Im rarely have any attraction to a man with the same style as me. The gothic guys I had seen wheather online or in person, never seemed attractive to me (appearance and personality). In my eyes, I see them too feminine to me (its just my preference, leave me alone). But I do search for guys with similar life style as me. I want a little bit of diversity because it would make learning from my significant other more interesting and special. For instance, my fiance doesnt always wear black, he only wears a t-shirt, hoody and pants. He is simple. His music is towards metal-metalcore to poppunk. He is such a nerd and I love it. If I had met someone who has the same life style as me, it would be like dating myself. neutral Side note: Im not directing my opinions to anyone, this is me just expressing my reason why for me, myself and I.