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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:13 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:15 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:15 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:15 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:15 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:15 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:15 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:20 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:20 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:20 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:20 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:20 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:20 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
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Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:20 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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Posted: Sat Aug 14, 2021 10:20 pm
, Groom Kicks Brother Out Of Engagement Party After He Insinuates Fiancée Is A Gold Digger by McKenzie Lynn Tozan
Nattanon Kanchak/Getty Images When we start dating someone new, we always hope that our closest friends and our family will like and accept our new partner.
But when the time comes to marry them, we especially want our partners to feel accepted and loved.
It doesnât always work out that way, though, confided the âAm I the A**hole?â (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Engagementx1234 was fed up at his own engagement party when some derogatory things about his fiancée.
When he was criticized, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he overreacted.
He asked the sub:
âAITA for kicking my brother out of my engagement party for what he said about my fiancĂ©e?â
The OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family.
âI ([Male] 31) met my now fiancee at the clinic I work in (Iâm a dentist).â
âShe works a lower-paying job at the clinic.â
âSheâs the sweetest, nicest, most beautiful woman Iâve ever met. Sheâs smart, humble, and has a beautiful smile.â
âIt was a love of first sight for me and I was lucky that she felt the same way about me.â
âI introduced her to my family after 8 months of dating (she wanted to wait because of her fear that my family wouldnât accept her).â
âMy sister became her best friend instantly.â
âMy mom admired her personality and became friends with her mom.â
Not everyone liked her, though.
âBut my dad and brother kept their distance and made some pretty hurtful comments about how âincompatibleâ my fiancee and I were and how I should keep it moving and look for someone âwith a better backgroundâ. They never said anything in front of her though.â
âI ignored them completely and tried to protect my fiancee from their snide comments, but because mom and others wanted us to visit, then we didnât have much choice.â
It came up again at their engagement party.
âLast week we had our engagement party at the restaurant.â
âI didnât want my dad or my brother there, but my mom told me to let my dad and brother come since my fiance would notice I didnât invite them and ask questions about it.â
âI decided to invite them after mom promised they remain civil and respectful.â
âMy family arrived together.â
âMy dad remained quiet then started talking with other guests, so things were going pretty well.â
The OPâs brother persisted.
âWhen dinner arrived, my brother sat with us at the table, asking how much money âI lostâ to make this dinner happen then how much my fiancee contributed âat allâ.â
âMy fiancee and I were talking about her engagement ring, and my brother randomly started singing, âI ainât saying she a gold digger.'â
âMy fiancee and her mom stared at him, and he stopped.â
âI gave him a look as a warning for him to knock it off.â
âThen I got up from my seat to make a toast, and my brother interrupted me loudly, coughing, âPrenup!â and everyone heard him and stared awkwardly.â
âI was livid. I put my drink down and asked him to see me outside.â
âI had an argument with him and told him to leave.â
âHe acted dumb about how he behaved and Mom got involved.â
âI demanded him to leave, and he did after calling me nuts, and Mom and Dad said I shouldnât have kicked him out.â
âDad left shortly after, which made Mom say I caused a scene and ruined my own dinner by kicking my brother out.â
âMy fiancee was hurt by that, but Mom said my brother cried because I kicked him out and wants us to meet and talk.â
âMy brother is older than me, heâs 37 and divorced.â
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
NTA: Not the A**hole YTA: Youâre the A**hole ESH: Everybody Sucks Here NAH: No A**holes Here Some couldnât believe the disrespect the OPâs brother and dad showed.
âNTA â how dare they disrespect your fiancĂ©, that is crossing the line. I do believe your Dad and brother must talk about their dislike for her A LOT if he had the balls to embarrass you and her at your own party.â
Our Community
2,415 Comments posted on Percolately this month âHe deserved to get kicked out and you shouldnât feel bad about it at all, nor would I even worry about meeting up with them.â â lilyintx
âThey didnât disrespect just his fiancĂ©, they disrespected her entire side of the family. Completely unacceptable. Good on OP for not glossing it over, or sheâd never have known if she could trust him to be her partner.â â Dread314r8Bob
âAnd how childish was it to blame OP for ruining his own dinner? âHe didnât ruin your dinnerâŠYOU ruined it. NAH NAH NAH NA BOO BOO!!!'â
âIn reality, OP saved his dinner by getting rid of the trash person who couldnât and wouldnât behave themselves (despite promising to do so).â â pcnauta
âYeah, brother knew exactly what he was doing. He intended to ruin your party. Do not invite him to the wedding and tell your mom and dad if they arenât on board they can join him on the uninvited list.â â KickballW**re
Others said the brother was divorced and shouldnât speak on someone elseâs marriage.
âMaybe a nice retort after the âprenupâ cough could have been â âlook â Iâm happy. Iâm celebrating. and your failed marriage wonât change that.'â â effyoucreeps
âCame here to say similar: his marriage failed so heâs maybe looking at the world through those lenses. No excuse for acting like he did and not expecting repercussions though. NTAâ â Goateed_chocolate
âAnd the brother is divorced, so heâs not one to lecture about marriage.â
âMaybe he got clobbered financially in the settlement and thatâs why heâs so bitter and rude, but itâs absolutely no excuse to publicly disrespect the fiancĂ©e by calling her a gold-digger, disrespecting OP by implying heâs a sucker whoâs being taken for his money, and also the fiancĂ©eâs family by default.â
âNeither the brother nor dad should be allowed at the wedding when it finally happens. The brother is lucky that he was only asked to leave when OP took him outside; I doubt a lot of people would have had that much self-control. NTAâ â Far_Administration41
Though the OP was pressured to apologize to his brother, the subReddit thought the brother, father, and maybe even the mother, had another thing coming. Disrespecting someoneâs partner like that, at an event they organized and paid for, is anything but kind.
The OP and his fiancée likely would need to set new boundaries for visiting with family, not to mention who would be invited to the wedding.
Read More
Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan McKenzie Lynn Tozan lives in North Chicago, where she works as a poet, freelance writer, and editor. She received her MFA in Creative Writing from Western Michigan University, and her BA in English from Indiana University South Bend. Her poems have appeared in Rogue Agent, Whale Road Review, the James Franco Review, Thank You for Swallowing, and elsewhere; and her essays and book reviews have appeared with Memoir Mixtapes, The Rumpus, BookPage, and Motherly, among others. When she's not reading and writing, she's in her garden or spending time with her family. For more, visit www.mckenzielynntozan.com.
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