My old Girlfriend is pregnant, and still not over me?

[ecopper12]

maui boy no ka oi

Are you implying that she's a whore that you're trying to avoid or are you implying that she's a whore that you still have feelings for? Depending on the circumstance, I have different responses.

I'm pretty sure I'm not going to that extreme on either.

I don't have much many feelings for her remaining, but I don't know what to do in the situation I am in right now.  

[ecopper12]

~ Milk Mynk ~

Why do you feel obligated?

Why?

To be honest, I'm not completely sure.

I know it would be the right thing to do, since she is pregnant at such a young age, and might need help getting through the hard times of the pregnancy it's self.

I wanted to lend an ear that would listen if she needed anything, but I suppose that would lead me into an even more difficult to get out of downward spiral.  

[Yaoinaut]

There is nothing wrong with being a good friend and lending an ear.

The problem is that she wants more than a friend at the moment, and she may feel encouraged by anything she can get.

Express your discomfort over the naming of the kid and really, keep conversations to a minium, so your still there, but not the ultimate shoulder to lean on. Hoping this will stop her from feeling she can rely on you for the ultimate role.  

[Lychee Fruit]

ecopper12

I know it would be the right thing to do, since she is pregnant at such a young age, and might need help getting through the hard times of the pregnancy it's self.

But it's not YOUR right thing. The right thing for YOU is to accept that she isn't your responsibility, no matter what her situation. At fifteen you can't have a fulltime job or a license, and you can't legally drink, smoke, vote, or join the army. It's not time involved in the upbringing of a baby or a pregnant woman's confidant - especially when it's not your baby.  

[~ Milk Mynk ~]

ecopper12

~ Milk Mynk ~

Why do you feel obligated?

Why?

To be honest, I'm not completely sure.

I know it would be the right thing to do, since she is pregnant at such a young age, and might need help getting through the hard times of the pregnancy it's self.

I wanted to lend an ear that would listen if she needed anything, but I suppose that would lead me into an even more difficult to get out of downward spiral.

Try to define "right thing to do". What is it exactly that you feel you should/could help her with/do for her? And why do you feel that it's the right thing to do?  

[Renard Muldrake]

comfortably_dumb

It's not your problem. Don't worry about it.

Besides, aren't you like, 15? 14? Children should not be worried about raising children.

This, oh my god. Jeez.
When I was that young the only baby I was concerned about was my Togepi.

Either way, just ignore her dude.  

[Den Dristige Djevelen]

~*~

No.

Just NO.

Back away slowly, dude.

Do not get involved with this. You guys are no longer together; you have no reason to obligate yourself to help out. I know it seems insensitive, but she's using her pregnancy to ******** with your mind.
No idea how someone that young can learn to be that manipulative already, but she seems to have mastered it quite well.
It's understood that you want to be there for her because you're a good friend, but quite frankly, you do not need that s**t. That is too much for someone your age to have to deal with. Best to just leave it.

~*~

 

[Herr Sinne]

GET. THE. ********. OUT. OF. THERE. NOW!  

[Saucey]

You shouldn't give in to her. I mean you can support her but don't step in and be the bigger man, you're still a kid. Are you willing to stay up endless nights AND go to school the next day taking care of the kid? Will either of your parents accept one or the other to move in? Chances are pretty slim.

I wouldn't do it man, I mean YES I would if it was my kid, if I was the last person she (or he xD) was dating. Remember, she wanted this, she did this, she let it happen, you don't know her bf's side, yes he might become sour and leave her... but you just can jump up out of nowhere and be her man.

Just because someone cries in front of you and tells you you're the only person who listens who "understands" and starts apologizing to you doesn't mean you got to forgive them.  

[AquilaLiberum]

No way. I'm 21 and I'm still petrified of taking care of a baby, I'm afraid to be left alone with my 1 year old cousin! It sounds like this girl is being manipulative and taking advantage of your good nature and eagerness to help. Don't take the bait Ecop, if you get involved at all, you'll stay involved so just keep yourself out of things. It sounds harsh, but it's the best solution.

~Nya-ha!~
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[coldheartedangel]

Aquila15

No way. I'm 21 and I'm still petrified of taking care of a baby, I'm afraid to be left alone with my 1 year old cousin! It sounds like this girl is being manipulative and taking advantage of your good nature and eagerness to help. Don't take the bait Ecop, if you get involved at all, you'll stay involved so just keep yourself out of things. It sounds harsh, but it's the best solution.

~Nya-ha!~
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I'm married and still petrified of having a baby xD