Introduction||[x]Setting is the place and time where your story is set. It could be a different planet in the far future, present-day rural Northumberland, or 14th century Egypt.
If you think your descriptive writing may be getting repetitive or you have difficulty describing, then remember this - when someone reads your story, they will be forming their own personal picture of how your world will look in their own head. Maybe you only need to give them enough raw data to let their imagination get going. Try it, you may find that your writing flows better as well.
If you’re writing action / fight / battle scenes and are having trouble describing the scenes a good starting point is to watch a movie with some good fighting scenes in and then go away and describe what you’ve just seen. (Gladiator is an excellent example of historical one-on-one and mass combat battles.)
The following is going to be an insane and intense smash of information that I stumbled across and saved to my jump drive ages ago. I rarely direct people to it in its entirety but rather cut out whatever I want them to know or find useful. I'm going to cut it down as much as I can to bullet points.
I should Google a paragraph, bound to give me a link back to its original author. -=chintap=-
You have been warned, it's A LOT to read.❣ ||Setting||[x] Always be knowledgeable of where your story takes place. What would you see, hear, smell, feel, taste?
[x] Example 1: I lifted my face, letting the light and shadow dance across my skin. Bees hummed in and out of the pennyroyal. I inhaled its minty smell and continued on, delighting in the sound of my feet sliding through the leaves.
[x] Example 2: (Simile) The trees lashed and crashed against each other like drum sticks in the hands of a giant.
[x] Example 3: (Metaphor) The trees stood utterly still, statues in a living museum where no leaf dared to fall.The Art of Description: Eight Tips to Help You Bring Your Settings to Life Description is something that gets in the way of many authors. Why? Well, because it's so darn hard to write. And no wonder. If you're not careful, descriptive sequences can become static, even dull. Writing action and dialogue is so much more fun. On top of that, description incorporates so many elements. It doesn't just cover describing the setting -- it also involves descriptions of the characters' clothes and appearance, the "props" your characters use, the weather, and so forth.
If you're not very accomplished at writing description, then sometimes you might want to avoid writing it. But then, you can wind up with stories where people wander vague hallways or buildings, and readers don't get a sense of time or place from your story. A story without enough description is missing something. People who read a story that's lacking in description might ask "Where does this take place? Are there buildings around them?" I must admit that often happens when people look at my early drafts.
At the same time, some writers err in the other direction, including too much description. They fall in love with their setting and can't help tell the readers about it. And tell and tell. This can impede the flow of the narrative. Imagine readers skimming your book in the store. If they see pages and pages describing the castle grounds, or the chic hotel, they will probably put it down and pick up someone else's book instead.
How bad is bad description? Think of bad description as being like that teacher who droned on and on and put the class to sleep. Good description is more like the teacher who got students involved by using anecdotes and making the class interactive. You don't want the descriptive passages in your story to put your readers to sleep, do you?[.o1]Avoid Huge Lumps of Description[x] Spread out you descriptions, don't toss them all in or you'll run out of things to say.
[x] It's okay to write multiple drafts feel free to describe at least one thing in every sentence. For the final cut out anything that seems like over kill.[.o2]Make Description an Active Part of the Story[x] Find ways to blend descriptions into the story. Eg: "Zara grabbed her mug and gulped it down, shivering when a few drops the ale trickled under her leather top."
[x] Descriptions should not sit there, make them move the story along, set the mood, foreshadow events or give us a sense of the character.
[x] Think of writing as scenes unrolling in a movie What do they interact with?
[x] Don't forget to trust in the intelligence of your audience. You don't have to spell everything out for them. You can make them figure out what something, or someone, looks like by dropping hints.[.o3]Describe What Your Characters Would Notice[x] If your character has been in a particular place dozens of times there are things that they will pass over, but they would notice a car the middle of a living room. It might not be this obvious and not everything might be picked up but if you were your character what would you notice?
[x] Keep in mind your character's personality, whether or not they're observant or oblivious.
[x] Think of writing as scenes unrolling in a movie What do they interact with?
[x] You always want to keep in mind setting and time period; a fantasy warrior and a medieval knight would not take note or pass of the same things.
[x] Avoid stopping the flow of your story to tell your readers all about how nice your character thinks a scene looks. Would you want to read a ramble about the rain forest? Or would you want to know what happens next? [.o4]Words, Words, Words[x] Use strong, active, concrete writing words when writing description. The stronger the writing, the better the description. Use concrete details -- such as the detail about the cold ale trickling down Zara's chest. Nouns and verbs are your friends. Adjectives and adverbs can be your friends, or your enemies, depending on how you use them.
[x] Devote time to your vocabulary. The more diverse your word bank the more diverse your writing will be.
[x] Do not riddle your writing with overly complicate words. Know when to use 'at the same time' and 'simultaneously.' Just because it's in the thesaurus, that doesn't mean it's the right word for your story.[.o5]Use All the Senses[x] Most writers tend to concentrate on sight and sound. This is natural as those are the main ways in which we observe the world. However, you can really bring a scene to life by including the other senses.
[x] The sense of smell is an important one. What's a Western romance without the smell of leather? Of course, don't forget the sense of touch -- very important in a romance, even when you aren't writing a love scene. Taste is harder to include as humans don't tend to go around tasting things unless they're eating, but be sure to include it during love scenes. BUT KEEP IT PG 13 xD
[x] Find some new way to describe the things your characters see and hear.
[x] Don't forget to describe their voices or the other sounds they hear.
[x] Try listening to people talking on the radio or listening to people on TV without looking at the picture, just to get an idea of the nuances of voice.[.o6]Fit the Description to the Type of Story[x] If you're writing an action-oriented romance, too much description will get in the way of the pace. James Bond isn't going to stop in the middle of skiing away from gun-toting spies to ponder the beauty of the Alps. He's going to get away from them.
[x] On the other hand, description will be a more important part of many slower-paced stories, for example, you might linger on descriptions of dark hallways in the old mansion and hint that there are ghosts there.[.o7]Avoid Excessive Name-dropping[x] It's all right to use brand names in stories. There are a few basic rules: 1) get the trademark correct; 2) don't use the trademark in a generic or incorrect sense; and 3) Don't portray the product in disparaging light. (In other words, don't have your characters getting food poisoning at the KFC.)
[x] While using trademarks is all right, using too many brand names is over-the-top and annoying. Don't waste valuable narrative telling your character's designer clothing, designer perfumes, expensive car, and designer pets.
[x] Don't avoid brand names altogether, however. Using brand names can be a good way to provide the reader with a quick concrete description. They provide another look into the character, setting, time, etc of what's being written.[.o8]Don't Let Description Hang You Up during a First Draft[x] Write multiple drafts and combine, cut out or add where you see fit.
[x] Read out loud. Hearing what's on paper helps to set the pace and rhythm of the writing and it's easier to pick up on misplaced or misused words.
[x] Read different material. Different author use different writing styles and different genres require different writing styles.
[x] Seek a second opinion. Find someone you're comfortable with that will help. Fresh eyes can provide invaluable insight.❣ ||Character||[x] The reader probably wants to know what your characters are like, not just what they look like, but the kind of people they are. The reader wants orientation so they know what to expect. They want to be able to predict your character’s actions, so they can tailor their responses.
Introducing a character by physical description is helpful.
[x] A new angel is to answer the questions, “What’s s/he like?” or “What kind of person is s/he?” or “What might s/he do?”
[x] Open with character’s qualities rather than appearance to give characters more personality.
Vocabulary
[x] This is always important. The more diverse your word choice the more options you have to work with.
Character Profile
[x] This is where your character profile comes in handy. Here you will add meat to the bones of that skeleton, refer back to it often as you write.
[x] As you develop the character’s profile remember to interact with your setting.
Some things than can be included
[x] What is his/her speech pattern?
[x] How does s/he move?
[x] How does s/he sound?
[x] Does s/he fidget when speaking?
[x] Suspicious?
[x] Confident?
[x] Thoughts and opinions?
[x] Dynamic or predictable?
[x] What does s/he feel?
[x] How does s/he convey emotions?
[x] Always keep in mind the character’s personality so that their actions do not seem out of place unless there is a reason. If there is a reason include that later, don’t leave readers hanging.
[x] Remember to spread out the descriptions so that you don’t overwhelm the reader or run out of things to say.
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Posted: Sun Oct 05, 2008 10:34 am
[Resources: Emotions A-D] ❣ ||Random Introduction||Okay this one I've found IMMENSELY useful!
You can't write without emotions, whether your character has them (which they should) or you want to evoke a certain reaction from whoever is reading whatever you write.
They are important.
Sometimes you might get stuck so here are some things to get you emotional juices flowing again This is a blog I found months ago by authors Becca and Angela
What is an Emotion Thesaurus?
if you draw a blank on how to show your character’s emotion through a physical action (a beat), this can help. It offers an ‘idea bank’ for the times when you get stuck. You can scroll through the lists, and see if one of the ideas sparks one of your own.
