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 Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 5:22 am
AntoniaMerEnfant -hugs Jade- We could start the Spinsters Club. biggrin biggrin *holds up his ear horn to his ear* WHAT DID YOU SAY!?! wink
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Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 7:10 am
I try not to bring my relationship status into play much on Gaia; yes, I'm 22 with no children and no chance at a boyfriend in the foreseeable future. I'm working on an honours degree, and I don't have the time or energy tp spend on finding one right now, nor do I see the point since I have no idea where I'll be in school next year, except somewhere outside of Nova Scotia. So really, not much sense to look.
It wasn't on Gaia, but I was once told that I was no kind of woman because I infertile. The guy who said it was instantly banned, but it still stung. Like I need children I'm not sure I want in order to be a valid human being... stare
Here on Gaia, the most I get told is that I'm old. OLD! I'm 22, for crying out loud! I'm the age half of these kids want to be because I can drive, drink my face off legally, and I have an apartment! scream I am not old.
And I prefer the term "venerable". blaugh
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Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 8:15 pm
hee hee lightsenshi, spinsters, not old maids wink there's a difference... spinsters involving "spin"ing, which sounds fun. Old maid sounds poopy.
There's more to being a woman than being a Mom, don't worry Gypsy. Moms are fine and dandy, but I can't stress that we still need fire fighters, doctors, nurses, civil protection, engineers, water sanitation people... Moms are only as good as the society around them. The way I look at it, we working gals are like the moms of the entire society. What we do provides an invaluable function. You can be feminine and work. Your talents are a gift, one the world wouldn't function without.
Boyfriends are overrated... but make out buddies -grins- priceless. Commitment is a scary concept-- and time consuming. But at the end of a massive paper and a long day of work, some "pool boy" type to rub my shoulders would be definitely appealing. But alas, where can I obtain such a glorious thing?
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 5:20 pm
AntoniaMerEnfant Boyfriends are overrated... but make out buddies -grins- priceless. Commitment is a scary concept-- and time consuming. But at the end of a massive paper and a long day of work, some "pool boy" type to rub my shoulders would be definitely appealing. But alas, where can I obtain such a glorious thing? Did someone call for me? rofl
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 10:57 pm
lightsenshi Did someone call for me? rofl If you're the pizza shop then yes.... j/k Right now I'm cool, but come finals week... I might just take you up on your offer, but I'm not paying for shipping and handling.
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Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 6:10 am
AntoniaMerEnfant lightsenshi Did someone call for me? rofl If you're the pizza shop then yes.... j/k Right now I'm cool, but come finals week... I might just take you up on your offer, but I'm not paying for shipping and handling. *knocks* Pizza delivery. wink
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Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 10:52 am
lightprincess03 Hrm... I'm 21... I have a son who's 7 months old. On my 21st birthday I was pregnant.. so couldn't drink. I did go to college for a year. A University... my grades were excellent. I got kicked out for not being able to pay them the $35k that my scholarships and grants and loans weren't gonna cover.... sucks... I have no idea how 16 year olds do it. I'm going crazy about it at 21 and I live with the baby's father.... These 16 year old girls are out having babies, don't even know who the father is!!! eek eek eek eek I agree with you! I've seen many young girls that think having a baby is a happily ever after ending. stressed The reality check is going to bounce sometime. xp That's my 2 cents and more. stare
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Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 10:27 pm
So true Denise.
One of my friends had a baby young. I think in her head it meant that she and her absuive boyfriend would settle down and things would patch up miraculously. They got married, but things only got worse.
Kids are a lot of responsibility, and you can't just have them on a whim thinking it's going to cement a fairy tale romance with "mr. right". Though I do think it would be fun to look up Mr. Right in the phone book. I mean, does anyone have that last name? It would be funny to call someone up if they did and say "yeah, I'm looking for Mr. Right, where the heck have you been??"
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Posted: Thu Oct 05, 2006 6:24 pm
ilikejazz Teviri And people who think being married somehow makes their life more fufilled irk me. Yeah those people are misguided. Are you guys serious? Misguilded? How can you say such a thing. I have been married, she ran of with a cocaine using friend of a friend, but so help me I would get married all over again if the right woman came alone. It does make your life more fufilled, period. On the other hand, it is not the main super ultra motivating factor in my life right now. I think the oddest thing someone said, was not so much what was said but what they kids did. I was playing slots and the room turned into a 13-16 year old turth or dare. I managed to not respond to anything till after 20 mins they where all yelling at me to play, i told them no, and when pestered for my age I told them I was 30. All i got was an oh damn!" a "#@$@#$!@#$!!!!!!" and a "s**t!!!!" as all of them vacated the room in under 3 secs flat. Now that was funny.
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Posted: Thu Oct 05, 2006 7:26 pm
Raien3 ilikejazz Teviri And people who think being married somehow makes their life more fufilled irk me. Yeah those people are misguided. Are you guys serious? Misguilded? How can you say such a thing. I have been married, she ran of with a cocaine using friend of a friend, but so help me I would get married all over again if the right woman came alone. It does make your life more fufilled, period. On the other hand, it is not the main super ultra motivating factor in my life right now. I think the oddest thing someone said, was not so much what was said but what they kids did. I was playing slots and the room turned into a 13-16 year old turth or dare. I managed to not respond to anything till after 20 mins they where all yelling at me to play, i told them no, and when pestered for my age I told them I was 30. All i got was an oh damn!" a "#@$@#$!@#$!!!!!!" and a "s**t!!!!" as all of them vacated the room in under 3 secs flat. Now that was funny. I'm married myself, to a wonderful guy who I adore, but I don't think my life is some how more fuffilled than it was before I was with him. I had a great life then, I have the same life now. Only difference, I have someone to come home to. Not more fufilled.
