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do we have the right to judge other people because they are different to us?? i mean aren't we all different to eachother anyway?? i believe that people find it hard to have certain preferences, mainly because they are frightened to what other people will say or think about them. what do you think?? do you hide your true self to keep life easier for you or do you shout your opinions loud and proud no matter what anybody else thinks about them??
does your personality often get judged?? if so.. how do you feel abou it?? what helps you to stand by your beliefs and opinions??
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I dont believe we have the right to judge people just because they are different from whatever we are. I wouldnt judge someone based on whether they're black, gay, white, or whatever.. if I'm going to judge someone, it's going to be based on their words and actions. what someone is doesnt matter.. who someone is, does.

logic, odds of probability, observation, fairness, and conviction all help me stand by my beliefs and opinions on myself, others, and the world in general. I dont "shout my opinions" out when it's uncalled for or in bad taste, but if I'm asked, I let my stance be known and stand proudly by them. and if someone doesnt like it, that's their problem. if they want to dislike me for it, it's their choice and wouldnt bother me in the least. the only opinions I value are of those whom I care about and who care about me, and those people have already proven to have accepted me for who I am, not what I am. and if someone doesnt accept me for who I am, they're not worth my time.

We are all human beings. therefore, none of us are any better than any other human being. Thus we can not possibly have the right to judge one another.

We have to judge each other; it's part of how we get along in society. We have every right to use what we know about the world and about people to make judgments about those people and about how we want to interact with them.

What we do not have the right to do is to force our judgments on other people, or to use our judgments to discriminate against a person or a group of people unfairly.

When I was in high school, I was very quiet and pretty shy. Most of the time I tried to be invisible because I was terrified of being judged on my appearance, my voice, my ideas, my interests, etc. I thought that if I just stayed quiet and out of everyone's way, no one would have any reason to judge me--but I was being judged anyway and constantly.

People decided I was conceited because I didn't talk to them at lunch. People thought I believed myself to be better than them because I didn't seem to want to associate with them. In fact, the opposite was true, but the point is that no one is ever safe from being judged. If someone is not judging you, then their brain is not functioning properly. It's part of how we process information--first we take it in, then we synthesize it with what we already know, then we make judgments about it.

The trick is to accept that people are judging you no matter what and to be okay with whatever they come up with because you are comfortable with yourself. I'm still working on it!

I judge people based on smell. Well not really a smell so much as a vibe but it feels like I should be smelling something awful when they're around. I have yet to be wrong. At the store it's a very good thing to have. I get a bad smell off someone and they're not a good person.
We had a man that would come in all the time very friendly, very nice, I don't like his smell turns out he was stealing.
A man came in one again very nice, very friendly a bad smell but I ignore it, say forget it he acts very nice. Was using a stolen credit card.
We've had people dirty, gross, fidgety, broke. I like smell and help pay for smokes, they promise to pay me back next week and they do.
I didn't like a friends cousin, bad smell. Turns out he likes to get drunk and high than break other people property. Like car windows at the hospital.

well, I am no longer in high school. Back then there were so many ppl hanging with their own friends and shunning others. I was brutally judged all the time. early on, I stopped giving a damn and so my friends were generally the outcasts ON PURPOSE. I can tell you for a fact, they are the most interesting ppl around. I hung with the fat kid, the nerd, the wuss, the hyperactive freak, etc. when we were finally graduating in 2007, one friend was voted most annoying guy, AND TOOK IT AS A COMPLIMENT!!! unfortunatly, the most annoying girl complained and so they took his moment of glory out of the yearbook. That is truly annoying in my book. LOL.

But the point here is this: After all that time going to school with all these judgers, it all no longer matters. It has not even been a year yet, and already I am already on friendly terms with many of them via facebook, myspace, etc. Some of those ladies who were "out of my league" now are friendly and flirting with me. some of the harshest bullies are no longer the case. all in all, we finally left school, hit reality, then looked back and realized how much we all missed one another, friends or enemies. (well, I didn't. I hated that place. But I am nice to those who are nice to me. very non-judgemental, so I accept them for the former jerks they are. Now, they are the ones appoligizing to ME and being friendly to ME.)