The hope is that the ideas in the thesaurus will help you think of new ways the body exhibits emotions; instead of focusing on the face or hands, maybe think of what the feet are doing, or what the body might look like from behind.❣ ||Amusement||· A quirked eyebrow or raised eyebrows
· A snort of laughter
· A chuckle, chortle or guffaw
· A wide grin
· Eyes squinting, lit with an inner glow or twinkle of mischief
· A bemused smile
· Uncontrollable laughter
· Inability to form words
· Loss of breath
· Chuckling wheezes, gasping for air
· Holding onto ones sides
· Slapping knees
· Drumming feet against the floor
· Falling against someone for support
· ‘Drunken’ behavior (weaving as you walk, reaching out for a support, struggling to stay upright)
· Repeating the punch line over and over, or a select word or phrase to spur on more laughter
· Squealing
· Eyes tearing, wiping at eyes
· Face reddening, shaking head, trying to regain control
· A high voice
· Whimpers of mirth
· Spewing food or drink if an attack of laughter hits while eating/drinking
· Falling to the ground, rolling on the floor
· Crashing into things, clumsiness but not caring
· A wide-eyed stare that gets you or others dissolving into laughter again
· Asking/begging people to stop making you laugh
· Pain in the ribs or stomach
· A loud belly laugh
· Shaking with hysteria
· A need to sit down, collapsing into a chair
· Giggling, making faces, winking
· Holding you hand up as you laugh as if to ward off more jokes or to ask for someone to stop being so funny
· A disheveled appearance as a result of giving yourself over to laughter
· Light-headedness
· Throwing your head back in a bray of laughter
· Grabbing at ribs like you have a stitch in your side
· Weakness in knees, muscles twitching
· Trying to keep a straight face but failing
· Covering mouth with a hand to hide a smile/hold in laugh
· Turning away in an attempt to regain control of features
· Cupping cheeks with hands and shaking with laughter
· Avoiding eye contact to maintain control over laughter
· Clearing throat, struggling to speak in full sentences
· Attempting to change the topic/discussion to avoid falling apart with laughter
· Making gestures in lieu of speaking because you’re unable to form words correctly
· Biting down on lip, pressing lips together to keep laughter in
· Punching someone in the arm
· Bumping shoulders with someone, giving them a good natured shake or slap on the back.❣ ||Anger||· Clenching/unclenching fists
· Nails biting into one’s palms
· Pounding fists against thighs, table, wall
· Slamming doors, cupboards, drawers
· Punching, kicking, throwing things
· Flaring temper
· Stomping, stamping
· Sitting/standing rigidly
· Body tense
· Muscles quivering
· Breathing deeply, noisily
· Nostrils flaring
· Pulse/heartbeat slowing or speeding
· Vein visibly pulsing in various body parts
· Eyes that are cold, hard, flinty
· Narrowed eyes
· Eyebrows lowering, drawing together
· Glaring
· Reddened face
· Jaw clenching
· Grinding teeth
· Scowling, sneering, frowning
· Smiles that don't reach the eyes
· Laughter with an edge
· Yelling
· Snapping at people
· Talking in a carefully controlled tone
· Voice shaking
· Sarcasm
· Picking fights (verbal or physical)
· Irrational reactions to inconsequential things
· Demanding immediate action
· Jumping into things without thinking
· Taking inappropriate risks
Old anger cliches with a new twist:
· Glaring: She gave me a look that would wither a cornstalk at 50 paces.
· Angry eyes: Her eyes are like the lit end of a cigarette, burning into me.❣ ||Annoyance||
· A pinched expression
· An exaggerated sigh
· ‘Taking over’ out of impatience “Here, I’ll do it.”
· Narrowing eyes
· Crossing arms
· Tapping a foot
· A ‘tell’ like a twitch, a vein throbbing in the forehead, pressing down on lips, making a fine line, etc
· Grinding teeth together
· A grimace, sneer or frown
· Folding arms across chest
· A cocked head, raised eyebrows and a blank or glassy gaze
· Rolling the eyes, flicking gaze upward
· A shake of the head
· Shuffling feet, moving from foot to foot, shifting weight or position
· Propping head up with fist
· Holding head in hands
· Opening mouth to say something and only just stopping yourself from criticizing
· Taking a deep breath and holding it in
· Clenched jaw
· Tapping fingers on tabletop, against leg more forceful than necessary
· A smile that slips, a faked smile
· Having to force oneself to remain in the presence of another, faking interest, holding impatience at bay
· Making an excuse to leave
· Pulling someone else into the conversation in order to divert attention and exit
· Snapping a pencil, clutching at a glass, white-fingered grip on something, fighting to stay calm
· Straying attention, looking for escape route
· Pacing
· Sarcasm
· Veiled criticism
· A sharpening tone, using short phrases when speaking, clipped answers
· Visible tension in the neck, shoulders, arms
· Rigid posture
· Nodding, but with a tightness to it, like one is holding back from saying something
· Throwing hands up
· Rubbing brow as if to ward off a headache
· Avoiding looking at person, staring downward
· Pressing a fist to the mouth
· Fidgeting
· ‘Attacking’ a task, diverting energy into an activity in order to keep self from showing anger, having something to do to keep hands and thoughts busy & impatience at a manageable level.❣ ||Anticipation||· Sweaty palms
· Fluttery, empty feeling in stomach
· Breathlessness
· Trembling hands, crossing/uncrossing legs
· Frantic planning for the event
· List-making
· Can't think/talk about anything else
· Fear that something will happen to screw things up
· Loss of sleep
· Lack of concentration
· So focused on upcoming event that other important things are neglected
· Day-dreaming
· Fantasizing/building up event far beyond its reality
· An inability to sit still, fidgeting
· Becoming self-critical (questioning clothing choices, event preparation, etc),wanting everything to go perfectly
· Biting lip
· Bouncing on toes
· Bright-eyed, engaged
· Twisting hands together, fussing with clothes, rearranging things
· Waiting at a window, hovering at the door or by the phone
· Checking/rechecking hair, make up in a mirror
· Gossiping with others, sharing excitement, giggling
· Closing eyes and squealing
· Drumming feet against the floor
· Covering face, then peeking
· Asking questions: "How long? When? What is it?"
· Wetting lips
· Closing eyes and sighing
· Pacing
· Rhythmic movements (swinging legs back and forth, sweeping hair back from face, legs crossed & bouncing a foot to an internal beat)
· Repeated glances at a phone or door
· Obsessive clock-watching
· Checking and rechecking email
· Grabbing onto another person and saying, "Tell me!"
· Leaning in toward others, showing interest
· Tingling all over
· Picking at food, too excited to eat
· Begging someone for details, an answer, for a look at something, etc❣ ||Confidence/Pride||· Shoulders back, chest out, chin lifted
· Walking with a swagger, sauntering
· A gleam in one’s eye, an inner light
· Smiling, a knowing or playful grin
· Winking or giving someone an easy nod
· Appearing relaxed, at ease (hands in pockets, drumming fingers against a leg, humming)
· Looking people directly in the eye
· Using slow exaggerated movements to draw attention to oneself
· A booming laugh
· Speaking boisterously, enthusiastically
· Offering witty commentary
· Giving a half-shrug and a grin that conveys agreement or ‘secret’ knowledge
· Light-hearted teasing
· Flirting
· Comfortable being in close proximity to others or initiating contact
· Telling jokes, adding to or steering a conversation
· Hosting an event or activity (a BBQ, getting the guys together for a football game, inviting others to be with you)
· Bragging, obsessively talking about an achievement or material object (winning a game, a new car, etc), showing off
· Reacting with anger or jealousy if reputation is impugned
· An open stance when dealing with people
· Appearing unaffected, unbothered by what others may think
· Doing or saying things outside of the norm without anxiety or concern
· Leaning in to talk or listen
· Good eye contact
· Lots of physical contact, touchy-feely
· Running hands through hair, flipping hair
· Assuming a pose that's sexy, appealing, or draws attention to one's best attributes
· Wearing clothes that are flashy or dramatic❣ ||Confusion||· Brows drawing together
· Lines forming between the eyebrows
· Head tilting to the side
· Eyes narrowing
· Gaze clouding, going distant
· Frowning
· Biting lip
· Hands touching lips, mouth, face
· Glance darting around, head turning, as if looking for answers
· Mind churning, working rapidly
· Mind freezing, unable to work
· Wandering a short distance before returning
· Turning back on messenger to gather thoughts
· Moving blindly, mind on other things
· Pursed lips while tilting head to the side
· A slight shake of the head
· Repeating a question, response, etc of another person
· Opening mouth but not speaking, or opening and closing the mouth several times before forming words
· Using ‘word filler’ to stall for time (“Well…” or “Hold it a sec…” etc)
· Running hands through hair
· Swallowing excessively
· Pinching the bridge of the nose, closing eyes
· Taking a deep breath and puffing cheeks while letting it out again slowly
· A blank look, a slack expression
· Wilting posture
· Taking extra time to react (slowly finding a seat, distractedly reaching out for something or responding to stimulus—doorbell, ringing phone)
· Pacing
· Staring down at the ground or hands in lap, etc
· Scratching at cheek, rubbing chin
· Asking for affirmation: “Are you sure?”
· Tapping fist against lips lightly while thinking
· Denial—shaking head, repeating “No”, warding someone off to not speak or come closer.❣ ||Contentment||· Relaxed posture
· Slow easy breathing
· Smiling
· Fingers loosely clasped together on lap
· Eyes closed, head tipped back, calm features
· Being with others and with no need to fill silence with words
· Taking enjoyment from the world around (a park, people watching, kids playing baseball, etc)
· An urge to sit back and soak in the sounds and sight around you
· Having no desire to be anywhere else
· Nodding to others in greeting
· Leaning back, an arm hooked over the back of a chair
· Enjoying listening to others
· Taking a deep satisfied breath
· Using a friend’s shoulder as a shelf for your elbow
· An unforced laugh
· Sparkling eyes, a weightless gaze
· Grinning
· Swaying to music, relaxing or displaying interest and enjoyment of a venue (a movie, a concert in the park, a picnic)
· Lying on the grass to soak up the sun
· Catlike stretching
· A warm voice, caring tone
· Crossing arms over chest
· Eyes half-closed, a lidded look of satisfaction
· A feeling of connection to life
· Lacing fingers behind head
· A wide stance, open demeanor
· Slack muscles, loose limbs, no big or fast movements
· Rolling neck back and forth and smiling
· (Guys) legs akimbo when sitting, taking up more space than usual
· Looping thumbs in front pockets while standing
· An easy walk, unhurried
· A wandering gaze, taking in random things
· A satisfied sigh❣ ||Curiosity||· A raised eyebrow
· Repeating a statement as a question
· Leaning in, sliding chair closer
· Stopping to look at something
· Cocking or tilting the head
· A small delighted smile
· Peaked interest, a shift from mediocre conversation to pointed questions
· A childlike wonder, interest in how something works or what it is doing there
· Forgetting what you were saying
· A need to know, touch or understand
· A softened voice or tone
· Crossing arms and observing
· Prying or snooping
· Rapt attention, repetitive tasks forgotten (coffee goes cold, stopping a fork halfway to the mouth and then setting it down to listen or ask questions, holding onto a half-washed dish, etc)
· Straining to hear, shushing others to be quiet
· Sneaking up to observe (peeking through curtains, standing by a window to overhear a neighbor’s argument, staying just out of view to find out what’s happening close by)
· Furtive glances toward something or someone, a break in concentration
· Cupping an elbow with one hand and tapping lips lightly with the other
· Wide eyes
· Pushing glasses up and tilting body toward what you’re curious about
· Shuffling, creeping or edging closer
· Giving over to the senses—smelling for the sake of knowing what something smells like, touching to feel the texture, trying to puzzle out a sound, etc.
