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 Posted: Tue May 24, 2011 7:01 pm
Welcome to the guild Das Tor smile
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Posted: Wed May 25, 2011 8:21 am
Das Tor Hello. My name is Das Tor, and I answer to Das, Tor, Poi (from a previous SN), and Kaida. I'm 23, working on learning Japanese (after that, I'm tempted to learn French and Irish Gaelic), and going back to school to finish my high school diploma. I've got one cat who is probably the closest I'll have to a baby for several years, and he's a sweetheart, despite how utterly stupid he is. For those curious, I follow the philosophy of 'Love as thou wilt'. I don't believe love has boundaries, so long as it's between two or more consenting people who are mature enough to make their own decisions.
I'm not entirely certain if I'm poly myself, but I grew up with a mother who was, and even if I myself turn out to be monogamous...I want to support those who find love in more than one person.
I'm a bit of a geek/nerd, I suppose, though it's mostly for other cultures, fantasy, sci-fi, steampunk, and history. I love 'what if's, I'm an avid roleplayer, and I grew up watching the 'Star' trifecta: Star Trek, Star Wars, and Stargate. I love tabletop RPs as much as freeform online RPs, with my favorite system so far being the White Wolf d10 system.
Religion's a bit of a complicated subject with me, but I am Pagan, with a Catholic upbringing (my Mom was one of the most open-minded Catholics I ever knew).
I look forward to talking with people on here, and supporting this guild in what little ways I can! Completely missed your intro post, I must be getting senile (I blame the ponies >.> ) Welcome to the guild, Tor! As you may have noticed the main forum is pretty much anything goes, the others are a little more "on topic". Make yourself at home. And happy Towel Day!
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Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 10:41 pm
Hello guild, i'm buddha monk. i came to this guild to help myself through some personal issues concerning, my love life and lack there of. but i am a nice person and try to show respect to those around me as well as their opinions. i hope we can all get along despite a couple of personal reservations i have about polyamorous relationships, who knows maybe i'll find myself in one some day who knows smile
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Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 11:27 pm
Buddha Monk Hello guild, i'm buddha monk. i came to this guild to help myself through some personal issues concerning, my love life and lack there of. but i am a nice person and try to show respect to those around me as well as their opinions. i hope we can all get along despite a couple of personal reservations i have about polyamorous relationships, who knows maybe i'll find myself in one some day who knows smile Welcome to the guild. If you don't mind me asking, what made you join the poly guild when you have reservations about the relationship sort? Is it just a 'not sure if it's for me' sort of thing or what exactly? This guild is set up primarily as support/hangout for those poly-folk of Gaia and while education is also our thing we're not really meant as a general relationship advice guild. So while you're welcome here to learn about poly relationships, seek help and grow, just a heads up that we may not be the exact help you're looking for and there may be a better fit out there. That out of the way as long as you're respectful of everyone, everyone will likely be respectful of you as well and you're free to post here with what you like. Again, welcome to the guild. I hope you enjoy your time here, learn lots and maybe find what you're looking for.
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Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 11:53 pm
Mameoyashi Buddha Monk Hello guild, i'm buddha monk. i came to this guild to help myself through some personal issues concerning, my love life and lack there of. but i am a nice person and try to show respect to those around me as well as their opinions. i hope we can all get along despite a couple of personal reservations i have about polyamorous relationships, who knows maybe i'll find myself in one some day who knows smile Welcome to the guild. If you don't mind me asking, what made you join the poly guild when you have reservations about the relationship sort? Is it just a 'not sure if it's for me' sort of thing or what exactly? This guild is set up primarily as support/hangout for those poly-folk of Gaia and while education is also our thing we're not really meant as a general relationship advice guild. So while you're welcome here to learn about poly relationships, seek help and grow, just a heads up that we may not be the exact help you're looking for and there may be a better fit out there. That out of the way as long as you're respectful of everyone, everyone will likely be respectful of you as well and you're free to post here with what you like. Again, welcome to the guild. I hope you enjoy your time here, learn lots and maybe find what you're looking for. i am a bit curious as to the appeal of polygamous relationships and insight into the mindset of people who do have multiple partners. i'm tired of judging people for their choices in partners. (me being strongly monogamous) i feel it clouds my judgment when it comes to accepting people for who they are and it may be time for me to do something different in my life.
