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Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 2:04 pm
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I am an autonomous human being. I have my own thoughts, my own feelings, my own perceptions and my actions aren my own. Just because I do not conform to your ideal as a family member and just because I do not take being emotionally manipulated and abused "because you are family" doesn't mean I think the lot of you are 'evil'. It doesn't mean I'm a horrible person and it doesn't mean I'm being mean to you. I refuse to deal with people who are emotionally abusive, period. You are my sister, you are my mother, you are my step father and my brother. I want to have a good relationship with you. But it doesn't seem as though you even understand what you do. If I say I have plans for the weekend already, but need to double check what days I'm doing what, that doesn't mean I'm lying to you. Just because I say "um" doesn't mean I'm lying to you. Just because I cannot attend a planned-at-the-last-possible-minute event that you make doesn't mean I'm a horrible person. Give me time to schedule things with you and if I say I already have plans, then I'm sorry but I already have plans, let's plan for another week, okay? It shouldn't be the big drama that it turns into. Respect me and my time and I will respect you and yours.
This isn't because Graverg is controlling and manipulating me to make me think you're evil. You're not evil, but we're simply not compatible as people. Our views and values are so different, which wouldn't be a problem if you didn't invalidate my feelings and blame all of my decisions since high school on Graverg's "corrupted influence". I am an autonomous adult, I take into consideration the feelings and viewpoints of others but in the end my decisions are my own to make.
Please do not define me only as the role I play in your life. Please define me as an individual. I am not an extension of you, I am not on this Earth solely to be your sister or your daughter. I am me. You do not accept this fact and that.... that is why I cannot be around you. I wish I could love you, I wish we could all get along and be merry and jolly like the Hallmark family you think we should be. But it doesn't work that way. Blood isn't thicker than water and it does not excuse any of the emotional turmoil I have been through trying to cope with these unhealthy situations.
I have talked to professionals about this, I have done everything I can on my end to try to get through and change things. But I will not be emotionally bullied and beat up because it's easier for you. I'm not taking your s**t anymore because I no longer have to and I've learned how to stand up for myself.
So start treating me with respect and start looking at me as a person. Then we'll talk.
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Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 10:49 pm
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Mameoyashi I am an autonomous human being. I have my own thoughts, my own feelings, my own perceptions and my actions aren my own. Just because I do not conform to your ideal as a family member and just because I do not take being emotionally manipulated and abused "because you are family" doesn't mean I think the lot of you are 'evil'. It doesn't mean I'm a horrible person and it doesn't mean I'm being mean to you. I refuse to deal with people who are emotionally abusive, period. You are my sister, you are my mother, you are my step father and my brother. I want to have a good relationship with you. But it doesn't seem as though you even understand what you do. If I say I have plans for the weekend already, but need to double check what days I'm doing what, that doesn't mean I'm lying to you. Just because I say "um" doesn't mean I'm lying to you. Just because I cannot attend a planned-at-the-last-possible-minute event that you make doesn't mean I'm a horrible person. Give me time to schedule things with you and if I say I already have plans, then I'm sorry but I already have plans, let's plan for another week, okay? It shouldn't be the big drama that it turns into. Respect me and my time and I will respect you and yours. This isn't because Graverg is controlling and manipulating me to make me think you're evil. You're not evil, but we're simply not compatible as people. Our views and values are so different, which wouldn't be a problem if you didn't invalidate my feelings and blame all of my decisions since high school on Graverg's "corrupted influence". I am an autonomous adult, I take into consideration the feelings and viewpoints of others but in the end my decisions are my own to make. Please do not define me only as the role I play in your life. Please define me as an individual. I am not an extension of you, I am not on this Earth solely to be your sister or your daughter. I am me. You do not accept this fact and that.... that is why I cannot be around you. I wish I could love you, I wish we could all get along and be merry and jolly like the Hallmark family you think we should be. But it doesn't work that way. Blood isn't thicker than water and it does not excuse any of the emotional turmoil I have been through trying to cope with these unhealthy situations. I have talked to professionals about this, I have done everything I can on my end to try to get through and change things. But I will not be emotionally bullied and beat up because it's easier for you. I'm not taking your s**t anymore because I no longer have to and I've learned how to stand up for myself. So start treating me with respect and start looking at me as a person. Then we'll talk. *hugs* heart
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Posted: Thu May 12, 2011 9:28 am
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