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 Posted: Mon Jul 24, 2006 2:51 pm
Yeah... no one will probably remember me, but whatever sweatdrop
But I was Celtic Wind Demon on my old account.
Anywho, a topic (which has probably already been used a thousand times before. So be it)
I just discovered/admited yesterday that I was bi. Long story short, my friend (another girl) was over, I knew that she'd liked me for a while, so I kissed her and it kinda went on from there.
But I've not told my parents yet.
Truthfully, I'm afraid to tell them. My mom's a seriously judgemental person and nearly my entire family are devoted Christians. But it feels terrible hiding this from them.
What should I do? x.x;
Any similar experiences?
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Posted: Mon Jul 24, 2006 3:04 pm
I just told my friend that I was Bi last week, it was much harder though because she was homophobic and all, but it all worked out. I still havent told my parents... Im debatting if i should or not like you. My advice to you is if it bothers because your not telling them then you should tell them. It would make you feel alot better, and I'm sure they will understand.
sweatdrop I know my advice isn't that good, but if you ever have any question or want more advice PM me 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Jul 24, 2006 3:20 pm
Dark_Fluffy-Chan I just told my friend that I was Bi last week, it was much harder though because she was homophobic and all, but it all worked out. I still havent told my parents... Im debatting if i should or not like you. My advice to you is if it bothers because your not telling them then you should tell them. It would make you feel alot better, and I'm sure they will understand. sweatdrop I know my advice isn't that good, but if you ever have any question or want more advice PM me 3nodding Yeah, I really just wanna get it off my chest, but my mom doesn't even like me wearing guys clothes (which fit me better than girl's), so I just don't want her to think any less of me than she already does. Thanks for the advice. Only time will tell 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Jul 24, 2006 8:13 pm
My family is very Christian as well, but they've always made an effort to be open minded about that kind of stuff. I still haven't come out to them, but it's more out of me not knowing how to bring up the subject...
I don't think I'd have any trouble telling my mum, but I'd rather not tell my dad... It's not that I think he'll over react... He wouldn't be happy, but he wouldn't disown me or even yell at me or anything like that. But, it's more that I just don't talk to my dad about stuff like that, so it would be weird to tell him...
In any case, both my parents know that I'm a strong supporter of equal rights, and that I support gay marriage, so I doubt it would surprise them. In fact, they probably already suspect that I'm gay, but yeah...
I figure I'll wait until I have an actual girlfriend before telling them, 'cause otherwise I don't see a point.
I came out to most of my friends, though... But that was easy enough, because I wasn't the first of my friends to come out. (Granted, most of the ones that "came out" in High School now admit that it was just a phase, and now identify as straight) Still, it made it a lot easier to say it, 'cause I knew that they'd probably just think "Ah, yeah? Her too? Cool, whatever."
EDIT: Forgot that you were asking for advice on it, too. sweatdrop
I'd say that it depends on how homophobic your parents are. Start by seeing what they think of equal rights, then slowly worm your way up to finding out what they think about homosexuality. If you get that far, and it looks like a volcano may explode, then at least you can say that it's just your interests in equal rights that made you ask.
A common misconception is that all Christians are homophobes. This is far from the truth, so don't let your family's Christian values scare you away from coming out to them. (Though, like I said, tread lightly)
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Posted: Thu Jul 27, 2006 6:59 pm
ok, haha. i dont kno why i'm talking about this.
Are u sure that u're bi?
I once thought I was bi and i went around and was "coming out" to all my loved ones. And then, I figured out I wasnt bi. So, I had to go back and tell everyone I wasnt bi and make a big deal out of it to make sure everyone knew. Some ppl still dont kno. Do u kno how weird it is to go "Um, I made a mistake. I'm straight" or "I'm pansexual actually. Sorry."
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Posted: Tue Aug 01, 2006 10:53 pm
When I realized for sure I wanted to yell it. Or declare it. I have become more unsure since and I am glad I didn't. Um... my mom kinda figured it out... my dad... accidentally came upon a correspondence between my lover and myself on paper... that was... slightly... suggestive. He freaked out. I think it displeased him more that I didn't tell him I was dating someone for about a year, though. I dont know. It really depends on your parentals. It can go really badly. I dont think I did the official come out thing. My friends just kind of... knew, or came to know. Of course, I am not really sure what I would declare. I think these things are somewhat fluid anyway, especially during adolecence.
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Posted: Thu Nov 09, 2006 9:07 pm
i sat my parents down and said"mom dad. . .IM STRAIGHT!"they just looked confused for 5 minutes,but they excepted my non the less!
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Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 11:43 pm
My parents wouldn't care, and my friends all know. I lack drama, damnit.
I also lack good advice.
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Posted: Sat Dec 02, 2006 11:59 pm
KaitouKunoichi Yeah... no one will probably remember me, but whatever sweatdrop But I was Celtic Wind Demon on my old account. Anywho, a topic (which has probably already been used a thousand times before. So be it) I just discovered/admited yesterday that I was bi. Long story short, my friend (another girl) was over, I knew that she'd liked me for a while, so I kissed her and it kinda went on from there. But I've not told my parents yet. Truthfully, I'm afraid to tell them. My mom's a seriously judgemental person and nearly my entire family are devoted Christians. But it feels terrible hiding this from them. What should I do? x.x; Any similar experiences? kinda long srry....run-ons and stuff well alot of my friends no im bi and i no how it felt only i had really no reson to tell cuz they waz of the opposite sex and turns out she was bi to so it made me feel good but thats not what i wanted o say i wanted to say that i think its great that you came out to your friend i love when i hear ppl do that it makes me proud 2 be bi but anyway i think that you SHOULDNT tell your parents i mean if it makes you feel all guilty by all means take the plunge and tell them but really i feel that they dont need to no or have a right to and you can keep your sexual prefferences to urself and ur circle of friends or just that friend or whatever what im saying is i wouldnt tell you parents unless you wanted to do sumthing with that person that you normally wouldnt do with a friend and they would think somethings up if you dont tell them (im not going to tell my parents till im 18 and on my own and have a my (mabey not my curent one) bf holding my hand by my side the whole time) but thats just me
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Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 11:04 pm
Our stories sound so similiar it's scary. Well not scary.. just.. ironic. Augh. I can't find the words. I found that I was bi about 3 years ago. Almost a year ago me and my best friend admited we liked each other and kissed - and the relationship progressed from there. We've ben together, and neither of us have told our parents. [Her parents - my sister/gaurdian] My sister + her husband know we're together - but I chose not to talk about it because my brother-in-law is perverted. [lol] They don't believe that I'm bi though. ^^"
Not all Christians are homophobic [I'm living proof]. It depends on your parents beliefs and whatnot. I personally don't worry about it because I don't live with my parents anymore and it's none of their business either.
I agree with RionaDaidouji concerning the methods of testing the waters with your parents. If you really think they should know, tell them. If you think that they wouldn't be okay with it, keep it to yourself until you become an independent adult. But - they're your parents. Most likely they'll love you no matter what. <3
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Posted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 8:32 am
raynebou hippy i sat my parents down and said"mom dad. . .IM STRAIGHT!"they just looked confused for 5 minutes,but they excepted my non the less! Hmm...advice... I pretty much agree with the advice that VBunny and Dark_Fluffy-Chan gave, so sorry I don't have that much to add. If it's really bothering you that you're not telling them, though, you probably will feel better after doing so. Just remember that you're not required to tell anyone - who you love is your business, and no one else has to know if you don't want them to. I'm not that good at advice, sorry, but I really hope everything works out for you heart
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