Are there any of you in the group who are parents willing to talk with me? I kind of need to bounce some stuff around with you guys and see what you think.
If our love's insanity why are you my clarity?
Posted: Tue May 27, 2014 7:21 pm
I'm quoting JoyRose and GillaGrrl, the two mommies on Crew!
Sarcasdick
If our love is tragedy why are you my remedy?
Are there any of you in the group who are parents willing to talk with me? I kind of need to bounce some stuff around with you guys and see what you think.
Are there any of you in the group who are parents willing to talk with me? I kind of need to bounce some stuff around with you guys and see what you think.
If our love's insanity why are you my clarity?
Sure! My daughter is Waterkin, who's 17 years old. Although she's my only child, I'm also a teacher so I do understand how challenging more than one kid at a time can be.
Are there any of you in the group who are parents willing to talk with me? I kind of need to bounce some stuff around with you guys and see what you think.
If our love's insanity why are you my clarity?
Sure! My daughter is Waterkin, who's 17 years old. Although she's my only child, I'm also a teacher so I do understand how challenging more than one kid at a time can be.
Thanks for the heads up, Ebania!
If our love is tragedy why are you my remedy?
Oh goodness, thank you for responding. Okay, it's kinda a long story, so here's the warning. lol
I live with my friend, and I have custody of my 2 year old son. My friend's grandmother called him the other day, and while they were talking, she told him that my son should've been put up for adoption because he's not talking coherently, and not using many actual words and she thinks he's "too far behind" and Autistic. Her kids were all "perfect children" when they were 2, coherently talking, and didn't get into anything, and from the way she describes it, they may as well have been able to function on their own. Frankly, it pissed me off. So I asked other people who spend more than 7-10 days out of a year around small children, who all told me that as long as he's reacting in some form, using motions and facial expressions, that he's okay, and since he's babbling ALOT, he's going to be talking soon and will be fine.
I just wanted opinions from other parents about the situation. I try to read with him, to get his vocabulary up more, but he won't even sit still, and seems to have interest only at looking at pictures in the books, or flipping thru the pages as fast as he can, but if I touch the book, try to point out the pictures, or read, he gets mad and wanders off after yelling at me. lol He also doesn't like when I sing to him, like when I'm trying to rock him, and calm him down fr bed. He's fine with the cuddling and rocking, but he sits up and puts his hand on my mouth and tells me no when I sing. -.- I don't really know what to do about it honestly. He won't do flashcards of any kind, usually takes em from me and tries to eat them, or wanders off, and won't sit still through the educational type tapes that everyone insists are good for small children. It seems that he wants to do it on his own time, and that most attempts to sit with him get ignored or make him mad, but I don't want him to end up being too far behind the other kids his age or end up having to do remedial classes in school because he's got learning disabilities or something.
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Posted: Wed May 28, 2014 1:49 pm
Ebania
I'm quoting JoyRose and GillaGrrl, the two mommies on Crew!
Sarcasdick
If our love is tragedy why are you my remedy?
Are there any of you in the group who are parents willing to talk with me? I kind of need to bounce some stuff around with you guys and see what you think.
If our love's insanity why are you my clarity?
JoyRose
GillaGrrl
If our love is tragedy why are you my remedy?
Thank you dear. emotion_hug
If our love's insanity why are you my clarity?
Posted: Wed May 28, 2014 3:52 pm
Sarcasdick
Oh hun, I know you're going through a tough time. Believe me no matter how typical your child is, you worry, and someone will find something to worry you about.
First, from what you've said, your son may have some issues you need to be concerned about or he may not, it's hard to tell. The CDC.gov website has a quick checklist (and another one for 3-year-olds) so you can tell for sure if it's time to visit your pediatrician for more thorough testing.
Second, even if there is something to worry about, there are strategies your health care provider can give you and resources you can work with to help him do better. Also, he may just be an active, opinionated little boy who needs to learn that like it or not, sometimes we need to sit still and listen. It sounds like you have the right priorities in doing your best to help him. Just because he doesn't like you singing doesn't mean he doesn't like you or even that his brain is having trouble - it may mean his hearing is just hypersensitive or he hears things differently than you and I do.
My daughter (first of course she's a girl, that does make a difference) was surrounded by books, and we used reading as a quiet time reward when it was time to start getting quiet (for bedtime, for instance). If the choice is sit quietly in bed until you fall asleep or sit on Mom's lap while she reads a while before going to bed, he may find he prefers reading then. I also used books that were made of plastic or fabric so she could chew on them harmlessly. Two-year-olds put things in their mouths all the time. Until he's three, I wouldn't worry too much about that. That's why so many toys are for "ages 3 and up" - all toddlers do that. It's why I gave her fingerpaint made of food coloring and yogurt (the plain kind with no real flavor). Harmless, but not tasty, so she learned (by tasting) not to eat art supplies.
