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Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2012 7:12 am
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I was thinking about poly and BDSM, so here are some questions: Framework: Are you kinky? Do you actively participate in your area's BDSM community? Are you in kinky relationships? In what kinky ways do you self-identify (switch, top, bottom, dom, sub, master, slave, daddy, little etc)
If it matters in your relationships, how do you identify when it comes to gender, sex, romantic orientation and sexual orientation?
The last question is how does this shape your poly relationships, if at all?
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Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2012 2:28 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2012 7:28 am
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hello, my name is Twi, and I'm kinky and Poly. xd
ok, had to get that out of my system. you'll see the need for jokes in a sec.
so, lemme break this down a bit...
Are you kinky? Do you actively participate in your area's BDSM community? Are you in kinky relationships? In what kinky ways do you self-identify (switch, top, bottom, dom, sub, master, slave, daddy, little etc)
yes, I have lived the Kink Lifestyle for quite a while now, and in fact, the BDSM community is the only community I realy feel completely included in. I've participated in a range of areas associated with it, but mostly in the Pet/Owner and Light Bondage areas. I'm a Switch who started as a Sub, and I have had two sepperate Mistresses previously, a full 4 years straight of being owned.
however, I'm currently a little out of my element... my current girlfriend is rather... vanilla. she was a virgin before we became an item, and the most we do right now is Daddy/Little play. she's also monogamous, and this has been an issue that we've talked about extensively... because while she refuses to force me into anything, she also can't comprehend how I could love her and anyone else at the same time and can't help feeling like if I'm not interested in her alone that she isn't good enough. it's been hell to work out, and most of the time I'm just trying not to make her feel like she's being a b***h. she blames herself way too often.
so, we're taking things very slow. I don't wanna push her into too much new territory, and for that reason I'm exploring her comfort zone instead. I'm not unsatisfied... but I admit that after being so deeply involved in kink, I'm a bit lost in the alien world of "normal". sweatdrop
If it matters in your relationships, how do you identify when it comes to gender, sex, romantic orientation and sexual orientation?
I'm 3rd Gender Bisexual, and she's Female Bisexual. she may even be Pan, and I know we both are attracted to TG folk and other Gender-Blended types as well, so Bi isn't exactly accurate for either of us...
The last question is how does this shape your poly relationships, if at all?
I realy havn't seen our sexual or romantic orientation effecting our relationship much at all. however, the big difference is that I'm Poly and Kinky, and she's monogamous and a newbie. our relationship is currently close to vanilla, but mostly because she's not ready for much else yet (not that she isn't interested).
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Posted: Tue Nov 20, 2012 2:12 pm
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Esiris Are you kinky? Do you actively participate in your area's BDSM community? Are you in kinky relationships? In what kinky ways do you self-identify? ...how do you identify when it comes to gender, sex, romantic orientation and sexual orientation?... how does this shape your poly relationships, if at all?... I'm hella kinky. I'm a Dom/Master with one sub/pet romantic+sexual life partner and one vanilla romantic life partner. I'm an omnisexual+omniromantic agender-male genderfluid person, my sub is an omnisexual+omniromantic, monoamorous genderqueer lady, and my vanilla lifepartner is a polyamorous demiromantic+asexual neutrois agender. We're mostly a v formation because of my sub's monoamory, but the two are pretty close friends, so it is kinda a triangle but one of the legs is platonic only. The kinkyness is another way that the triangle is lopsided or different on one side than another. I have to keep most of the kink turned down because the idea of not being able to move really upsets on of my partners, but it absolutely thrills the other. My sub and I did have a lot of talks earlier on about gender and things:I was actually the first person to help her explore gender, so it is still a topic we talk about, today.
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