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Heh my dad used to spank us with bamboo, make us go out in the yard and get it. Yowch. xd

I used to wait tables, hated it. I was always very kind to families and the vast majority of times I got tipped really well because I could sympathize with the downsides of going out as a family, but desperately wanting out. I never want to wait tables again though!

Ewww.. blehhhh.. eek That's just wrong and probably slightly illegal in some places. *gag*

Isn't that a violation of health department regulations? It should be if it isn't.

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Not sure whether to feel more sorry for them or for you. That really sucks to see that some people have the time to sleep around and reproduce, yet no time for their children.

I simply detest those (people) who make the rest of us teens look like considerable trash. I've never been a party girl, and have never done anything to break the law. I think teens overreact in most cases, and I do agree that they should have been busted in a more severe way. Hell, n** it in the bud now, not later. It's easier to shame a kid out than it is an adult in those cases. However, as for the children playing: Why can't they if they're supervised? Or rather, how late are you talking? People are allowed to be around and making noise until 10:30pm legally, or atleast in my state they are...

Urgh. I've argued over this with some of my friends but.. I live behind a school, and my back yard shares a fence with the playground. Many years ago, there was a basketball hoop (regulation size) out on the playground. Due to infiltration by college students (drinking beer, profanity, occasional violence) the hoop was eventually removed. Last summer, they put one back up. We complained to the school because we knew it would happen again, and it did. It happens all year, but it's worst when it's warm outside. During the summer, I have to put up with CONSTANT bouncing from 6am until 12am, sometimes later. Not just bouncing, but SCREAMING and profanity that would make a sailor blush. (Yesterday, a boy was out there screaming a certain part of the female anatomy over and over.)

Now I think kids should be allowed to have their fun as long as the sun shines, but having "big kids" on the playground scares away the little kids that come to play. (The school is K-3, so it's mostly toddler-sized equipment, except for the hoop.) I've seen those kids out there screaming profanity when toddlers are running around. I've seen parents shuffle their little ones home, because the bigger kids are taking up the whole place with their dangerous bouncing and horrible language.

Now, I live in a safe neighborhood, so I'm not worried about violence. I would just like to be able to go to bed before 1:00am or get up later than 7:00am, but I can't because of the bouncing. (My bed is about 20ft from the hoop.) Many times they've been out there as late as 3 or 5 in the morning. At least then I can call the police. Not even all of them are college age.. a lot of them are Jr. High/High School kids who should really be at home. When we talked to the principal about it, he said that they put it in for the older siblings of the little kids who go to school there and that everybody else was thrilled because now their kids had a place to go to play basketball. neutral I'm sure THEY didn't want to hear the bouncing all day so they sent them to MY house. I'd like to go bounce in their ear and scream profanity outside their window at 2am. neutral One kid lost his license on the playground (and I found it), so I know for a fact most of the kids using it are from WAY out of town in rural areas.

Oh well, most of my friends think I'm horrible for hating these children.. lol.. but they don't have to hear bouncing all. freaking. day. long. In the rain. or the snow. I never get any peace. It's constant.

GRURUR!*!

The stroller I bought for my 8 month old goes up to 55 pounds, so they're not always just for little children.

If there are children out past curfew, just report it.

I don't think discipline=PHYSICAL punishment. Or that there is just one way to raise a child. This thread started off alright, but quite honestly it's getting way too judgemental and as a parent, it bothers me that someone without kids thinks they know how to raise mine better then I do. confused

OK, so maybe saying ignoring screaming kids is a bad parrent thing wrong.... ....but still.... to ingor the kid screaming off the top of it's lungs and not do anything about it? Not being able to control a kid at a young age to teach him or her it's not right to cause such a loud scene will only open up problems in the future. ......Oh, this kid was old enough to walk on his own. It wasn't one of those infants, it was a young toddler. I've seen toddlers strapped to strolers or leached like a dog, but even when some parents restrain the kid from running around throwing things and causing a mess in stores and the like, they still can't quiet the kid down. And I know what you mean about leaving kids in cars while running. My stupid aunt had her grandson in the car running, he pulled the car in neutral and it almost coasted into the freeway (luckily it turned a bit and caught a parked car before it could pick up too much speed and out the enterance).



Whenever children are out here in the area where I live and work, I have to tell them to go home, and if they keep it up, inform the parents. As for reporting it, it has to take a LOT for someone to actually do anything. The cops and mental health people here in this town suck major. So far, the only thing done so far was this lady who pretty much just got her kids back from the government had left 5 kids at home alone all day, and the oldest one was an 11 year old in charge of a 10, two 5's, and 1 year old. ......the two 5 year old kids were running out in the street, pulling couch cusions and a crib mattress. The kids were being left along like that every day for at least a week untill CCS came out and waited for the mother go get home. I don't know how many kids get hit by cars here in the park (not too too often though), but it does happen here. ...I kinda don't get why kids don't be more carefull, but then again many of the drivers here drive too fast too. Oh, before someone says I should find out how to track the speeders, we've done that. Many times. One is the son of the sherriff here and gets away with it and the rest just get away because the law enforcement here sucks.

I'm not saying disipline is universal or you need to use physical reinforcement. ....wull, a lot of kids now *do* need physical reinforcement maybe seeing how they act and work.... I don't have kids, and I'm not saying that I know how to raise them better then anyone. But the fact is many parents can't control their kids. They try to be buddies with them and not set rules on them, or they think if they try to disapline them, they'll be hated for life. There's always some small and lame excuse as to why they won't keep the child in line. Letting kids loose and leting them throw things, eat food out of the packages making a mess, letting them scream and tantrum in public places, kicking holes in the walls of bathrooms for fun, not teaching younger kids about stranger danger, kids, many too young to know what it all means, using profanity and flipping people off (my mom was fillped off by some meat back a few days ago), .... Kids nowadays from toddlers up to the teens have no morals, values, respect, or control.

I must say something. I have two reasons why I'm so harsh on kids. One is I just hate them. I can't stand them. Once in a verrrrry great while I'll see the most polite or nicest acting kid at a restaurant, or see a young teen help out an old lady at the store (saw this just yesterday as we were pulling into SafeWay). Another reason why I am harsh on these young people is when I was younger, I just knew not to act like that. It was common sense. Even when I was abused most of my early childhood, by the time I got to my teen years, I never done anything bad. Today, I don't smoke, don't drink, don't run off having sex, don't steal or perform illigal acts, and I have a job supporting my mom and step dad.

I'm really, really sorry if I made parents angry.... I didn't want to.... I'm not saying that you're a bad parent for little things too (I guess ignoring screaming kids isn't a big thing, but still, a perpetual screaming kid is aggrivating as hell and just stirs up my inside). But you have to admit, some things parents do though, DO actually make things worse if you look at it though.... parents who want any kind of loving attachment from their kids and letting them do whatever they want, or the dumb things like saying they can't buy certian things, but still giving them money and credit cards (I HATE how parents say "wull, it's his/her money and I can't stop them from buying it even though I said not to...". ...if you don't want them to buy anything, don't give them a way to do so).

I've rambled on a lot here.... Again I'm sorry if I made any parents angry. I do hope your children grow up to lead healthy, happy (or at least) productive lives. ......just keep your kids out of trouble and they'll be fine 3nodding