· Asking someone to share or to be in on an event or experience
· Worries and tension drop away—expression loses tightness, gaze softens
· A gasp of wonder, an expression of surprise: “Oh, look at that.” or “Isn’t that amazing.”
· Forming questions in dialogue using the 5 W’s (who, what, when, where and why)
· Moving toward something to witness it, forgetting original destination
· Being drawn to excited voices, crowds, bright colors, half-glimpsed people, places or things
· Pulling on someone’s sleeve to get them to follow you or join you
· A wondering glance or stare
· Stillness
· Lips parting slightly
· A desire to experiment, to see what will happen
· Slowed breath
· A shake of the head, like you can’t believe what you just saw
· A slow nod
· Rapid/excited conversation with other witnesses, everyone adding thoughts/observations in a jumble, friendliness❣ ||Desperation||· Wringing hands
· Pacing
· Pleading, begging
· Anxious muttering to self
· Grabbing fist fulls of hair at the sides of the head
· Crying, sobbing, wailing
· Unable to make out words properly, incomprehensible to others
· A willingness to do anything to change outcome, eve acts that go against one's moral code
· An inability to eat, sleep
· Fluttery movement in hands, like you don't know what to do with them
· Unfocused on ordinary needs, a single focus on what is causing the strife
· Moaning
· Rocking in place
· Retreating internally to cope, shutting the world out, a mental 'break'
· Beating fists (against a door, window, etc) to the point of pain or injury in an effort to gain some one's attention
· Screaming
· Reaching out to another in a plea
· Shaking, trembling
· Stuttering, inarticulation
· Extreme risk-taking in order to survive or protect another
· Pleading to be exchanged for another "Take me instead!" or "I'll go, you stay."
· Grabbing onto another person or shaking them in an effort to make yourself heard
· Internal anguish leads to law-breaking or betrayal in order to save self or another
· Increased strength, fortitude, whatever is needed to survive or save another
· Panic
· Irrational thinking, poor judgement
· A willingness to try anything to accomplish goal
· Sacrificing others or lesser goals/desires/needs if necessary
· Tightness in muscles, strained forearms
· An anguished [removed](eyes wet with desperation, a pained look)
· Shoulders curling toward chest
· Bargaining
· Shaking head in denial
· Inconsolable
· Refusing to see truth or be reasoned with
· A willingness to believe a lie to avoid dealing with a bad outcome
· Closed off posture which conveys protection of self (chin down, hands held around waist or tight to chest, etc)
Shining eyes, feverish
· Dragging nails down cheeks
· Rubbing own upper arms for comfort
· Hugging shoulders, chin tight to chest
· A disregard for another's feelings/needs if they conflict with one's own goal❣ ||Disappointment||· Tilting chin to the side and frowning
· Shoulders slumping, sagging, drooping
· Chin dipping to chest
· Lips pressing tight, eyes focusing inward
· Looking up with hands raised in the ‘why me?’ position
· Collapsing into a chair, bench
· Weaving slightly
· Sagging against a door/wall, reaching out to something to steady self
· Gaze dropping down
· Stumbling mid-stride
· Face falling, turning pale
· Mouth falling open
· Pressing hands to side of the head, or weaving hands into hair and pulling down
· Fist pressing to lips
· Avoiding other peoples' eyes, going stone-faced
· Eyes tearing up
· Eyes closing, squeezing shut for a moment
· Wincing, pained expression
· Looking around in confusion
· Attempting to hide (assuming the fetal position, covering head with arms, face with hands)
· Turning away, hand raised to ward someone off, questions, etc, (needing a moment for composure)
· Hands fiddling with things (pushing hair behind ear, playing with a pencil, phone, iPod) or fluttering like they've lost track of what they should be doing
· Feet shuffling
· A slow nod while frowning
· A heavy sigh
· Rubbing at back of the neck, thinking of what to do next
· False cheer, weak smile
· Voice dropping or going quiet
· Voice rising in anger
· Denial (shaking head, whispering ‘no’ or a curse under breath)
· Heart sinking
· Biting/chewing at lip
· Clutching at self (gripping elbows, rubbing arms, clenching hands)
· Stomach dropping, sudden feeling of nausea
· Pressing hand to abdomen
· Onset of anger or violence (cursing loudly, hitting something, walking away & making a tight shaking fist, a tense walk in a small circle & jerking movements)❣ ||Disgust||· Sneering
· Wrinkling up face or nose
· Flinching away, recoiling
· Bringing a hand up to cover one’s mouth
· Eyes appear cold, dead, flat
· Refusing to look at someone
· Shaking head, muttering
· Looking or walking away to gain composure
· Spitting on the ground or in the direction of another person
· Putting hand up, backing away with a shudder
· Slowly repeating what someone has said, purposely devoid of all emotion
· Dry washing hands
· Pulling away from contact, or even the suggestion of contact
· Pressing hand to stomach
· A feeling of nausea, heaving stomach
· Demanding another to stop speaking or desist what they are doing
· Feeling dirty, oily, soiled, just by be being in the presence of the one who causes the disgust
· Using a purse, jacket, etc to create a ‘shield’ between self and the person causing discomfort
· A desire to flee
· Avoiding touches, brushes, stepping back to stay beyond the other person’s reach
· Shunning, evasive answers
· A curling lip
· A pale cast to one’s face, a pallor over their features
· Excessive saliva, having to swallow
· A choking or uncomfortable swallow
· To curl away from another if lying prone
· To turn away, spin on a heel
· A pinched or pained look that conveys revulsion❣ ||Distraction||· A glazed look, a wandering gaze
· Watching the TV, reading a book and then realizing you have no idea what's happening
· Mind wandering during a conversation
· Digging through pockets or purse
· Checking email/texting/messaging instead of focusing on a person or task
· Losing a train of thought
· Forgetting what one was about to say
· Pinching the eyes shut forcefully and then opening them ad blinking, trying to stay focused
· Zoning out during a conversation or activity
· Sitting still, barely breathing, attention focused inward
· Tapping fingers against a tabletop or leg, checking a watch for the time
people-watching
· Muttering, "Uh-huh, sure" or, nodding without really listening.
· Fidgeting, moving around in seat.
· Playing with food, ripping up a napkin, tapping finger against a coffee cup
· Answering questions without gusto, pausing for unduly long amounts of time
· Making excuses
· Affirming that yes, you were paying attention
· Feeling sleepy or sluggish
· Cocking the head or leaning toward another conversation to overhear it better
· Rubbing a hand through the hair, massaging temples, trying to restore attention
· Leaning back in a chain, body posture pulling away from the action or conversation
· Wandering about aimlessly, restlessness
· Doodling in a notebook
· Picking off bits of nail polish, drawing on hand, etc
· Writing notes during class
· Aimless Internet surfing
· Being unable to answer a question because you weren't following along
· Being clumsy or getting injured as a result of not paying attention
· Playing with hair, picking at a hole in the jeans, pinching lint from a sweater
· Body starts to turn toward a distraction (an event, other people, a source of noise, TV, etc)and away from those you are with
· Reading blogs, face book, online games instead of working
· Playing with jewelry (spinning a ring on a finger, zipping a charm back and forth on a necklace)
· Having to ask someone to repeat the question or a comment.
· Being run into or bumped
· Delayed reflexes & reactions
· Nodding or agreeing to cover up the fact you totally missed out on a question or conversation
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[Resources: Emotions E-H] ❣ ||Embarrassment||· cheeks/forehead getting warm, flushing, burning, reddening
· looking shamefaced, sheepish
· feet shuffling
· clearing the throat
· coughing
· covering oneself: crossing arms, closing jacket, etc.
· pulling at collar
· rubbing neck
· wincing, ducking head
· fidgeting, squirming
· stuttering, stammering
· speechlessness
· looking down/inability to meet someone's eyes
· shoulders slumping, slouching, sagging, hunching
· desire to run away (fight or flight)
· glancing about as if for an exit or escape
· deflecting attention/assigning blame to another
· angry or knee-jerk type reactions: lashing out, taking a cheap shot, name calling, punching someone in the shoulder, etc.
· gritting teeth, pressing lips tight
· shoving hands in pockets
· fiddling with shirt sleeves
· hiding behind a book
· death grip on backpack straps, school books pressed to chest
· rapid walking with head down to get away
· excessive swallowing
· muddied or panicked thoughts
· lightheadedness, tingling in chest/stomach
· slumping down in a chair
· pretending to not have heard/seen
· showing intense concentration in something else, actively ignoring others
· Using long hair to hide face ❣ ||Enthusiasm||· Rushed words, bubbly or loud tone
· Eyes that sparkle, glow, are wide, have a happy intensity
· Rapt attention
· Talking over people, monopolizing conversation, using lots of excitable language
· Grabbing onto people (arm, hand, etc) and squeezing to transfer/display hyper feelings
· Repeating self
· Nervous pacing, fidgeting, impatient if forced to wait
· Extrovert behavior: shouting, jumping up and down, waving, calling out to others
· Bouncing on toes
· Restlessness, shifting around in seat, moving from foot to foot
· Shoving one another, jostling buddies, nudging
· Smiling, sharing a wink with someone
· Leaning in, bending head closer to another person/group conversation
· Yelling, screaming, cheering, clapping, hooting, catcalls
· Talking in hushed excitable tones
· Gossiping, sharing secrets, swapping opinions while gazes dart toward object of discussion and then away again
· Rubbing hands together
· Bringing chair in closer to the table to be closer to the action/conversation/group
· Planning ahead—taking extra time to get ready, calling friends to find out what they might be wearing to an event, ask for advice, swap opinions on what will happen
· An inability to concentrate on anything else
· Quirking an eyebrow and smiling
· A desire to share, include others
· Excessive friendliness, perhaps even with those not in one’s own social circle
· Bursts of laughter, giggling, hyperness
· Exaggerated movements, actions
· Loss of inhibitions❣ ||Excited/Elated||·High color; a flushed appearance
· Smiling, grinning
· Laughter
· Bouncing foot to foot
· squealing, screaming, shouting, whooping, hollering
· Pretending to faint (falling back on a bed with a huge grin; falling into a friend's arms as if you can't contain the level of happiness inside)
· Chest bump (guys)
· Crushing beer/pop cans (guys)
· Slam-dunking trash in a barrel after a game or event (guys)
· Jumping up and down
· Talking over one another, babbling
· Fanning self
·Making fists and doing an exaggerated shake close to body/chest area (running on the spot)
· Doing a victory dance
· Not caring what others think, a lack of self consciousness, enjoying the moment
· Sharing thoughts/feelings with those around you without hesitation
· Enjoying communal happiness, feeling part of the crowd
· Grabbing a friend/relative and lifting them up or swinging them through the air
· Trembling
· A shaking voice
· Eyes glittering with inner light
· Repeating words over like a mantra (Oh my God! or I can't believe it! etc)
· Scattered thoughts or attention, too excited to think straight
· A warm glow expanding throughout your body
· Racing heartbeat, drumming chest
· Feeling instantly awake, rejuvenated by adrenaline
· Heightened senses
· Cold fingers, numbness, shock
· Grabbing at the sides of head in an 'I can't believe it' expression
· High energy, a bouncing walk or run, skipping
· Phoning/texting others to share news or pass on the excitement
· Hugging, kissing or other displays of affection
· Good-natured shoving, pushing (guys)
· Speed-talking with heads close together, raised voices, gossipy (girls)
· Throaty laughter
· Experiencing extreme impatience
· Getting the giggles
· Friendly demanding "Tell me! Show me it! Let's go!"
