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Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 10:17 pm
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Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 11:48 pm
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Posted: Thu May 15, 2008 5:35 am
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Posted: Thu May 15, 2008 5:44 pm
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Posted: Thu May 15, 2008 6:55 pm
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Posted: Thu May 15, 2008 11:25 pm
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Posted: Fri May 16, 2008 12:09 am
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I wish I had the chance to know my mom's mom better than I did, she passed away due to breast cancer before I reestablished contact with my mom. As for my dad's mom...
G-ma (yeah we even call her that)...the best way to sum her up is actually something I read off a pillow a few years back that I bought for G-ma for mom's day.
A Grandma is a little bit parent, a little bit teacher and a little bit best friend.
G-ma and G-Pa raised my brothers and I from the time I was 4 years old right after my parents divorced, till I was around 11 years old when Dad married the *itch. When I moved out of my dad's place when I was 20, G-ma was my link back to my family. My and and brothers are all bad about answering their phones. So at least once a day I would call her and chat about anything and every thing. She is the one person I can honestly turn to when everything around me is falling apart. She let me move back in when I was 23, I've lived with her since. Sure we have are arguements here and there, but in the end we're still close.
I tell her all the time that she is going to live forever, along with her siser my Aunt Betty. lol G-ma will be 70 years old this year, and going bowling every Friday morning, goes to bingo at least twice a week, and still works at the same hotel I do when we need her. She most likely the most active "old lady" I know. lol
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Posted: Fri May 16, 2008 6:28 am
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 3:13 pm
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 4:55 pm
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Well, I have no grandparents living left to say the least. sweatdrop I never really got acquainted with my maternal grandma as she passed away when I was only one or two. My paternal grandma ("Granny" as we called her) was a bit of a predjudiced person and also very old-fashioned.
I learned a great deal of how NOT to act as she and my mom never got along very well. They practically always yelled at one another or got on one another's nerves quite frequently. I was often sent to easedrop on conversations that Granny had with the rest of the family to tell my mom what they were saying about her. confused
Granny also seemed to not get along with people who were not white. She felt that whites were the best it seemed. She was also very old-fashioned in the respect that, when I said I didn't like to cook or sew she told me I'd never attract a man that way. She even told me that I shouldn't want to do things that were considered a man's job, e.g., doctor or lawyer. xd Those were my two things that I always wanted to be for as long as I can remember (and I still have some of that passion in me, but not as much).
Granny (and the rest of the paternal side of my family) is also very penny-pinchy. They would/and do (not that there's anything wrong with any of this, but they do/did it to the extreme) shop at thrift stores, use greeting cards that are at least 20 or 30 years old, believe that a single US dollar will buy you at least 20 pieces of candy, wrap tape over and over (and over, etc.) a single AA battery so as not to buy a size D battery for a clock that requires one, and refuse to buy new clothing and undergarments (I know this because after she passed away I found several yellowed and ratty bras, underware, and slips in her drawers).
Lastly, we always (Steven and I that is) would turn in our report cards or grades to her and for every "A" that was on the card we would get one US dollar! I suppose that's why I strive so hard now to get A's, but I don't get paid any more for them. cry
On a different note, I have adopted (no not legally), two wonderful women as my new grandmas. One (Sara) is from my parish, who is not doing so well at the moment and requires a lot of attention and prayers. She always smiles and laughs. She is very frail and yet always seems to be happy and proud of Steven and me with what we can and do accomplish. The second woman is a co-worker of mine (Sandy). She is short (even shorter than I am), has what I call salt-and-pepper hair, wears glasses and enjoys my company. She called me once when I went on lunch break and she just got off work. Her only message on my voice mail was "I'm sitting here in my car watching you eat lunch. It was nice to see you at work today. Talk at you later. Bye." I had been sick both mentally and physically for a little over two weeks, and finally made it back to work that day. I had seriously thought about quitting even though I needed the money (just like now) desperately. That gave me enough courage and strength back to make it the rest of the day and week. It also convinced me that I am very important to at least one of my co-workers.
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Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 1:33 pm
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My grandmother became my mother in 1989. My own mother passed away from a brain aneurysm and she took over immediately. Although my dad may be the favorite in the sense of her biological children (yes, she has a favorite but loves her kids equally. It's just that he's the youngest son who stuck around her the most. My aunt stuck with grandpa more.) I am her "fourth child" in a sense. She gave me a home with lots of love and support. She fed me, made nice clothes with me, and put up with a LOT of my crazy ways. She helped me and my dad out a lot. In her hayday she was an esteemed seamstress. She's a good old fashioned Southern lady who still believes in wearing a girdle under all clothes and that makeup makes a woman feel good. She has a serious sweet tooth but sticks to a pretty good diet. She's a bit of a neat freak and a spit fire. (lol Gemini!) If she gets mad enough, she's liable to say anything on her mind. Nevertheless, she is a very sweet and caring woman. That's why it's been a little hard lately to deal with her dementia. She's not a bad person at all for it, but, it has changed her personality and her way of remembering. All the family is being patient with her and we even took her to our nice time share in Orlando. Dad let her use the hot tub and we even took her to a fancy seafood place. You know, I'd love to have her around forever to watch me do my thing, have my kids and get married. Hell, I want everyone to be around forever. I know that cannot be but I know where you are coming from. I've got tears in my eyes as I write this because the subject of grandmothers is a dear thing to me. I mean sometimes yes she and I argue but she loves me unconditionally and I'd break my back to do anything for her. I do my best to love her as she is and what she has done for me. That is why based on your post alone, I know there is lots of love between you and your gramma. Remember and celebrate the times you have had with her. Cherish, love her, and do all you can for her now. I mean, I don't have to say that because I am sure you're doing that now. You have my and everyone else's support here. *hugs*
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Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 7:40 pm
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