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 Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 10:59 am
This is copied directly from my LJ because typing it up again would just make me more upset than I am now. It contains a lot of personal s**t, so I'm making a bit leap of faith posting here. I just want to get as much advice as I can before I do something I might regret; and objective advice at that.
I apologize in advance for the swearing.
I feel kind of, I don't know, abandoned? Betrayed?
One of my favorite roleplaying buddies just sent me a message that said she can no longer roleplay yaoi because she was "born again". She's a ******** bible thumper now. It's pissed me off so god damn much that I feel no remorse quoting her pm to me on the site where we roleplay.
"my faith says it's wrong, and up until yesterday, I didn't give a crap what my faith said, but I was "born again" (sounds weird and cultish, I know, but it wasn't) and given a second chance and I want to be a better person than I was."
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I'm going to sound like a complete p***k saying this, but this message really upsets me and I find it personally insulting.
Suffice it to say I've never been a big fan of Christianity despite being raised Episcopalian and attending a Congregationalist youth group for nearly 10 years. Maybe it was the Catholic school that did it.
You can not want to RP yaoi anymore if you want, that's completely fine with me, but don't go spouting your crap about wanting to be a better person because doing this is not going to help. Who says that being gay is something wrong? Anyone who thinks so is living so far in the past that they shouldn't even get on the internet in the first place.
I may not actually be a gay man myself, but my brother is. I've watched him for my entire life because we are only a year apart in age. All those people that say it is a choice are talking bullshit. If it was a choice he wouldn't have gotten beat up on the bus on his way home from middle school. He wouldn't have felt so embarrassed about owning a doll that he had to give it to me. He wouldn't have transferred to a boarding school in high school because he couldn't handle the guilt of going to a Catholic school. And he certainly wouldn't be as ridiculously happy as he is right now with his current partner.
Maybe I'm so upset because I feel like this came really suddenly. Just weeks ago we were talking about where this RP was going to go after they were released. It feels like you've been god damn pressured against your will into this and I hate every second of it. It's also personally insulting whenever I hear anyone say that being gay is wrong.
<--- This is the message I have sitting in the reply box under hers. I want to send it but I'm afraid to loose her friendship entirely.
I'm making myself late to class while writing this but I really don't give a crap. It makes me so pissed off because I know she's been brainwashed somehow. Just weeks ago we were talking about where to take this RP in the future and now she wants to end it entirely.
I suppose I should be happy that she at least offered to make a conclusion that we can be happy with, but is it so much to ask for what we had planned out?
I don't know what to do.
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Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 4:10 pm
For my unfortunate dismay the longer I stare at this the more I have to say the following: You gotta let her be who she is. No matter how offended you are in what she suddenly believes, she believes it and likely will believe it regardless of how you lash out against her. As much as you dislike hearing that being gay is wrong you got to understand that is the point she is at now and no amount of convincing will really do anything save for make you guys farther apart. I've seen born again's sin eventually, and maybe one day she will get back on the train with you comrade. For now though just find something you two have to have fun with beyond yaoi, avoid gay topics if you can because she doesn't have her own opinion anymore on the subject. Be a friend comrade and it should work out eventually. Remember that if you leave her behind because of her religion she will feel just like you, abandoned, betrayed, and you will be what she might turn to, someone who ends a friendship because someone is a certain way.
Peace.
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 4:52 pm
The fact that you're losing a friend is an experience that I've unfortunately experienced before. Unfortunately, you can't stop it and are going to have to get someone else to rp with. You'll probably, in due time, encounter someone who will be even better at rping with her and even more fun to talk to then her.
Whether she accepts homosexuality or not is her decision, whether it's wrong or not.
This is just going to have to be an experience that you're going to have to get passed. It won't be so hard to deal with once you get someone better.
It won't be so hard to deal with after a while.
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