· Unable to sit still
· Body constantly in motion (nodding, drumming fingers against something, bobbing, weaving, pacing, refusing to wait in a single place)
· Breathlessness
· A distinct walk, a fast-paced strut
· Making eye contact with others, confidence❣ ||Fear||· shaking, trying not to shake
· face ashen, white, or pallid
· eyes wide or squeezed shut
· lips trembling
· eyes staring but not seeing
· hands gripping something, white knuckles
· hands twisting together
· clenched fists
· leg muscles tightening, ready to run
· stiff legs, stiff walking, knees locking
· beads of sweat on lip, forehead, trickling down face and back
· being frozen; paralyzed
· heart racing, near-exploding, dropping, skipping a beat
· sound of heartbeat roaring in ears
· pulse hammering, rattling, pounding in various body parts
· shivery skin, flesh crawling
· stomach dropping
· dizzy, weak
· holding breath, breath stopping up
· rapid breathing, breath bursting in and out, shallow breaths
· gasping for air
· dry mouth
· crying
· shaking head in denial
· voice going shrill, stuttering, mispronouncing words
· inability to speak
· compulsion to talk non-stop about anything
· screaming
· images of what-could-be flashing through the mind
· hiding/denying fear through diversion, topic change
· things moving in slow motion
· nausea
· loosening of the bladder
· limbs going weak
· grabbing onto someone
· tension in different body areas: stiff neck, posture
· fainting
· uncontrollable whimpering
· holding back a scream or cry
· flinching at noise
· urge to flee
· hyper-sensitivity to touch
· making body as small as possible
· pressing arms against chest or stomach
Often, a good way to describe a character's emotion is by taking a cliche and giving it a unique twist.
· Instead of the typical "crawling flesh": His skin felt like it was trying to glide to the back of his body.
· Speechlessness: He opened his mouth, fully expecting words to spring obediently out of it, but for once the tip of his tongue (the springboard from which they usually leapt so eagerly) was empty.❣ ||Frustration||· Making fists
· Wringing hands
· Shouting, yelling, ranting, screaming or criticizing
· Shaking head
· Jerky movements, hand waving/talking with hands
· Pacing in short spans, interrupted or erratic strides
· An inability to sit or stand still
· A need to ask questions, rehash information
· Tightness in chest
· Stiff posture, rigid muscles, a corded neck
· A clenched jaw
· Speaking through teeth with forced restraint
· Violence: throwing objects, kicking over a chair, smashing, grabbing, shaking, an urge to destroy something in release
· Rushed, heavy breathing, hot intakes of breath, an impatient snort or sneer
· Gritting teeth
· Needing to take a moment to calm down
· Storming out of a room
· Throwing hands up
· Stalking away from someone, leaving in a huff
· Name-calling, personal jab, trying to hurt in retaliation
· Sarcasm
· Speaking without thought, often leading to regret
· Slamming a door
· Grabbing hair in clumps, looking up at the sky "Why me?"
· A heavy sigh
· A strained voice
· Stilted speaking, inability to form clear, concise sentences
· Tight eyes, a squint
· A harried appearance, sweating
· Flushed cheeks
· Crying, sobbing, swiping at tears, trying to hide them
· Pleading, bargaining
· Running hands through hair
· Fists tight, fingernails biting into palms
· Stamping feet, stomping away from someone with purposeful extra force (up the stairs, down the hall, etc to display anger/displeasure)
· Pinched lips, a tension-filled expression
· Covering face with hands
· Scrunching up face and then releasing, trying to regain calm
· Biting lips
· Closed body posture (arms crossed in front of chest, chin lifted) as if ready to do battle
· An overt display of finding calm: closing eyes, forcing a deep breath and trying to shake or roll tension from the shoulders
· Clumsiness (slopping coffee, knocking something over, breaking something due to feeling rushed or not taking enough care)
· Groaning
· Restlessness, an inability to sleep or relax
· Replaying a scene or event over and over in one's mind, obsessing over it
· Kicking at something (a pop can on the sidewalk, the head of a flower, a pebble, a chair, etc)
· A tantrum (screaming, body flung down on the floor, kicking, crying)❣ ||Guilt||· Hunched shoulders
· Chin dipping to chest, poor posture
· An inability to make eye contact
· Crying, sobbing, hitching breaths
· Clutching at self, holding arms against stomach
· Being unable to concentrate on anything else
· Brooding, retreating inward, withdrawing from others
· Unnaturally quiet or still
· A quivering lip
· Muttering to oneself tearfully
· Replaying the moment over and over in thoughts
· Anxious movements (pawing a hand through one’s own hair, pacing, licking lips)
· Tightening fists
· Trouble speaking
· A cracking voice
· Rapid, fevered apologies, repeating, “I’m sorry,” over and over
· Grabbing onto the person wronged, begging for forgiveness
· A flight response—running away, unable to deal with the consequences
· Asking someone to listen to their reasons, wanting acceptance/understanding
· A desire to confess, to share the pain or burden with another
· Touching one’s own face in distraction (thumbing an ear, touching lip)
· Covering mouth with a hand and shaking one’s head in denial
· Taking a deep, pained breath and closing the eyes
· Biting/pressing down on lip
· Staring down at feet
· Babbling
· Sweating
· Paranoia that others know, or are passing judgement even if this is not possible
· Nervous fidgeting (picking at nails, squirming in chair, a scattered gaze that bounces around, not settling on anything)
· Darting glances at the person who you have wronged
· Following or stalking the one wronged, trying to convince self to confess
· Causing pain to oneself as ‘penance’ (making a fist and pressing nails into the palm pads on purpose)
· Destroying one’s own possessions as ‘penance’
· Unable to eat or drink
· Unable to join in fun activities or be with friends
· Taking little or no interest in own appearance
· Insomnia
· Weight loss
· Paleness, a harried or haunted look
· Not showing up for work or school, letting grades slip and not caring
· Self-loathing
· Growing steadily reclusive, cutting oneself off from others
· In extreme cases, attempting suicide as a way ‘out’❣ ||Happiness/Joy||· smiling
· a light step, floating walk
· humming/whistling/singing
· an urge to share with others—talkative, courtesy with strangers
· skipping
· relaxed appearance
· shows interest/notices small things around them (smelling the roses, so to speak)
· shows affection—hugging, touching, etc
· more likely to be helpful, random acts of kindness
· tells jokes, laughs frequently, interacts with others
· self-satisfied
· at ease with the world, content
· raps fingers lightly (as if to internal music) on leg or other surface
· swings/taps foot to an easy beat
· shows patience
· bright outlook (glass half full)
· satisfied catlike stretches
· shows enjoyment of stimulus (sways to music, closes eyes to savor food, etc)
nods as others speak or leans in to show interest
· eyes that dance, sparkle, shine, etc
· bouncing on toes
· bubbling laughter
· rapid speaking
· a feeling of breathlessness
· happy tears
· clasping hands before chest
· shaking with excitement
· big movements (leaping, fist pumping, running)
· happy bursts of screaming, shouting, laughter, squeals, giggles
· bear hugs, kissing or other types of intense affection
· pounding heart
· tingling hands
· a need to share the intense feeling with others
· lightness in limbs
· an energetic walk, quick movements, no hesitation
· a desire to be with loved ones or friends
· fearlessness
· risk taking❣ ||Hatred||· Clenched, shaking fists
· Hot, fevered stare
· Clenched jaw, grinding teeth
· Forearm muscles appearing cut from stone
· Thoughts of violence, playing out fantasies of violence or humiliation for another
· Actively wishing or hoping for harm or misfortune to happen to another
· Bitter, seething words meant to provoke
· A black mood that no one can dispel or reach through
· Tense muscles, stiff posture, rigid shoulders, a lurching walk
· Gripping at own hair and pulling as if to release some internal pressure
· A fight (fists flying, punching manically with a desire to destroy) or flight response (to spin away from another person, leave with a quick, decisive stride; driving off in a car, peeling rubber)
· Rushing loud breaths; heaving chest
· A shoving match
· A pinched face, frigid features, mouth twisted into a snarl or sneer
· Spitting in someone’s face, at their feet or in their direction
· Explosive bursts: screaming, yelling, shouting without regard for other people or environment
· Acting on violent urges—smashing a glass into the wall, throwing a chair across the room, destroying property without thinking in an attempt to let the rage loose on something
· Rash decisions, impaired judgment
· Jumping up, overturning chair or table to rush at someone
· Reaching for someone in an attempt to throttle, cause pain, hit, etc
· Plowing through a crowd of people in order to reach target without thought for anything or anyone else
· Irrational thoughts, taking risks to get even, a vendetta (vandalism, theft, etc)
· Single-minded focus on how to destroy another emotionally
· Starting hateful gossip, setting person up, rumors
· An inability to enjoy positive things or happiness
· Difficulty being around other people, eating, sleeping, etc
· Angry tears
· Cursing, swearing
· A scathing tone
· Shaking, rage-filled voice
· Wrenching on another’s arm to pull them back to you, to stop them from leaving
· Promising or declaring to another that you will destroy them/make them pay
Note: Many Anger actions can be escalated or combined to show hatred❣ ||Haughty/Smug/Superior||· Lifting one’s chin
· Crossing arms
· A deliberately raised eyebrow
· Cocking or tilting one’s head
· A smirk or sneer
· Rolling the eyes
· Direct, probing eye contact
· Squinting and a hard smile
· A dismissing nod or glance (gazes settles briefly and flicks away as if the other person is not worthy)
· A sigh conveying annoyance (huff)
· Waving a hand in dismissal
· Leaning in aggressively as if to challenge
· Using words to agree but the tone is the opposite “Whatever.” or, “Sure you are,” or “If you say so.”
