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 Posted: Sun Jan 06, 2013 7:20 pm
SERIOUSLY! I feel like my parents are treating me like a four year old! They have a schedule for me, they're giving me curfews, and they use childish taunts thinking I'll fall for them and do what I'm told.
Are you ******** serious? I'm 14 dammit, I'm a teen. I have a brain. I don't need a ******** curfew. I don't need a ******** schedule. I'm not a ******** baby anymore.
They can't process that s**t through their damn brains. I wish they would get the hell out of their doki-doki love me hate me land and snap into reality. ******** this s**t, I'm sick of it. I can take care of myself, by myself.
I'm grateful for all they have done for me, but really....
For once in my life, can't they listen to the wishes I have? Like treating me like an adult....? I hate this baby s**t.
.......Rant done.
Sorry for all the swearing, and the over usage of the F word and s**t.. I just...really needed to get that off my chest....
But really, I am, in all honesty, grateful for what they're doing for me, and the care they're giving me. They just won't listen though. Well, honest...
Dad listens. My mom doesn't though..
I want to tell them how I really feel, but not sure how I should approach them with this. Any tips?
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Posted: Sun Jan 06, 2013 7:38 pm
Throughout my very limited, very short life experience that I've had. I find the best way to get along with your parents is to do well in school, and do your chores. When I was 14 I had a curfew at 9:00pm every night, and though I hated it, it was for my best. I actually needed that sleep, it's hard to function without it. But, if you really want to have your parent's approval in what you do, do your chores, do well in school, and they will give you an extended curfew or whatever you're asking for. Just do what you're told, and you shall receive. Nobody is completely unreasonable,
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Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2013 5:29 pm
Parents can be so annoying sometimes especially with the whole curfew thing. I'm already 22, lived on my own for 4 years in college and they still tell me to be back by 9pm stare I'm going to have to agree with An Ineffable Conclusion on this though. It's best to just do what you're told to avoid arguments because think about it...your parents are providing you with food, clothing, phone and everything else you need. If you show your parents that you appreciate them by saying "yes" and "thank you," I'm sure they will be more open to listening to you. I used to absolutely hate how my parents would boss me around, but now I act like I'm thankful, obedient, and cheerful all the time so they don't nag me as much. And when they tell me to do something I don't want to do or I think is unreasonable, I say as sweetly as I possibly can with a big smile, "Do I really have to? Because blahblahblah -insert aegyo whining here-"
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Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2013 5:42 pm
a curfew for a fourteen-year-old...girl, i know people my age (1 cool that have to be home by SEVEN. and consider when you wake up for school. it's not worth going through school half-awake. i've done that before.
maybe when you're older and get out of the 'I'm so independent' phase, you'll understand.
my advice? shut up, you'll realize it's for the best later. your parents are looking out for you
spicy, parents always think you're three, until you've lived on your own for several years. happened to my oldest sister.
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Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2013 5:43 pm
I'm also 14 and I must say that when your 14 you are not a adult yet, your an adolescent and although you feel like you are changing into an adult, think about it, two years ago you weren't even a teen~! But something that looks like adults don't understand is that age from 13 to 14 is quite a large difference. And although your parents are giving you a curfew you should always think about what they have done for you and what you can do for them to change how they feel about your age. It's hard for them to see it in your eyes but what I am trying to say here is Maybe do some extra chores and help out extra and then once your on they're good side hit em' small with it by saying something like, "Hey Dad do you think you could up my curfew to 9:30?" It's a trick C;
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Posted: Thu Jun 20, 2013 10:19 am
my parents drove me nuts at 14 as well. I had to be home before dark if i was out playing with friends or riding my bike. I had a curfew,i usually abided by that.
i also had to do EVERYTHING around the house as my dad worked all the time...plus homework and a sports schedule to keep up with.
If i wanted to hang out with my friends..they had to come get me and take me home...my dad never drove me ANYWHERE!
it drove me crazy!
