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 Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 1:58 pm
Okay... My fiance'e and I broke up.... A while later I meet this girl... She is at a friend's house, at the same time I was and I helped them with a biology project... Well, she found me attractive, and I, her... So I asked her out... She said yes, and informed me that she had a girlfriend as well... Sooooo, I was wiling to accept this, because she was willing to make a choice if we really got serious, and engaged or anything... Well, her girlfirend told her that it was okay for us to be together, ad that if she wanted to she could engage in an act of sexual intercourse with me, when the time came. THEN, I find out that the girl that I like is my ex-fiance'e's friend... And we had agreed not to date each other's friends.... Continually to worsen matters, I find out from my ex, that my girlfriend's girlfriend is actually secretly mad at her for having a boyfriend. Even though my girlfriend's girlfriend recently had one of her own, and they had sex.... My girlfriend is still a virgin, but, somehow her girlfrind is mad at her, because of me.... The part that is getting to me, is that if her girlfriend really does have a problem, it is possible that one or the other of us may have to end up hurt, and left... My girlfriend claims it is a 50%/50% thing, between me and her girlfriend, but that makes me worried about being left, if it comes to that... What confuses me is that she gave permission, and now has a problem with it? Also, if she is my ex's "best friend" as claimed, why did I never hear of her before now? What should I do while I wait for things to figure themselves out, or what should I not do?
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Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 2:01 pm
Wow... ToS?
If this needs revision, let me know rather than just deleting please, because that took a LONG time to type...
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Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 2:58 pm
Do, what you think is right. There is no better advice I can offer in this situation. Do some soul searching, could you share someones love with another? You need to decide whats best for the girl, if you love her, truly love her and though one choice may hurt more then you can imagine, her happiness comes first, your in an unpleasant situation I know. I can't say I've been here before, but I know you will do what you feel is the right choice.
As for your Ex... screw 'em, why should have to limit who you go out with because of them, so long as your not turning their friends against them and vice versa, wheres the issue?
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 8:08 pm
I almost got into a similar situation, except I would be the new girlfriend and the other girl's boyfriend was jelous.
Anywho, the only thing I can really say is that this why, even though I am bi, I stay with only one person, guy or girl. Not one of each. If you really like her, just tell her that you are uncomfortable with her girlfriend. Yeah, it might seem unfair to make her choose, but what choice do you have, besides avoiding the situation all together.
As for your ex...they shouldn't matter. If it's someone you like, that's just too bad for them. Your life. If they really have a problem with it, then don't hang out with her around your ex.
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Posted: Thu Jan 10, 2008 7:00 pm
Thank you both. Sorry for not replying on here for so long. I am pleased to report that, through both of your council, it is now just me and her. As it turns out, her girlfriend turned out to be a real poser... And by that I mean posing as a "good person." She has some real problems, that go beyond me and my girlfriend. Again, thank you both for the help, and I hope you are both pleased with the results...
-Wyntre
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