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These are some good tips. But what do you do when you're not surrounded by a lot of available people? I can't even practice flirting let alone find a date with someone. I'm not in school [haven't since I started home school and now I'm graduated.], I don't even have a small list of friends to help me. Just one. And I go to a church once or twice a week. Is there something I can do to at least put myself out there?

Not sure if anyone's going to read this by the time my post comes in, since I'm all the way on like, page 8, but this is what I've done with flirting, and I can't tell you enough that it's always worked for me.

1. Always sound confident. The girls I've spoken to are more into men who sound confident than they are into men who sound scared or shy.
2. Be optimistic. I'm almost never upset, and even when I AM upset, I try to avoid showing it, unless I want to make it sound funny and interest the people I'm talking to.(And, not to speak for everyone or anything, but nothing's worse than a guy who's never happy.)
3. Find ways to be funny. I try and throw my sense of humor around whenever, and because of it, I've had people tell me I should do stand-up. Even when my day has been a bad one, and I need to "vent" by talking to someone about it, I try to make it funny. I put in a lot of movement and action, and time what I say just right to get people to laugh. It works for you because you feel better(Knowing that all your friends are laughing) and it works for them because you told them a funny story.
4. Make yourself memorable. People are all very boring. You, me, your family, everyone. Once you strip our clothes, our hairstyles and our color, all you have left is a body. This body is, well, just the same as everyone else's. Sure, some are tall, some are small. Some are short, some are fat, but in the grand scheme of the universe, it's not our physical appearance that matters, as much as it is our sense of humor.

I say this, because, tomorrow, if you get hit by a car, or die of a stroke, what will people remember you by? Will they remember you? Find some kind of niche, some kind of "thing" where people say "That guy was interesting. He always wore that blue hat and could talk your ear off politically."

5. Find something only you can do. Looking back at advice number four, I mentioned people are boring. It is your job, as a person, to find something that makes you not boring. Some people simply aren't that skilled at talking about social stuff, that's fine. Before I got the confidence I have now that helps me talk to people, I was very shy, but what helped me was a deck of cards.

I bought a book on simple magic tricks, and I'd show off two or three at any party or social event I went to. People started to like that about me. People would ask that I learn more, or teach them, or just talk to me about nothing, just so they could get the chance to know me.

I know this advice isn't the greatest, but it's this advice that helped me out. And I know that not everyone is into confident guys, or that some people really do like shy people. This is just what has helped ME.

So, with that in mind, I dare you guys, each and every one, to try being confident, at least once. Chances are, you'll never see these people again. Go to Starbuck's and sit down next to that pretty girl/guy and tell her you like her eyes. If she shows signs of "Get the ******** away. Oh gawd. Who is this? Go away" then just say "Well, it was a pleasure meeting you. I'll talk to you later" and leave. That simple. Learn a magic trick, think of a funny joke, learn some cool party tricks, anything. Just go get 'em Tiger.

False. Don't expect you're first relationship to last forever, or any relationship for that part, especially if you're not one for commitments. Me, I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year, but I don't know whether it'll last or not; I don't know if feelings will change, or if someone else will come into my life. Also, don't try to act like you know everything about your relationship when you've only been going out for a few months. Considering there have been couples that have dated for several years before getting married, your relationship isn't much to brag about.

I don't care if there's a guy code or not, a girl breaking your heart does not transform a guy into a man; it just matures him so he now knows the feeling of rejection and of moving on. Also, the first and second part of your second sentence don't even go together. In the first part, you're saying the guy has to break up with the girl, and in the second you're saying the girl has to.

On a completely different side note, I know nothing about flirting. People have told me I was flirting when I didn't even realize what I was doing was considered flirting... However, I can give dating advice, and it's mentioned on the first paragraph.

Edit: Dating as in being in a relationship and you don't know what to do for, say, a birthday or something.

Fine, fine, I'll edit it.

lolwtf? I just do what I do. Lure them in. And right when they think they're getting close BAM! I get lulz razz

I think this thread should be renamed to: Safety tips and tricks for dating and flirting in the online world and the real world.

Anyone got a tip for girls that say that you are too good of a friend to go out, really bugs me, because I am a social introvert somewhat and I don't ask many people out *maybe two or three up to date*. Is it another way to say they just don't like you that way, or does it actually mean, they like you too much as a friend???