· A challenging look radiating superiority
· Perfect posture, shoulders back, exposed neck
· A determined walk, strut or swagger
· A loud voice, bragging, full of bluster
· Conversation that belittles opposing people & their ideas/beliefs or exalts one’s own ideals and accomplishments
· Talking over people, controlling conversations
· Sarcasm, comments that cut others down
· Looking down one’s nose at others
· Domineering others (invading another’s personal space by standing too close, standing while others sit, etc)
· Lavishing praise on ‘golden ones’ (children, friends in favor, people in power)
· An arrogant laugh
· Tossing one’s hair back, a shake of the head
· Adopting a sudden ‘pondering’ pose (hand clasping chin, an inward gaze as if struck by deep thoughts)
· Settling back in a chair with exaggerated casualness
· Creating movements that direct attention to self (waving a cigar, flashing an expensive watch, gesturing with a glass of wine in hand)
· Extreme pride in appearance and objects one owns
· Careful consideration in friendships, purchases, places where one is seen
· A deliberate crossing of the legs or clasping of the hands
· Fidgeting with jewelry in order to draw attention to it
· Clapping someone on the back, overplaying closeness or friendship
· Reminding someone of a past mistake to ‘rub it in’❣ ||Hopeful||· Flutter in the belly
· Lighthearted feeling
· A gasp
· An excited shriek
· Clutching at the chest or belly
· Floaty feeling, like all your burdens have been removed
· Tingling limbs
· Brightened countenance
· Covering the mouth with a hand, eyes wide and shining
· A hesitant smile turning radiant
· Deep breaths
· Straighter posture/higher carriage
· A jolt through the body
· Waving/flapping hands
· Bouncing on the balls of feet
· Quivering breaths
· Trembling voice
· Eyes shining with tears
· An effort to not get too excited (clasped hands, holding oneself still, etc)
· A sense of calm, like everything's going to be okay
· Stalwart belief that things will work out; someone who won't be shaken
· Refusing to consider, speak of, or listen to the negative possibility
· Rapid swallowing & nodding
· Talking under breath to oneself about the best outcome
· Prayer/plea to God "Please let this work!"
· Making enthusiastic preparations for 'best case scenario'
· Chattiness, babbling
· Verbalizing what can be done to encourage the best possibility to happen
· New found determination to see things through to a favorable outcome (networking with someone involved, preparing the way, practicing a skill, studying, working extra hard, working on appearance, etc, whatever applies)
· Rapt, positive attention on a task or person involved
· Hands clasped in prayer, pressed to lips, eyes closed
· Talking yourself down to another from high expectations or beliefs "Okay, okay, I know. Anything could happen. But still..."
· Movement (getting up to walk around, rearranging things, straightening, looking out a window)
· Arms clutching sides while moving about (expending nervous energy), showing cautious hope, a willingness to believe things will be all right
· Eyes looking up and exhaling
· Gaze darting to a person or object that symbolizes hope (a friend in the know, a police officer, the phone, TV news program, etc)❣ ||Humble/Meek/Shy||· Downcast eyes
· Soft voice, overly quiet
· Hesitant when offering opinion or answering questions
· Crumpled or tight posture when sitting, making self small and unassuming
· Anxiety at praise or attention (blushing, stuttering out a response, tries to play down the situation or give credit to others)
· Small displays of emotion (a small smile instead of an energetic grin; pressing lips tight to hold in laughter rather than openly joining in; a schooled, tight expression rather than ranting with anger, etc)
· Throat clearing or excessive swallowing
· Hovering at the edge of a group
· Watching but not interacting, even if you desire to
· Talking or muttering to yourself
· Displaying nervous-isms: lack of eye contact when speaking, fidgeting with clothes, tucking hair behind ear (girl), a darting gaze as if looking for an exit
· Feeling cornered if approached, a speeding heartbeat
· A lack of confidence
· Hands in lap
· To sit or stand, unmoving
· A pale face, frozen expression
· Slumped shoulders
· Shrugging, shaking head or nodding an answer instead of speaking
· Holding/hugging something like a shield when interacting with others (a folded sweater, purse, book)
· Hiding out in a bathroom or little used area
· Sit or stand with back to something--a wall, a chair, a corner
· Avoids interaction with others, conversation
· Dislikes crowds, prefers one-on-one situations
· Makes excuses to avoid participating
· Uses a quiet activity to avoid others (reading a book, bestowing affection to an animal on lap at a social event, tunes out to headphones, etc)
· Small movements, steps, etc as to not be noticed
· May wear muted colors or unassuming clothes to avoid being signalled out
· Politeness when speaking to an adult
· Helpful and/or thoughtful
· Wanting to please others
· Avoiding anger or making people angry
· An eagerness to comply as long as it keeps you out of the limelight
· A secret desire for praise, having fantasies about being accepted and joining in
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Posted: Sun Oct 12, 2008 5:39 pm
[Resources: Emotions I-L] ❣ ||Impatience||· Crossed arms
· A tapping foot
· Glancing down at wristwatch, or at a wall clock
· Pacing
· Clicking fingernails against a table
· Narrowing eyes, a look of intense focus that can be mistaken for anger
· A tightness to the face
· Lips pressed together in a fine line
· Frowning
· A sharp tone, using as few words as possible to answer
· Attention snaps toward small sounds or movement
· Complaining to others or mumbling a complaint to self under the breath: "Where is he?" or "What is taking so long?"
· Holding a drink or plate of food to be polite but not drinking/eating it
· An ingenuine smile
· An inability to focus on other things or people
· Attempting to distract oneself in an effort to be patient but failing
· A clenched jaw, gritting teeth
· Fussing with appearance (brushing lint from a sleeve, applying lip gloss, checking fingernails)
· Door or window watching
· Straying attention
· Feeling exhausted or strained to the limits
· Fidgeting, moving about in a seat
· Whining, grumbling or pouting (small children)
· Changing places to wait (crossing a room, going from sitting to standing, choosing a different chair)
· Fiddling with items on a table (turning a coffee cup, tearing up a napkin, flipping through a book without reading)
· Muttering, shaking the head, talking to oneself
· Tilting head to the ceiling and letting out a heavy sigh
· Uncrossing and recrossing legs
· Rooting in a purse for a distraction, checking/rechecking a phone for messages
· Increased tension in face, shoulders, neck
· Stiff posture, a jutting chin
· A focused stare, seemingly at nothing
· A repeated habit of running hands through hair
· Veiled anger or light sarcasm❣ ||Indifference||· Lips pursing and a head tilt
· A half-hearted shrug
· A blank, emotionless stare
· A deep inhale and exhale used as a way to temper an uncaring response that you know will hurt the other person
· A loose lift of the hand, palm up in a 'So?' gesture
· Loss of eye contact
· Fiddling with a watch, plucking lint from clothes, scratching at cuticles, etc as signs you don't care about what's going on
· Tuning out to music
· Closing the eyes, shutting the outside world away
· Checking for messages or text messaging during a situation or as another speaks to you
· Turning away
· Pointedly ignoring another person or situation which draws others in
· Relaxed posture, loose movement
· An unhurried pace or exit
· Shoving hands in the pockets
· Looking down or away
· Focusing on one's shoe, scuffing at the ground, nudging candy wrappers or leaves/debris etc rather than giving due attention to someone or an active problem
· A blank expression
· Saying, "Whatever" or "So?" like you could care less one way or the other
· Randomly saying whatever comes to mind rather than commenting on an ongoing conversation. "Is anyone Hungry?" or, "I wonder how Ray did on his Driver's test?" (essentially changing the conversation topic)
· Making a lame excuse to leave
· A monotone voice
· Non-expressive body language (inanimate, loose, lacking energy)
· Yawning
· Actions that could be attributed as being 'bored' (slumping down in seat during class, tapping a pencil without purpose against a desk, checking for split ends)
· Zoning/tuning others out to mull over internal thoughts on other things
'Sleepy' eyes, half-lidded
· Not following a conversation, just muttering, "Uh-huh" or "Yeah" when it seems appropriate
· Being easily distracted by other things (a TV, a hot girl walking past, etc)❣ ||Indignation||· Exhaling impatiently, snorting
· Sputtering, stuttering over words, broken sentences
· Speechlessness
· Evasive maneuvers while trying to formulate a response (roving eyes, fidgeting hands)
· Raised voice, yelling, cursing
· Making excuses
· Vehement denial, even in the face of logic
· Looking to others for back-up or confirmation
· Jerking, tossing, shaking of the head
· Hands on hips
· Lips pressed thin
· Rolling eyes
· Break in eye contact
· Throwing hands in air
· Crossing arms over chest
· Walking away
· Eyes bulging or rapid blinking
· Mouth dropping open
· Sharp, spastic movements (hands/arms jerking about, interrupted pacing, turning away only to spin right back, opening and closing fists)
· Slapping hands over top of the head
· Shaking splayed fingers close to ears as if to contain thoughts/outrage
· To ward someone off with a hand, stopping them from speaking further
· To hold a shaking index finger up at someone in warning to say no more
· To accuse another, “How dare you!” or “How could you say such a thing?”
· Using anger as an excuse to leave/escape (to stalk off, speed away in a car, etc)
· Color rising in cheeks
· White knuckles, tense jaw, muscles, etc.