Your son is so precious, and even if it turns out his development is behind and he does need help, it's not your fault, it's just the way God made him. Work with him and love him and I'm sure he'll find his place in the world, no matter what that place turns out to be.
Sorry if I rambled. I teach kids with special needs, so this subject is rather close to my heart. Good luck!
Oh hun, I know you're going through a tough time. Believe me no matter how typical your child is, you worry, and someone will find something to worry you about.
First, from what you've said, your son may have some issues you need to be concerned about or he may not, it's hard to tell. The CDC.gov website has a quick checklist (and another one for 3-year-olds) so you can tell for sure if it's time to visit your pediatrician for more thorough testing.
Second, even if there is something to worry about, there are strategies your health care provider can give you and resources you can work with to help him do better. Also, he may just be an active, opinionated little boy who needs to learn that like it or not, sometimes we need to sit still and listen. It sounds like you have the right priorities in doing your best to help him. Just because he doesn't like you singing doesn't mean he doesn't like you or even that his brain is having trouble - it may mean his hearing is just hypersensitive or he hears things differently than you and I do.
My daughter (first of course she's a girl, that does make a difference) was surrounded by books, and we used reading as a quiet time reward when it was time to start getting quiet (for bedtime, for instance). If the choice is sit quietly in bed until you fall asleep or sit on Mom's lap while she reads a while before going to bed, he may find he prefers reading then. I also used books that were made of plastic or fabric so she could chew on them harmlessly. Two-year-olds put things in their mouths all the time. Until he's three, I wouldn't worry too much about that. That's why so many toys are for "ages 3 and up" - all toddlers do that. It's why I gave her fingerpaint made of food coloring and yogurt (the plain kind with no real flavor). Harmless, but not tasty, so she learned (by tasting) not to eat art supplies.
Your son is so precious, and even if it turns out his development is behind and he does need help, it's not your fault, it's just the way God made him. Work with him and love him and I'm sure he'll find his place in the world, no matter what that place turns out to be.
Sorry if I rambled. I teach kids with special needs, so this subject is rather close to my heart. Good luck!
If our love is tragedy why are you my remedy?
Well, his 2 year check up is the second of July. I'll make an early appt to see what the family dr says. So far, he's been meeting the general milestones except for the talking part. That's just what's got me worried. He occasionally says things, but it's still mostly babbling. He knows what things are, because if you tell him to get his cup, or a toy, he will, but won't say what things are if you point them out. :c The thing is, I'm low income. I don't have hundreds of dollars to throw at specialists and stuff, or I'd be calling them and having them check him. I just want him to be okay, but I don't want him to be upset by being pressured too much, or him picking up on my frustrations as well. I might call down at the health dept, see if they've got the number for a specialist who works with low income families, or some programs maybe that can help me help him to learn.
If our love's insanity why are you my clarity?
Posted: Wed May 28, 2014 4:21 pm
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Many areas have free day care and therapy for kids who need help like speech therapy. If your pediatrician doesn't know of any, ask at the Red Cross or any other agencies you know of that work with families with low incomes.
Meanwhile, keep talking to him with your adult voice (no baby talk needed - especially since he understands you fine) and encourage him to tell you what he wants (give choices he can echo, like "the red one or the banana?" so he has to say what he wants). Of course, he'll probably resist and want to throw a temper tantrum, but don't let that deter you. He needs to know bad behavior will never get him what he wants. And don't fret when you just figure out what he wants and give it to him "for free" - even learning can get tiring after a while.
It sounds like he's developing well, except for maybe a speech delay, so don't worry (yeah, I know, impossible). Well, try not to worry. I'm sure everything will work out fine.
Many areas have free day care and therapy for kids who need help like speech therapy. If your pediatrician doesn't know of any, ask at the Red Cross or any other agencies you know of that work with families with low incomes.
Meanwhile, keep talking to him with your adult voice (no baby talk needed - especially since he understands you fine) and encourage him to tell you what he wants (give choices he can echo, like "the red one or the banana?" so he has to say what he wants). Of course, he'll probably resist and want to throw a temper tantrum, but don't let that deter you. He needs to know bad behavior will never get him what he wants. And don't fret when you just figure out what he wants and give it to him "for free" - even learning can get tiring after a while.
It sounds like he's developing well, except for maybe a speech delay, so don't worry (yeah, I know, impossible). Well, try not to worry. I'm sure everything will work out fine.
If our love is tragedy why are you my remedy?
I will definitely look into my options and ask around. <3 Thank you for talking to me and helping, honey. ^^
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