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 11:16 pm
Sandmans Hourglass Mameoyashi Buddha Monk Hello guild, i'm buddha monk. i came to this guild to help myself through some personal issues concerning, my love life and lack there of. but i am a nice person and try to show respect to those around me as well as their opinions. i hope we can all get along despite a couple of personal reservations i have about polyamorous relationships, who knows maybe i'll find myself in one some day who knows smile Welcome to the guild. If you don't mind me asking, what made you join the poly guild when you have reservations about the relationship sort? Is it just a 'not sure if it's for me' sort of thing or what exactly? This guild is set up primarily as support/hangout for those poly-folk of Gaia and while education is also our thing we're not really meant as a general relationship advice guild. So while you're welcome here to learn about poly relationships, seek help and grow, just a heads up that we may not be the exact help you're looking for and there may be a better fit out there. That out of the way as long as you're respectful of everyone, everyone will likely be respectful of you as well and you're free to post here with what you like. Again, welcome to the guild. I hope you enjoy your time here, learn lots and maybe find what you're looking for. i am a bit curious as to the appeal of polygamous relationships and insight into the mindset of people who do have multiple partners. i'm tired of judging people for their choices in partners. (me being strongly monogamous) i feel it clouds my judgment when it comes to accepting people for who they are and it may be time for me to do something different in my life. Already changing your name on us, Monk/Hourglass? Well, welcome anyways!
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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2011 2:52 pm
*Bows politely* Good afternoon to you all, I am Chryos Echoriath, husband to Blackrose_knight, and seeker of knowledge of the polyamorous path. It was only through a great deal of soul searching and self examination that I have decided to follow this path. I want to learn more about the lifestyle, and would also like to make some friends in the community as well. I look forward to chatting with you all and getting to know you better *He smiles, and bows once more*
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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2011 3:02 pm
Chryos Echoriath *Bows politely* Good afternoon to you all, I am Chryos Echoriath, husband to Blackrose_knight, and seeker of knowledge of the polyamorous path. It was only through a great deal of soul searching and self examination that I have decided to follow this path. I want to learn more about the lifestyle, and would also like to make some friends in the community as well. I look forward to chatting with you all and getting to know you better *He smiles, and bows once more* *Waves* I was so making faces at you while you were typing this.
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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2011 3:07 pm
Chryos Echoriath *Bows politely* Good afternoon to you all, I am Chryos Echoriath, husband to Blackrose_knight, and seeker of knowledge of the polyamorous path. It was only through a great deal of soul searching and self examination that I have decided to follow this path. I want to learn more about the lifestyle, and would also like to make some friends in the community as well. I look forward to chatting with you all and getting to know you better *He smiles, and bows once more* Hey welcome to the guild. Good to see you about the guild. A husband of Blackrose is a husband of... wait, that's not how that saying goes. Hah. What I mean to say is that you are welcome in the guild as a friend. I hope you find what you're looking for here. biggrin
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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2011 3:10 pm
Mameoyashi A husband of Blackrose is a husband of... wait, that's not how that saying goes.
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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2011 10:03 pm
Chryos Echoriath *Bows politely* Good afternoon to you all, I am Chryos Echoriath, husband to Blackrose_knight, and seeker of knowledge of the polyamorous path. It was only through a great deal of soul searching and self examination that I have decided to follow this path. I want to learn more about the lifestyle, and would also like to make some friends in the community as well. I look forward to chatting with you all and getting to know you better *He smiles, and bows once more* Honey, you type funny. Anyway, thank you for posting silly head.