· Stiff posture, shoulders set
· Flinching, recoiling, taking a step back
· Snapping back with a cheap shot in retaliation❣ ||Jealousy||Introverted responses:
· Retreat from activity/people that cause the jealousy
· Pouting
· Sullen looks, glowering
· Hot eyes, tears form
· Quick, sharp movements (swiping tears from cheeks, shoving hair back behind ear, getting up fast and knocking something over in haste)
· Pursed or tightly pressed lips
· Minor self-mutilation (scratches self, press fingernails into skin) using pain to feel better
· Refusing to speak to others
· Crossing arms in front of chest
· Sitting against a wall, holding knees to chest and staring off angrily
· Minor destruction as a release: Crumpling paper, pop cans, breaking pencils
· Clenching teeth
· Muttering unkind things under breath
· Rash decisions (impulsively quit a team, group or storm out of party/event)
Extroverted responses:
· Jeering, calling names, running someone down
· Starting rumors, acting catty
· Shoving person who causes feelings of jealousy
· Acting out through petty crimes (scratching the person’s locker or car; stealing something small they care about, hiding small things that are accessible (cell, books, homework, iPod)
· Bullying: pushing, hitting, pinching someone weaker
· Sneering
· Spitting in the direction of the person/object of jealousy
· Kicking at something nearby (garbage can, dandelion head, pebble, chair)
· Showing off
· A desire for revenge
· Pulling a stunt or pranks to regain attention
· Goading a weaker person into an argument or fight to have a ‘win’
· Rudeness
· Reckless behavior (trusting a stranger, taking a ride home from someone they don’t know, using drugs or alcohol)❣ ||Loneliness||· Unsmiling, expressionless
· Avoids crowds or large events
· People watches, craving contact (visits a park to feed birds, watches out a window, sits out on the porch)
· Wears comfort clothes
· Uses books, the Internet, TV to 'escape' and generate a feeling of interaction
· Rubbing shoulders through clothes, hugging shoulders
· Bringing feet up when sitting, scrunching up
· A desire to be included, wanted
· Expression crumples at people showing expression
· A pain in the chest
· A downcast gaze
· A lack of eye contact
· False bravado that one is fine or happy as things are
· Tears, sadness, depression
· Gives an abnormal amount of love and attention to someone or something, trying to fill the void (daily visits to a neighbor, treating a pet like a baby, etc)
· A thickness in the throat, signalling the onset of tears
· Overeating
· Binging in other ways (home shopping network, buying self 'treats' to perk up mood like shoes, candles, jewelry--items that aren't needed)
· Frequent phone calls to family or friends
· A willingness to talk to strangers just to interact (grocery store line up, a pharmacy technician, people with pets or children)
· Dull or watery eyes/a gaze that convey longing
· A disinterest in appearance or an abnormal/obsessive interest in appearance
· A sad smile, inward gaze
· Slumped shoulders, limp posture
· Adheres to routine (returns to a safe place every day, schedules things on certain days to look forward to it, keeps busy with chores/projects·blogging/gaming etc)
· Workaholic, filling the void with work
· Avoids social situations because a feeling of inadequacy
· Over friendliness, pushing self on people in hopes of being liked❣ ||Love & Attraction||· Stumbling to a halt
· Staring
· Eyes widening
· Mouth dropping open
· Mouth going dry
· Throat clearing, swallowing
· Fluttering in stomach, feeling of emptiness, nausea
· Tongue getting tangled, going speechless
· Non-stop talking
· Nervous behaviors: shuffling feet, jittery hands, moistening lips
· Worrying over appearance, feelings of insecurity
· Shyness
· Stupefication
· Mental fuzziness, lightheadedness, dizziness, difficulty focusing on tasks
· Feeling faint
· Quick, shallow breathing
· Pulse racing
· Heart beating, banging, hammering
· Jangling nerves, jumpiness
· Tingling skin, limbs, a hyper-awareness of the body
· Weak knees or legs
· Exhibiting obsessive behavior: following; rearranging school schedule/route to class, etc to increase chances of ‘bumping into’ someone
· Showing affection—gentle touches, stroking an arm, cheek; holding hands, kissing, hugging, holding or leaning against another person
· Swaying to bump against other person as you walk
· An almost electric feeling at accidental touches (a brush of fingertips, if knees touch, etc)
· Exchanging personal effects: a favorite jacket, a necklace, keys, locker combinations
· Sitting together, legs touching, arm around shoulders
· Hooking a hand in other person’s belt or pocket as you stand together or walk
· Feeling or displaying jealousy at the attention from another toward your love interest
· Ignoring or neglecting other friendships to be with significant other
· Doodling hearts, names, writing notes to other person
· Offering gifts of time, value or thoughtfulness to woo or prove feelings for other person
· Obsessing with friends, talking about the special person, asking for advice, returning the discussion back to him/her when it strays to other things
· Asking a close friend to talk to the person you’re attracted to, so they can find out their feelings about you
· A desire for intimacy
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Posted: Sun Oct 12, 2008 5:43 pm
[Resources: Emotions M-P] ❣ ||Overwhelmed||• Bringing a shaky hand to the forehead
• Holding a hand up to stop someone from dumping on more worry, discussion, etc
• Weakness in the legs, a sudden need to sit down
• A wave of heat or cold
• Light-headedness
• Voice choking with tears
• Trouble with articulation or being unable to form a response
• Fainting, swooning, reeling
• Unsteady on feet
• Uncertain (almost drunken) steps or gait
• Sagging into a chair, leaning against a door frame or wall
• Falling against another person
• Needing comfort, crying on another's shoulder (literally or figuratively)
• Shaking all over
• Mumbling, muttering
• A quaking voice
• Eyes filling with tears
• Letting out an uncontrollable cry, sob or whimper
• Dropping something, spilling something (slopping tea, dishes chattering together as you try to set something down)
• Weakness in limbs
• Mental numbness
• A glassy stare, glazed look
• Retreating inward
• Lashing out at others
• Augmentative, angry
• Batting people away, demanding they not touch you or stop their nattering
• Flight, leaving the room, hiding from others
• Wanting/needing to be alone
• Difficulty breathing
• Inability to eat
• Screaming, yelling, shouting
• Hitting something out of frustration
• Pulling at own hair
• Curling up in a ball, fetal position
• Crumpling onto the floor
• Waving someone away (hand flapping)
• Retreating away from people or activities
• Sensitivity to noise
• Putting hands over ears
• Rocking back and forth
• Retreating inward, whispering a mantra or words of comfort over and over
• Shaking the head repeatedly
• Holing up in a corner, placing back against the wall
• Giving oneself over to tears through anguish or grief
• Becoming non-responsive to others, almost catatonic
• Pulling knees up to chest, circling knees with arms
• Having no words to express what one is feeling, utter speechlessness
• Touching fingertips to the lips
• Closing the eyes, weeping or shutting down
❣ ||Powerless/Defeated||• A disheartened shrug
• Staring down at hands in lap, or looking down at the floor
• Failing to make eye contact
• A lack of energy
• Holding head in hands
• Slumping forward, shoulders bowed
• Limp muscles, poor posture
• Fisted hands open, losing their tension
• A heavy expression
• A dull pain in chest
• Eyes blank, devoid of hope
• An inability to speak more than a few words or gives minute answers "Fine." "No." "Who cares."
• An emotionless tone
• Crying, often accompanied by silence
• Mouth sags into a frown by default (not a purposeful frown that could signify concentration, but more a sagging of features that creates a frown)
• Breathing slows
• A dull voice, deadpan responses
• Expresses giving up "This is it, then." "There's nothing I can do." or even, "We're all going to die."
• Nonreactive to others who try to raise spirits
• A thickness in the throat
• Voice cracks
• Eyes redden
• A slow shake of the head
• Disconnecting from others or environment
• A lack of empathy for those who are in pain because they still have hope (in cases where others are experiencing the same traumatic event)
• Dissolving into tears
• Non-responsive to taunts
• Does not fight back/react to hits, shoves, etc unless to curl up against them, rather than seeking to flee
• Losing all enjoyment in everyday things
• Not caring about appearance
• Eyes glazed with non-emotion (Dead eyes)
• Energy dissolves
• 'Rag doll' appearance (limp arms, legs akimbo), unmoving
• Looking worn, appearing 'older' as a result of current situation
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Posted: Sun Oct 12, 2008 5:46 pm
[Resources: Emotions Q-T] ❣ ||Relief||• hand covering mouth
• shaking head and closing eyes
• breaking down/tears
• a gasp
• hands tremor
• reaching out to another for comfort
• wanting to be held
• body slumping, losing stiff posture
• shaky laughter
• a slow smile
• making a nervous pun to lighten the moment
• falling back into a chair
• sagging against a wall, person, etc
• pressing palms to cover eyes
• asking/demanding someone to repeat good news
• shaky knees, legs
• struggle to speak, find the right words
• a wobbly walk, poor coordination
• crying/calling out in release
• touching face, hair
• asking a redundant question to assure the moment is real
• eyes go up, looking heavenward
• letting out a huge breath
• rocking back and forth
• eyes shining, locked on object/person who is source of relief
• a slight moan
• lips parting
• mouth gaping in shock
• a compulsion to thank others involved
• showing emotion/kinship toward others involved (hugging, reaching for their hands, etc)
• pressing hands to stomach
• a palm pressed to heart
• head bowing down briefly
• start to fall then catches self, firming up legs
• closed eyes, compulsive nodding
• letting head fall back
• uttering a soft curse or thanking God
• dry mouth
• repeating self, talking too much
• a need to sit down and let the relief sink in❣ ||Reluctance||• Hesitation
• Pressing a hand to stomach before moving forward
• A hard, obvious swallow
• Wetting lips and giving a jerky nod of assent
• Tension in arms, shoulders, face
• Slow steps
• Reaching out slowly to take something or to assist
• Experiencing a moral dilemma
• Taking a deep breath before acting
• Pressing lips together
• Glancing around, uneasy
• Backing away from a situation, trying to not be noticed
• Shaking hands, nervous twitching
• Hands half curling into fists and then straightening
• A grimace, a pained look
• Eyebrows squeeze together, a focused inward look of discomfort
• Stuttering, stammering
• Making excuses, lying
• Holding a hand up, warding someone or something off
• Asking for someone else to help/ act instead
• Shaking head
• A pained or look of guilt
• Hand fluttering to lips or neck, as if to cover
• Nervous habits: Running hand through hair distractedly, pacing, looking for an exit or way out of situation, rubbing hands together
• A faked smile, filled with discomfort
• Trying to brush off the situation or pretend things are fine to avoid responsibility
• Glancing at watch
• Jumpiness
• Moving toward an exit, creating distance from another
• Biting lip or nails
• Pinching the bridge of the nose and squeezing eyes tight
• Tapping a fist against the lip or other repetitive behaviors
• Trying to change the topic, divert attention, etc to not become involved
• Citing a list of things to prove why they are too busy, not well enough equipped to handle the task or is the wrong person to ask
. Closed body language (hands up in front, warding off or are crossed over chest, feet poised to back up or turn away)❣ ||Resentful/Sullen||• Crossing arms over chest
• Hunched shoulders
• Pouting
• A squished-looking face, sour expression
• Lips pinched together
• Spinning away in a huff
• Lifting your chin up sharply
• Refusing to make eye contact
• Refusing to apologize, or giving a forced apology
• Narrowed eyes
• Rudeness
• Rolling eyes
• Complaining to others
• Mumbling, muttering, cursing
• Sulking, moping, whining
• A dark look, giving someone the 'stink eye'
• Tension in neck, shoulders, arms
• Sharp movements: stalking off, stomping up the stairs, swinging arms determinedly to show defiance
• Displaying anger: giving someone a shove, breaking something, kicking at something as you pass it
• Shouting, "Fine then!" or "Whatever!" or even "I hate you!"
