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 Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2007 8:21 pm
Ok, so, I'm extremely interested in a guy that most would call a "prep". His feelings are mutual to mine. Now I haven't been here in a while, but I'm no longer a "HxC" goth, I've gone for a girlier look that's a little more flattering to the female figure. I'm still black haired and pail skinned.
Even though I'm falling into the "preppy goth" lable right now, all of my friends are freaking out that I like a guy that works at the GAP and dresses in thier clothing too.
SPORKS:
~Are you ever attracted to some one in a different "lable"
~Have you ever dated some one from another "lable"
~Do you feel awkward around people who normally thing you "diferent" just because you dress in black.
~Any thing else you want to chat about!
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Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2007 9:44 pm
You don't need to worry about your legitimacy - the term "HxC" is just a crock, anyway.
Plus, it's completely unfair for your friends to start berating you just because you're interested in someone outside of the subculture. Acceptance is essential, no matter what social group you belong to.
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-Resurrected Writer- Crew
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Posted: Fri Aug 24, 2007 10:07 pm
Do whatever the ******** you want.
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Posted: Sat Aug 25, 2007 10:40 am
Good job on it, and I encourage it heartily. For if we are to praise acceptance for other subcultures, we must do the same thing.
[Borat]Great Success![/Borat]
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Posted: Sun Aug 26, 2007 4:31 pm
My boyfriend's different to me.
I'm into rockabilly/psychobilly mainly.
And a lot of other things.
Christina Aguliaria was on my top 8 for God's sake next to Type O Negative.
And he's all into metal.
I'm into fashion, he's not.
I believe in diferent things even if it's how we should dress to a certain place.
I bug the hell out of him alot though.
I love tattoos and piercings but he'd never get a piercing.
Oh and I'm apparently violent and he's calm.
So what I'm saying is..so what if you're different?
Tell them opposites attract.
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 1:12 pm
It matters nothing what the two of you look/dress/act like, just so long as you damned well get along, he treats you right, and you're both happy.
Sure, in teenage years it all matters soo desperately much that you fit in, in the long run, you'll just be held back by those kind of impulses, fist it'll be "can I hang out with these people, they're not of my subculture" then "can I go out with this person, they're not of my subculture" eventually it'll be "can I live here" (seriously, in the UK there's a rather gothy area called camden, some idiots will want to pay over the odds for a crappy appartment there rather than a cheaper slightly better one somewhere else - though, its London so its all overpriced) then to "can I get this job, its not of my subculture"
Screw it all, do what the ******** you like, tell people to ******** off if they tell you you're not "their type" they're weak, they're pathetic, they ain't worth it. Don't fall into that idiocy, woman!
.... end rant redface
btw, I'm uber metal, my bf was jus a little metal fledgling when we started, and was wearing a pink button down shirt. Beautiful things can happen with people that aren't obviously similar to you. Outward appearances mean nothing; inner is better 3nodding if he's a decent guy, give it a shot hun
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 4:38 am
I think it's perfectly acceptable to date someone outside the subculture. My boyfriend's probably what most would call an 'emo'. I actually get along well with him really well. I even went with him to see some screamo band he liked and despite not really looking forward, I ended up having a good time.
You will find things to talk about and do together. It's not like you're dating an alien. He's human too. Just as long he respects you and the subculture you belong in and vice versa, there isn't much harm in having a shot. You never know, he could end up being the love of your life.
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Posted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 12:10 pm
Don't let differences, peer pressure, and other such trivial things take over your life.
If you love him, you love him. Who cares what bands he listens to, or how he dresses?
I bet if you were to take a poll, very few couples would be too similar. Personally, I don't feel like marrying a clone of myself.
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Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 5:21 pm
Sarah the Tree Do whatever the ******** you want.
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Posted: Tue Sep 25, 2007 5:37 pm
If you like him and he likes you, go for it! Don't let other people's opinions stop you from getting a boyfriend that you like!
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Posted: Tue Sep 25, 2007 9:26 pm
Labels don't affect who you date, unless you really follow them, I honestly don't, I would just want someone who I can be happy with and enjoy being with.
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Posted: Wed Sep 26, 2007 8:17 am
Sarah the Tree Do whatever the ******** you want.
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Posted: Thu Sep 27, 2007 12:15 pm
My thoughts:
Your true friends will be happy for you if you are happy. Just make sure that he accepts you the way you are. He must not follow your cult, but he must not stop you from doing what you want. And you don`t tell him what to do. If you both accept each other as you are, all is fine. That is all what matters. Your friends will get used to the new situation and maybe lower their labels attitude. smile I don´t like labels. There is a german saying: show me who you hang with and I tell you who you are. That is not true in my opinion. You are who you are and even if you date someone who does not fit in your cult, you`re still you. You don´t define yourself through him, and he does not define himself through you. Your friends and his friends will notice that and it will be all right.
I dated once someone who was in style, music and most interests the total opposite of me .( He loved mountains, I love the ocean, he liked Jazz, I don´t like Jazz, he liked getting up early, I want to sleep till lunch, I like wearing victorian age gothic clothes, he did not like that, and a lot of more things)
Nevertheless it worked fine, we had other things in common like food taste, movie taste, romance, and more, however it might happen that what you want to do ( example go into a gothic club) is not liked by him or the other way around. In such cases remember that for a good relationship one must not stick together 24/7. !!!!
He did not understand that. Knew there was a place he would not like, but said one has to be together 24/7, came with me, sat there with an angry face and basically destroyed my evening.
If you two tolerate each other and respect each others freedom, go for him biggrin .
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Posted: Sun Sep 30, 2007 4:30 pm
My last boyfriend was actually of another 'label.' He was full on 'prep,' as others would say. I consider myself in the punkish goth category, if I had to label myself, which I don't like to do, mind you.
And about being different, I never feel awkward around others who would call me 'strange' or 'creepy.' I find it quite amusing actually. The fact that others say that I'm the lowest of the low, yet they care enough to ask me about my fashion sence, is absolutely hilarious. So when someone says, "You're so stupid and you don't matter. Why do you dress like that?" I just smile and say, "I thought I didn't matter." They end up making a face and walking off mumbling something under their breath, or they call me a freak and run away, but I find that amusing as well.
But alas, never will everyone understand why we're all the way we are. We just are, and we can never be different than what our true selves are. Personally, I think it's perfectly fine for you to like this 'preppy' guy. C: As long as you're happy with him.
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Posted: Fri Oct 05, 2007 12:37 am
XXX Zombie Porn My boyfriend's different to me. I'm into rockabilly/psychobilly mainly. And a lot of other things. Christina Aguliaria was on my top 8 for God's sake next to Type O Negative. And he's all into metal. I'm into fashion, he's not. I believe in diferent things even if it's how we should dress to a certain place. I bug the hell out of him alot though. I love tattoos and piercings but he'd never get a piercing. Oh and I'm apparently violent and he's calm.So what I'm saying is..so what if you're different? Tell them opposites attract. I never once said I was calm, I'm the first to admit I'm an angry person... but you are violent, I have scars to prove it. D; But yeah, we're different, especially when going out on a friday, where she likes to get dressed up and I'll just wear jeans and a tee shirt, maybe a shirt over if its a classy place. And I'm not all into metal... just... mostly
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