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Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2011 1:54 am
Esiris Mameoyashi A husband of Blackrose is a husband of... wait, that's not how that saying goes. Just one of the many reasons I heart this guild! Welcome, Chryos! Glad to see you finally got around to posting here biggrin
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Posted: Thu Jul 07, 2011 3:04 pm
Hello smile Hope everyone reading this is having a little bit of goodness in their day wink
I'm a 43 y.o. male, married to a woman for 10 years at this writing. We have an 8 year old child and a big, dumb but loveable dog. I've been completely monogamous since my wife and I met, and she says she has also. I'm bisexual, my wife knows about it, my past LTRs with both men and women, and she's told me about hers. She's also the jealous type. If a woman flirts with me (rare these days) she goes ballistic. She's also jealous of my 6.5 year LTR with another man, even though it was years before we met, she never met him and never will.
One day, out of the blue, she comes to me and says I have her 'permission' to have a relationship with another man, because she knows I'm never quite satisfied - part of me has been cut off for 10 years. O.K. Wow. I wasn't expecting that. I haven't acted on it yet, but I soooo want to. I know I eventually will. She did say if I was with another woman, though, she'd have to kill me.
My wife is also bisexual, a little. She does some Kinsey scale thing where I'm right in the middle and she's between bi & straight. I think she gave me her 'permission' because she wants the same. I already told her I wouldn't divorce her for having an affair, but I'm wondering if us having separate relationships on the side would be the best thing. I have a friend who's poly, and looking at how her relationhip(s) work out, I'm wondering if that would be a better solution for us. I don't like the idea of 'cheating', even with approval. Bringing another person into the family is more appealing to me.
So I'm here to learn, maybe ask some questions, and see where I should go from here.
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Posted: Thu Jul 07, 2011 4:36 pm
Welcome to the guild!
It seems like an interesting situation you've found yourself in. It sounds like this is just at the beginning stages of non-monogamy for the two of you and it sounds like it will be a long road yet to go.
Just as a catch all since you're starting out I hope you don't mind if I recommend a few books? These ones could help you figure out what styles of non-monogamy will work for you and your wife (if any at all will), and also have various sections on dealing with difficult emotions (such as jealousy), how to deal with things changing, practical, logistical and legal issues and other useful sections.
Opening Up by Tristan Taormino and The Polyamory Handbook by Peter J. Benson are two very good "how to" type books.Opening Up even includes *tons* of questions you should be asking yourselves every step of the way and talking about. The Handbook has a lot of good conflict resolution sections.
Communication is the key to healthy, happy relationships. Try not to assume anything of your partner's motivations and simply talk about them and find what you both are comfortable with.
And as a side note: remember that cheating is defined by the rules of the game you're playing. If it's within the rules and boundaries agreed upon by those in the relationship- it's not cheating.
I hope that things work out for the best for you and your wife whatever the two of you decide to do smile Please feel free to use the guild however you can to help this process and once again, welcome!
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Posted: Thu Jul 07, 2011 5:55 pm
Adrayis Hello. smile I just joined today, figured I'd say hello here. smile I'm not new to poly, I've lived this lifestyle in one way or another for pretty much my whole life, though it's only been about 10 years now that I've understood what I living, and cared to learn anything about it. I have 1 life partner and 1 soon to be life partner (we refuse to do LD, and he's in another country temporarily), 2 children and I'm Canadian. With any luck, we'll be the first country to at least decriminalize polyamory... That'd be nice. I'm a rare female geek, I game, I drool with the boys over tech toys, fight with them over who gets the shiney computer parts first, and I'm a certified computer and network technician. I'm positively ancient (31) and ... yeah, that's about all I've got right now. lol I don't say much, but I lurk lots, and I'm always willing to answer questions or help out. smile So that there's no confusion, this is me. biggrin I'm Adrayis, just, on a different account. For other reasons, I had to stop using that one, and I've had this mule sitting around empty forever so I transfered everything over and voila, here I am again. smile
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