• Locking oneself into a bedroom or bathroom, refusing to come out
• Refusing to speak to someone or interact with others
• Refusing to eat
• Showing defiance through other means (not doing homework, refusing to help out or do chores, refusing to go anywhere that other people want to go, etc)
• Purposely trying to push people's hot buttons to get them upset or ruin their time
• Glowering or glaring at someone or something
• Kicking at the table when sitting, thumping foot against a table leg or chair on purpose to annoy others
• Having vengeful thoughts towards others
• Angry tears
• Accusing people (parents, teachers, a girlfriend/boyfriend, etc) of not loving them, or favoring someone else above them.
• A desire to spoil other peoples moods
• Gossip-mongering, trying to damage someone's reputation
• Cattiness
• Purposeful ignoring
• Pretending to zone out to iPod or TV in order to not respond to a question
❣ ||Sadness/Grief||Sadness
• tears pouring, dripping, coursing
• makeup running
• splotchy skin
• aching chest
• aching, smarting eyes (redness)
• stiff eyelids
• scratchy throat
• soreness in the throat, lungs
• hyperventilating/can't catch breath
• fainting
• world seems to spin or slow down
• heaviness in chest, limbs
• wincing
• voice breaking
• tearful voice
• heart that is breaking, aching
• difficulty responding to questions, interacting with people
• staring down at hands
Grief (on-going)
• constant ache
• uncontrollable crying
• lashing out at others
• addictive behaviors
• premature aging: wrinkles, tired eyes, gray/white hair
• weight loss or gain
• sickness
• not wanting to get out of bed/lethargy
• throwing oneself into activities
• losing interest in usual hobbies
• failing grades at school, lack of success at work
• isolation
• focus becomes more inward
• desire to not be alone
• compulsive actions: cleaning, etc
• desire to live in the past
• drops extra curricular activities, friendships
• stops doing things that one enjoys (hobbies, walks, etc)
• suicidal thoughts
• inability to eat, picks at food
• unable to focus on tasks (work, school, home life)
• over-sensitive to jokes, comments
• aversion to noise, crowds
• forgets appointments, conversations, meetings
• bulky clothes, unkempt appearance
Examples:
• Harry blinked hard and petted the cat fiercely.
• I woke the next morning feeling as if someone had scraped out my gut with a trowel.❣ ||Satisfaction||• A deep sniff while lifting the chin
• A smirk, a twisting smile
• A raised eyebrow and a 'See?' look
• Crossing the arms over chest
• A sleek walk that draws the eye (catlike, deliberate)
• A confident or amused grin
• Apt dialogue that sums up the situation perfectly, a biting comment
• Justified possessiveness
• Telling someone, 'I told you so."
• Gossipy behavior at another's downfall (talking loud enough for them to hear, faking sympathy or empathy but secretly running them down, enjoying the fall from grace)
• Shoulders back, head held high, straight posture
• Taking deep breaths, savouring the moment
•An expression of supreme confidence (glow)
• Faking surprise or shock to remind someone you have the upper hand (rubbing it in)
• Tutting, patting another's hand, telling them it's all right, that you will take care of everything
• Bragging
• Jeering, taunting
• A hand casually anchored on the hip
• Stretching arms out wide and taking a deep breath
• Leaning back, relaxed, at ease and in control of the moment
• A hyper awareness of others, to see how your actions and words affect them
• A deep, gratifying sigh
• A lightness in the chest, tingling
• Warmth spreading through body
• Happiness over work done well, euphoria
• Whistling, humming, contentment
• Self-congratulations
• Uncharacteristically generous/indulgent to others as a result of feeling gratification
• A direct manner (eye contact, strength in voice, controlling the conversation)
• Exhibiting power through confidence and alpha-male/female body language in group settings
• A deliberate head tilt toward someone & raising an eyebrow as if to ask them to continue digging themselves deeper and warning them not to all at the same time
• A quick nod to self or another, at completion of a project or knowing a job's well done❣ ||Shame||• Burning cheeks
• Hyper-sensitivity to noise, crowds, activity
• Flight reaction triggered: desire to flee, get away, hide
• Pressing hands against cheeks, hard
• Crumpling onto a chair or sofa, pulling body limbs in toward the core
• Muttering, ‘What have I done?’ or ‘How could I let this happen?’
• Using hair to hide face
• Ball cap pulled low
• A vacant or glazed stare
• Wet eyes
• Glancing down blankly at fingertips
• Shaking, trembling, shivering
• Hunched shoulders
• Feeling flu-like symptoms (nausea, sweats, tingling in chest)
• Retreating from life, signs of depression (stop contact with friends, loved ones, avoiding familiar places, school, activities)
• Tears
• Inability to make eye contact with others
• Pressing palm over lips to hold back a cry or words
• Shaking head
• Letting out an uncontrolled moan
• Self-loathing, berating oneself, anger, disgust
• Punching fists against thighs to release frustration and/or to cause pain to self
• Violence to self (scratching, cutting, jabbing fingernails into skin)
• Lashing out at others to transfer anger or blame
• Vandalism, especially a desire to destroy one’s own things, to ruin things most important to self
• To take risks, almost hoping to have something happen to ‘balance the scale’
• A scruffy look: baggy, bland clothing; oily, unwashed hair; a lost of interest in own appearance
• Feverish actions toward others involved—fawning, begging, following, even stalking—in order to be granted a chance to regain self-worth❣ ||Shock/Surprise||• Mouth falling open
• Hand flies to chest
• Fingers touch parted lips
• A gasp
• A small jump, flinching or leaping back
• Takes a shuffling step or two back
• A small yelp, gasp, squeal or scream
• Tingling skin
• Heavy feeling in stomach
• Sudden stiffening posture, rigid muscles
• Widening or bulging eyes
• Shaking head, voicing denial
• Struggle to speak, jittery voice
• Racing heartbeat
• Breathlessness
• Crumpling against someone else, hiding face against their shoulder or chest
• Shaking hands
• A sudden coldness (dread) that hits at the core
• Hand reaches up to lightly clasp throat
• Splay fingers out in a fan against breastbone
• Turning away from others
• Raising hand to ward off others from approaching, speaking
• Clutching onto a purse, a coat, etc
• Pulling books or other object tight against chest
• Eyes water, shine, tears form
• A sudden onset of anger or frustration (swearing, screaming, acting violent)
• Shoving or making contact with someone involved (a punch to the arm, poking chest, pushing shoulder)
• Flight reaction (walking/running away, leaving the room, hiding behind a door, etc) not wanting others to witness emotional turmoil
• Incredulous stare
• Dazed look
• Voice is shaky, soft, halting, disbelieving
• Asking simple questions for clarification: who, when, why?
• A feeling of disorientation, dizziness, euphoria
• A shaky or slow smile that builds as surprise sinks in
• Grabbing onto someone close by (their arm, hand) for comfort, affirmation
• A bark of laughter❣ ||Somber||• Quiet, unmoving
• Soft spoken, devoid of emotion, deadpan
• A still or grave expression
• A sad & serious demeanor
• A darker or weighted outlook, negativity
• Hands folded in lap
• Sitting quietly
• Flaccid yet unwelcoming (closed) body language
• A tendency to look down
• Monotone voice
• A thoughtful expression, thinking before speaking
• Dark or heavy observations
• A bleak mood that affects others, lessens energy, brings people 'down'
• Melancholy, gloomy
• An inward gaze or unfocused stare
• Loose posture
• Unstressed, accepting
• A slow walk, seeming unaware or introspective
• Personality is subdued
• Unsmiling, humorless
• Non reactive to stimulus (laughter, excitement, activities) going on around them
• A desire to be alone
• Searching internally for answers, rather than asking others
• Drab or plain clothing choices, a lack of color
• A grim twist to the mouth
• Difficult to engage in conversation
• Sedate mannerisms, minimal or economical movement
• Non talkative
• Eyes that look dark or serious
• Pensive expression
• Unresponsive; distracted
• Mediocre observations, accepting viewpoint of a negative outcome or realization
• Uninterested in usual hobbies or entertainments❣ ||Stubborness||• A hard shake of the head
• Crossing arms
• Swiping arm across the air between yourself and another in an “Enough!” gesture
• Holding your palm out to someone, signaling they stop, desist
• Raising voice, forceful or heated tone
• Saying ‘No.” or “Forget it.”
