A_Pink_Lemon
I didn't really think I wanted to ask a bunch of "kids." I am 21 years old, I go an art school, I work, I pay my own rent, I take care of my cat. I am dependable, and I've always thought of myself as somewhat intelligent. I have a lot of friends who tell me constantly that I am on of the nicest people they've met. --
Which is why I feel that my problem is very childish.
Which is why I do not really want to ask a lot of my friends.
Which is why I'm asking ya'll's advise.
I love my best friend. Shes completely awesome. We get along wonderfully. We've been best friends for four years, we've caused each other to grow up. We've been there through the rough times. Ect, ect. Shes been dating this guy for a while. I never cared for him all that much but I put up with him because he means so much to her.
Today, he called me a "Stupid c**t" three times. Then towards the end of our visit he had the audacity to say -- "I find it amazing -- Everytime you open your speak you prove to me more and more how stupid you are."
It broke my heart a little bit. I'm not used to being spoken to like that. Especially in front of my best friend while she says nothing about it. It made me feel ignorant, and like I wasn't worth anyone's time.
Should I just ignore this? What would be the mature thing to do? Should I confront her and tell her that I don't think it was right for him to say something like that? Or should I respect her decision to date him and pay more attention to how much they mean to each other?
I know it is childish. It is driving me nuts though..
Thanks yall <3
Which is why I feel that my problem is very childish.
Which is why I do not really want to ask a lot of my friends.
Which is why I'm asking ya'll's advise.
I love my best friend. Shes completely awesome. We get along wonderfully. We've been best friends for four years, we've caused each other to grow up. We've been there through the rough times. Ect, ect. Shes been dating this guy for a while. I never cared for him all that much but I put up with him because he means so much to her.
Today, he called me a "Stupid c**t" three times. Then towards the end of our visit he had the audacity to say -- "I find it amazing -- Everytime you open your speak you prove to me more and more how stupid you are."
It broke my heart a little bit. I'm not used to being spoken to like that. Especially in front of my best friend while she says nothing about it. It made me feel ignorant, and like I wasn't worth anyone's time.
Should I just ignore this? What would be the mature thing to do? Should I confront her and tell her that I don't think it was right for him to say something like that? Or should I respect her decision to date him and pay more attention to how much they mean to each other?
I know it is childish. It is driving me nuts though..
Thanks yall <3
WOW...that's extraordinary. I've heard of men doing stupid things, but this takes the cake! As a man (and a gentleman at that) there's no possible way I'd ever utter the "C-Word" in the presence of a woman unless I just wanted to get slapped across the mouth.
I'd talk to your friend about what he said. I can understand how it might be uncomfortable, but no one should have to hear what you heard, and get away with it. If you want to respect her decision (to remain with this creep) then don't hang out with her when he's with her.
Sam
(Oh, and hey everyone...I'm back! domokun )
