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 Posted: Tue Jan 28, 2014 7:08 pm
I'm 18, and have been praying a lot for a husband. Months now. I lost my mother 20 days ago.
A 25-year-old man added me on facebook a week ago, saying he was sorry for my loss and we started chatting and texting. Yesterday we texted for 5 hours straight. He talked about meeting up, and today he said he'd cook for me. He's also a Christian, and we have talked about Christian things. I don't know him in real life but go to church with his brother.
In short, my question is, is he a player or does he seem sincere? I sure hope this is God's will but wonder if he is coming on too strong.
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Posted: Wed Feb 05, 2014 6:19 am
I don't think I can tell you whether he's being sincere or a player based on just that. So, a few questions to ask yourself: among the things you chatted about, was dating and marriage one of the topics? did he mention dating other people in the past? wanting to marry? Also, think back on anything you might have said which would make him come on strong. Perhaps, he too has been praying for a godly spouse for a long while, a possibility for why he's coming on strong? You could always ask his brother about him, or ask him directly what his intentions are: if this is just his typical Christian hospitality or him showing interest in you. From the conversations you had with him, would you say Christ genuinely seemed like the focus of his life? the basis for the decisions he makes in life? Because if you can deduce that, his chances of being a player are slim. Right now, all you can do is get to know him a little better and pray to our Heavenly Father to show you signs, reveal things about him, through circumstances or what have you, to let you know whether you should pursue this as solely friendship or more.
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iamlost4ever Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Feb 27, 2014 2:47 pm
You can also talk to his brother. What church does he go to?
Meet in public until you get to know him. Don't put yourself in a place to be alone with him in his home or yours until you know him better. You want to keep to public places where there is no possibly of making out.
Set boundaries early. Let him know you are looking for someone long term and not a fling. Let him know that making out is not going to happen.
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