• Sarcasm, bitter words, insults or belittling
• Frowning, pursing lips
• Narrowing eyes
• Stiff posture
• Tightness in the face, strong jaw
• Thrusting chin upward
• Making fists at one’s sides
• An emerging temper/anger display (shaking, shouting)
• Squared shoulders, muscles rigid
• Refusing to listen
• Walking away from another person
• Retreating into a personal space (bedroom, in front of the TV, shoving earphones in and tuning out)
• Cranking up music to drown out someone else
• Ignoring others
• Talking to oneself, ranting or raving to justify feelings/actions
• Trying to sway others to your opinion/idea, ignoring their opposition or body language and pressing on regardless
• Heavier breathing than normal
• Closing eyes, squishing face up in a pout
• Thrusting out lip
• A sullen glower/glare
• A temper tantrum (kicking, screaming, drumming feet onto the floor, jumping up and down in place)
• Single-minded determination, a keen focus on goal despite pitfalls/opposition
• Refusing to give up, give in❣ ||Sympathy/Empathy||• Kind words, soothing tone
• Telling someone you understand, that things will work out, that they aren't alone
• Rubbing someone’s back
• Squeezing a shoulder or hand
• Patting their hand
• Lightly stroking a forearm
• offering a sad smile, a nod of understanding
• Eyes narrowing/eyebrows pulling down in concentration
• Crying with the person
• An attempt to cheer up through ‘the bright side’ outlook/analogy "Well, at least now we know," or "This could have been worse if..." etc.
• Using cliches (this too will pass; keep your chin up, etc)
• Giving comfort through gifts, plying a person with food, attention
• Gently touching another’s face
• Hugging, holding, a desire to be near or to make physical contact
• Clumsy attempts to comfort: a weak smile, an awkward hug
• Fumbling for words; not sure what to say
• Floundering hand movements
• Offering the advice of a relative or well-known person ("as my grandpa used to say…")
• Fussing over the person’s appearance straightening/fluffing hair, tugging at collar, brushing shoulders, fiddling with a shirt button or tie) while talking in encouraging tones
• Overt patience—sitting and listening intently, ignoring discomforts (cold, rain, heat, being late) just to be there for someone
Commiseration between guys:
• Saying, “Yeah, I hear you,” or “I feel you man.”
• A soft tap to the arm, a pat on the back
• Light touch on a shoulder
• A one-shoulder shrug
• Bending closer or leaning in with hands in pockets, asking if he’s all right, if he needs to talk
• A heavy nod
• Listening while participating in another activity
• Eyes focused somewhere else while listening, so as not to make the other party uncomfortable with too much attention
• Listening, arms crossed over chest
• Offering to take him somewhere—a walk, a car ride, hang out
• Extending privileges (letting upset guy choose the music in a car, pick a place to eat, rant or rave without commenting or getting offended)
• Agreeing, even if he’s being irrational, letting him blow off steam or talk the trash about others
• Offering to avenge the offended party
• Attempting to distract through activity (going to the movies, to a party, etc)
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Posted: Sun Oct 12, 2008 5:48 pm
[Resources: Emotions U-Z] ❣ ||Uncertainty/Unconvinced||·A delayed response
·Pursing lips in thought
·A head tilt and pause
·A shake of the head
·A non-committal answer, "Maybe," or "We'll see."
·Avoiding hurting feelings or escalating an argument by changing the topic/diversion rather than open support
·Pressing lips in a fine line
·Raised eyebrows & eye contact
·Clearing the throat, fiddling with jewelry or other mannerisms that indicate one is uncomfortable
·Shrugging
·A trembling lip
·a hesitating nod
·Refusing to speak or answer, letting the silence do the talking
·Nodding, but with a pained look to show that one is still not fully committed
·Dragging footsteps
·Delaying action, asking for more time to consider
·Crossing arms, confrontational
·Making excuses for not falling into line and agreeing
·A smirk or eye roll, but refuses to push the issue beyond that
·Flapping your hand at someone, dismissing them or their idea
·Questioning, asking for proof, presenting possible consequences
·Polite verbal opposition
·A condescending smile
·A quick eyebrow raise/eye widening, either at the person proposing the idea, or behind their back with another person present.
·Opening mouth to argue and then purposefully stopping self and uttering a platitude instead. "If you say so," or "All right then."
·An inability to sit still, restless movements (pacing, tapping fingers against table, clock watching, etc).
·Suggesting the decision is delayed until another arrives to add their thoughts (a person better qualified to lead, for example)
·Suggesting a vote of majority, or to investigate further
·Tightness in the face, an inward stare
·Rigid body posture
·Rubbing the back of the neck without making eye contact
·A furrowed brow
·Biting or chewing on lip
·Biting fingernails
·Getting up to leave the table, room, etc. escaping the conflict or the people presenting the options
·Gossiping with others, running a person down for their choices, ideas or leadership
·Sniping remarks
·Biting the inside of the cheek
·Licking lips repeatedly
·'Hmming and Hawing"
·Bringing up the past, referencing similar events that did not pan out
·Hashing over all the possibilities of what could go wrong
·A purposeful shiver or shudder
·Running hands through the hair, nervous
·A heavy sigh
·Walking away
·Tapping finger against the tabletop, trying to hit a point home in opposition
·Asking, "Are you sure?" or "What if?" questions
·Waving away someone's point of view with the hand
·A jutting chin
·Pouting
·A dark, silent look
·An unreadable glaze
·Wrinkling the nose like there's a bad smell❣ ||Unease||• shaking one's head
• crossing/uncrossing arms or legs
• shifting around in chair
• twisting/pulling at clothing
• slipping hands in pockets
• glancing at a person, a clock, a door, etc, then looking away
• chewing on a fingernail
• drawing mouth into a straight line and biting lip
• attempting to loosen up by taking slow breaths
• excessive swallowing
• voice is shaky
• eyes dart nervously around the room
• flips hair back (female)
• a need to have something to do(apply lipgloss, text people, root in purse)
• combs fingers through hair
• use bangs to hide face
• unnaturally quiet
• throat clearing
• chills
• frowning
• pushes food around on plate
• actively tries to stay unnoticed (slumps in chair, doesn’t add to the conversation, edges toward an exit)
• pretending to be unaware of shouting, an argument or uncomfortable event
• to turn slowly, unwillingly
• speaking or approaching someone with obvious reluctance
• pausing during dialogue, stilted dialogue
• a tapping heel
• fiddling with jewelry, props (purse, napkin, coffee cup)
• a swinging foot suddenly becomes still
• scrunching oneself up in a chair or sofa
• choosing a safe spot to wait (watching a doorway, back to the wall, corner, etc)
• flicking through a magazine without reading
• fidgeting
• rocking back and forth, shifting weight
• acting fearless by lifting chin
• consciously forcing body limbs to relax
• pacing
• closing eyes and taking calming breaths
• rapid speaking/babbling
• nervous laughter
• checking cel/email/etc repeatedly
• hands tighten into fists and loosen
• rigid posture
• exhibiting a nervous habit (picking off nail polish, humming under breath)
sweating or warm, sweaty hands❣ ||Worry||• Wrinkled brow
• Eyebrows drawing together
• Biting lip
• Hands drumming
• Feet bouncing/tapping
• Pulling at hair
• Pacing
• Uncertainty over choices made
• Unwillingness to leave a certain place (telephone, house, car, etc)
• Sleeplessness
• Circles under the eyes
• Lack of appetite
• Weight loss
• Rumpled, unwashed clothes
• Lank or unruly (uncared for) hair
• Premature gray
• New wrinkles
• Inability to focus
• Jumping at the sound of the phone or doorbell
• A need to control
• Illogical fears
• Panic attacks
• Lack of communication with others
• Distancing self from others
• Rubbing at face repeatedly
• Clinging to loved ones
• Taking deep breaths in an effort to calm oneself
• Adopting new hobbies to distract oneself
• Pointless busyness
• Putting up a "false front", as if everything is okay
• Slipping grades/poor performance at work
• Calling in sick
• Reading into things/over-analyzing
• Stooped posture
• Clutching at sweater/purse/knees/a necklace charm for comfort
• A strained or faked smile
• Biting at nails
• Chewing on a knuckle
• Clock, phone, email or door watching
• Running a jerky hand through the hair or over clothes, smoothing and re-smoothing
• Pinching or biting down on lips
• Clasping hands tight
• A stiff neck, strained muscles
• A pained or watery gaze
• A gaze that flits around the room, never settling on a person or object for long
• Throat clearing
• Blinking rarely (as if worried one might miss something)
• Fidgeting, having a hard time sitting still❣ ||Wounded/Hurt||• Pain in the chest
• A sudden clenching of the stomach
• Mouth agape
• Rapid blinking
• Speechlessness
• Flinching as if physically slapped
• Hunching over, pressing a hand to the stomach
• A jerking walk or run (fleeing others or a circumstance)
• Watering, hot eyes that rapidly give over to uncontrollable crying
• Replaying a hurtful event over and over, obsessing over the details that lead to the betrayal
• Asking questions, over and over: "How could she? Why me?"
• Crumpling into a ball, sagging onto a chair, sliding to the floor with back to the wall
• Retreating to a safe place and not coming out (bedroom, school washroom, etc)
• Staying in bed, showing signs of depression (retreating inward, cutting off contact with others, not going to work/school, etc)
• A feeling of nausea
• Self-loathing
• Hurt manifesting as violence (throwing items close to hand, damaging property, etc, finding release in breaking things and causing damage)
• Wanting payback--planning and/or carrying out an attack on the person who hurt them, bringing them down or humiliating them
• Lashing out at others not involved because it's safe (yelling at a parent, putting down a younger brother, ridiculing a friend), wanting others to hurt
• Closed off body posture
• Flinching at being touched
• Avoiding contact with others
• Seeking out comfort of a trusted or loved one
• Wanting to be held, touched, loved, coddled
• Weeping
• Becoming a 'drama queen' by wanting own way, wanting others to sympathize, freaking out over small stuff, pouting
• Heavy limbs and numbness
• Not caring about appearance (blotchy make up from crying, tangled, messy hair, etc)
• A tendency to wear loose, baggy 'comfort clothing'
• Holing up at home, refusing to go out or interact with others
• Avoiding the place where one was hurt, or the people who were involved
• Splotchy skin from crying, red nose, puffy eyes and lips
• Holding books/backpack against the chest like a shield
• Refusing to make eye contact
• A trembling lip or lips pressed tightly together
• Shaking the head in denial
• Covering the mouth with a hand
• Hyperventilating or uneven breathing
• A sudden weakness--leaning against a locker, wall, doorway or person for support
• Clumsiness through a desire to escape (fumbling with a locker combo, bumping into people, dropping books and leaving them where they fall)
• Rushing from a party or event, forgetting a coat/purse or other personal items
• Missing appointments or calling in sick
• Flawed judgement from a desire to flee or to protect oneself
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