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I think for me it's important to differentiate between the trans person who has already transitioned (to wherever on the gender spectrum they want to be) and the trans person who is in transition, or considering transition.

I know to some extent it depends on the person, but the level of stress and emotional anguish that seems to go along with the process is just too much for me. I don't have the emotional resources, I'm not up for supporting someone through that, only to have them come out the other side a completely different person than I fell in love with. If you want to call me cold or disloyal, go ahead, but I've been there, and nobody wins. But that isn't really because I don't want to date someone who is trans, so much as I don't want to date someone whose life is in complete and painful upheaval.

On the other hand, I have no problem dating someone who has transitioned and is satisfied with where he/she/whatever is. Although if they're overly political about it, I tend to find that a turn off, as I just don't like politics much in my personal life.

I could never be with someone who hasn't had their sex change yet. Like, a girl tried to get with me once, and she was on hormones, but i found out she still had her p***s. And... that is just really gross to me. I wouldn't want to be with someone, incidentally, who had both a p***s and a v****a. Again, just too weird for me. Also, as a personal preference, I don't know if i could be with someone who had quite obviously had a sex change. Like, if their features were just way too overly masculine, especially.

But then, I'm very picky with people I date who haven't had sex changes. So, idk. Some things would just be weird to me. But I think a person who had already done the sex change, and who truly acted and looked like the gender they had changed to would not be unacceptable to my standards.

I feel like such a weirdo. Everyone else is like 'love for all' and i'm really picky. =P

This is where I am afraid I must plead general ignorance/inexperience gonk Please forgive me for living in a uberconservative backwater. I am seeing a bunch of words here that I'm going to have to go learn before feeling comfortable fully attempting to answer the question, but I shall do my best.

I try to keep an open mind, I really do, but some things just aren't for me. I've never really found a male attractive, and honestly, the only p***s I'm interested in is my own sweatdrop I'm not saying that these other identifications would necessarily be completely out of the question for me, but I am a bit "old fashioned hetero" I guess.

I think I've got it, Riri smile
"intersex" and "3rd gender" were what really threw me, I've just not come across those terms. So I went on a self-education binge. I will do some more later but I have to get ready for work.

As of right now I am still not fond of them as they seem a bit vague *shrug* I am used to precision work, I like things exact when they can be. Identifying people can be a tricky business though, I fully understand that *looks to his own story*

I'm all for greater understanding, Riri smile link me.

And I'm afraid I have to argue a bit about the vagueness of "intersex" but I think it's because of the possible usages. I am looking at it from a medical standpoint (prior training, and hopefully to return someday...although I DO like this tech thing...cyborgs are too far off yet though). Where I think you may be looking at it more as a social self identification, am I correct?

My understanding is that "intersex" covers a range of conditions, but does not include body modification. (another personal fascination of mine)


I know a little, not very much, I picked up a bit more when trying to improve my understanding of what was going on. Feed the brains?