Im 21 now and moved out of the house and 3 hours away from them and now i miss them trying to rum ny life for me...i miss the curfew,i miss the way they always threatened to ground me if i didnt do my house work or homework.
While i have learned to cook and clean and drive since i moved away,i still miss them greatly and i still thank them for keeping me safe and out of trouble.
Moral of the story....love your parents...even if they annoy the s**t out of you!
oh and my bfs step daughter lost her mom to cancer at your age...so just be lucky you have BOTH parents who love you and take care of you...even if they do treat you like a small child...
NEWS FLASH: YOU ARE STILL A CHILD!!!!
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Posted: Thu Jun 20, 2013 10:52 am
Grow up, move out, get a job, pay bills, life sucks, learn to appreciate what your parents are doing, realize what a whiny little drama queen you're being right now, feel bad, shut up, have a kid, deal with the parent's side of the bullshit, appreciate your parents more
Oh, wait, you're just going to rant in a pretty little website full of pretty pixels because you feel oh so grown up while doing it
I'm graduating from high school in a couple of days. My parents told me to get a job and pay rent or go to college
You keep this nonsense up, I won't be surprised if your parents kick you out after you graduate. Make you mature a wee bit, living on your own
Just shut up!
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Posted: Thu Jun 20, 2013 5:22 pm
Hoestly at 14 my curfew was 11 or 12. I missed school and got bad grades and by 16-17 there was no curfew. I wasn't responsible enough to make the right decisions at that time. Yeah I could take care of myself and cook and clean and pay for my own phone and clothes I never did drugs or anything like that but I moved out at 18 and got a job and threw parties all the time and now I'm 25 working in a physically backbreaking job with no future. I make enough money to pay my bills and get by and save a little for emergencies but I work so many hours to do so I will never have the time to get a college education and a true career. So do what your parents want for now and make yourself a model student/person and get into college so you have a decent future doing something you enjoy.
You will appreciate what your parents did for you a lot more 10-15 years down the line.
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Posted: Thu Jun 20, 2013 5:52 pm
Dear god people are harsh >.>
I agree with everyone is saying, just explained a bit more harsh than they needed to be, Kitalpha... She's an angry teen, she's going to rant about it. If you read what she put under than rant, you'll see she apologized and asked for advice, which is more than most raging 14 year olds do.
My advice is much like everyone else's. Calm down a bit, and grow up. I understand you want to be independent, and such, but honestly, it isn't as fun as it sounds. It sucks. I personally miss when all I had to do was chores, and got a few instructions on how they want it. Think about it, it's their house, they can tell you how they want it, and when to have a curfew. When I was 14, my curfew was 8 pm. I'm 20 now and I still have a curfew. Granted I'm still living with them and milking it for as long as I can. Your parents only want the best for you, they don't boss you around for the fun of it.
All I can say is sit them down, and calmly and maturely ask if they could hear you out, ask for a raise in your curfew, but you may have to do something for them. maybe spend more time on homework or do more chores around the house. Do that and they'll start working with you.
Plus, calm down on the cuss words. Parents usually don't like that.
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Posted: Wed Jul 17, 2013 1:45 pm
I think I got lucky when I came to my parents and things such as curfews and chores. I didn't really have an set curfew when I was in Jr. High nor high school OR even after that - I had to periodically check in and let them know my estimated time in which I was coming back. But my parents deemed me responsible and self reliant enough to trust me with making my own decisions. (well mostly my mother, my dad wasn't exactly an contributor to my childhood)
However, at 14 you are still considered an child in the eyes of the law and by society. And though you may find it extremely frustrating that your parents have set expectations and curfews for you - it maybe because you haven't even proved your self as being self-reliant, mature nor responsible enough for them to even trust you. You HAVE to do the things they ask of you in order to obtain their trust! But you are going to learn the hard way that being an adult though liberating isn't fun what so ever when you have to worry about where to live, how to feed yourself, paying for insurance, getting an job and getting an education.
So take your time and calm yo tits.
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