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Posted: Thu Oct 05, 2006 7:54 pm
Teviri Raien3 ilikejazz Teviri And people who think being married somehow makes their life more fufilled irk me. Yeah those people are misguided. Are you guys serious? Misguilded? How can you say such a thing. I have been married, she ran of with a cocaine using friend of a friend, but so help me I would get married all over again if the right woman came alone. It does make your life more fufilled, period. On the other hand, it is not the main super ultra motivating factor in my life right now. I think the oddest thing someone said, was not so much what was said but what they kids did. I was playing slots and the room turned into a 13-16 year old turth or dare. I managed to not respond to anything till after 20 mins they where all yelling at me to play, i told them no, and when pestered for my age I told them I was 30. All i got was an oh damn!" a "#@$@#$!@#$!!!!!!" and a "s**t!!!!" as all of them vacated the room in under 3 secs flat. Now that was funny. I'm married myself, to a wonderful guy who I adore, but I don't think my life is some how more fuffilled than it was before I was with him. I had a great life then, I have the same life now. Only difference, I have someone to come home to. Not more fufilled. Ok I guess it is a matter oh opinion. fulfilled adj : completed to perfection to me i cant see how you can be married and not say that your life is not if not perfect, at least closer to it. And with that i guess i will shut up. When i was married althought is ended terribly for that brief time my life was closer to perfection. I guess it is a matter of definitions.
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Posted: Thu Oct 05, 2006 8:38 pm
-clears throat-
I hear both sides. Honestly I believe that marriage isn't an elixer that magically cures all of lifes problems. If it was the show divorce court wouldn't exist, Jen and Brad would still be together (no offense to the lovely Angelina), etc.
Problems that were there before marriage will be there after, sometimes even stronger and uglier after matrimonial encounter. Your life isn't a single facet, and although it would be great to settle down with the boy you think is groovy or the girl you think is foxy, or the transsexual you think is a groovin fox, you'll still have to deal with the challenges each day holds. Love isn't perfect , and that's not a bad thing. If we all had this fantastic earth shattering romance, the world would suck. People wouldn't go into work because they'd be having the best sex of their life at home with their honey. Mass chaos would ensue. Marital dischord keeps our society functioning! People are glad to be at work because they're miffed at their signifcant other.
It comes down to your ability to function as a person in general, and conversly your significant other's ability to function as a person. Love isn't perfect, and that's not a bad thing. You roll with the punches and you keep on truckin', or... if you're energy concerned, you keep on bicycling?
However I find it obnoxious that people come down on singles as being unfullfilled for not having a hubby/wife.
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Posted: Sat Oct 07, 2006 2:59 am
I agree that marriage doesn't result in a magical piece of paper that makes your life automatically more perfect. My parents were married for ten years, had what looked like a perfect life... until my father cheated on and then left her. My mother's life was harder, yet still better after he'd left.
My man and I have been together for eight years, we're not married and don't have any plans to become so, since the only thing that would change would be our tax status and I'd finally have an easy way to refer to him to strangers (calling someone you've been living with for that long your "boyfriend" feels weird and wrong).
So, it's not for some people. And some people are quite capable of living a fantastic life without a significant other. My sister, for example, has never had a relationship, religiously repels all the guys who try to convince her into one, and is perfectly happy in her singular lifestyle. She's of the personality that she'd gain nothing but misery from marriage.
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Posted: Sat Oct 07, 2006 7:44 pm
I guess I am somewhat lucky in that I am in a guild that is mostly 13 to 17 year olds. They are fairly intelligent kids and the regulars know me and how old I am. They are cool with that and I even got a surprise when I returned after a long absence and was welcomed back repeatedly. They had actually missed me. I still avoid those topics that should not be discussed between adults and non-familial children. It just would not be right.
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Posted: Sat Oct 07, 2006 9:30 pm
I would say marriage is good, but only for those who want it. For me, I love being married... it is not perfect... but it has its benefits that I personally wouldn't trade in for anything in the world. But sometimes, I want to be single again, and be able to have more freedom than now. Do whatever I want to without having to worry about anyone else, but me... That lifestyle is great.
It's just a matter of opinion I would say. But a lot of the younger gaians here seem to think its as you say... "happily ever after." Marriage will improve your relationship... it will mean you have it all... its far from that. In fact, it will actually cause a lot of problems in a relationship just like kids... so there shouldn't be this rush to jump into it like so many kids here think.
But back to the subject.... I hate the amount of "Cyber sexer" on here, aka in the games. So I usually do say I am married... but I tend to get an opposite response.... they start asking about my sex life. It's so funny.... because I don't say it, but they start begging or have some really bizzare knowledge about sex. Its hillarious, but kind of sad at the same time.
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