When a relationship ends you can not hang on to the hope of it fixing itself as soon as you manage to change one aspect of what was wrong prior to the end of the relationship. Many things need to change in order for someone who has given it all to want to try again.
Example A and B have been in an unhealthy relationship for almost two years.
They break up becauae its just too much. Person B says that they will get a job thinking that Person A will go back out with them.
Person A meets Person B
Person B is in school part time
Person A is in school full time and dedicated
Person B always goofing off
Person A always busy with school
Time passes
Person A and B fall for one another
Person A is driven towards finishing school
Person B quits school isnt working
Person A starts missing school to spend time with person B
Person A does best to accept person B and support financially and emotionally
Person B refuses to work
Person A needs to focus on school and isnt given time to do so
Person A begins to spend less time so person B finds others to talk too
Person A stays loyal and focused on school and person B
Time passes
Person B when Person A goes home for school breaks wanders
Person A is monogamous
Person B is not
Person A can not handle this leaves Person B
Person B decides fine I will go get a job
Person A says that is not enough
I left out many details obviously.
In my course of life coaching things are not this cut and dry. However sometimes they can be. One change isnt going to fix things. That is quite obvious.
I presented this case here because this kind of stuff happens alot to a lot of people. Its very stressful. Person A is looking for other peoples opinions. Person A would like to know what others would do.
When you love some one how long to you wait for changes during a relationship and after?
How much do you handle?
How many chances do you give someone?
How much forgiveness?
How many mistakes?
How would you have handled this?
It is a shame people I care about suffer. It is a shame people I do not know suffer. We are human we make mistakes. If we share our knowledge and our mistakes perhaps we would not make the same ones others have made. Who knows. Food for thought.
However if you have some time please give advice for person A.
I do not have all the answers. I am not a teenager. I am not always right. I am still learning the ways of the world. There is always so much to learn and do and see.
Blessings and light folks!
