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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
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Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 5:27 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 5:32 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 5:32 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 5:36 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 5:36 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 5:36 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 5:36 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 5:36 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 5:36 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 5:37 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 6:03 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 6:04 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2021 6:04 pm
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ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
OP has more than put herself out there for her BF. She’s covered a lot of things she shouldn’t have to and her BF seems unwilling to start looking for a new job.
If not paying for lunch is what makes him upset after everything else she’s done, she’s not the one wrong here.
“NTA – holy moly, does this guy have any good traits? He sounds lazy, unmotivated, entitled, whiny.”
“If this is how he’s acting as your boyfriend, do you really want to see a future with this guy? People tend to be on their best behavior while dating!” – jacraek
“Congratulations OP you have managed to find yourself a leech, someone in his behaviour definitely needs to change if he wants this relationship to last because his attitude is not something that you deserve to put up with for much longer.”
“NTA” – Scarsguard11
“NTA. I missed the part of your post where you explained why you haven’t dumped this guy yet.”
“He has his own mommy, so the relationship with you seems a bit redundant.” – TheBestPeter
“NTA.”
“He’s an adult and should start acting like one.”
“That aside, how is his mental health? It still isn’t an excuse if it’s bad, but getting help may improve your situation.” – HotBananaCoffee
Many other comments questioned why OP was still in this relationship.
“YTA”
“Not to him, to yourself.”
“You seems smart enough to see where this situation is going, why are you making a big deal over lunch? Do the right thing for both of you.” – mad_throwaway123
“Very good point, thank you for your response” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
Our Community
2,416
Comments posted on Percolately this month
“NTA but (and I say this with the nicest intent) [you’re] an idiot. You’re wasting part of your life on this jerk.”
“He has no motivation to work (which would be sad even if he were a billionaire), mooches off of you, and can’t even be bothered to run to pick up his own lunch.”
“You know you’re not going to get this part of your life back, right?” – horsendogguy
“NTA. A partnership is meant to be just that. You’re not his sponsor.”
“I think the lack of motivation, sleeping all day and unable to complete basic tasks does scream depression to me. I obviously can’t be sure, but that is how it manifests for a lot of people.”
“I would try to have a conversation with him about this though, outside of an argument. Tell him you are becoming resentful of the money borrowing and that you don’t want to feel like this in the relationship.”
“Say you feel that the unemployment is not benefitting him and perhaps he needs the structure of work. Maybe approach how he is feeling and whether he feels he needs any support with that” – Laurajenn
“I think I agree. I’m thinking a long serious talk, and then if nothing changes I need to move on.” – Trick_Water_9702 (OP)
In some of her comments, OP has made it clear she’s done dealing with her BF’s behavior. Whether that leads to them breaking up is unknown, but if he refuses to change or get help, it likely will.
It’s important to remember that while you can help someone in your relationship, it’s not your responsibility if they refuse to help themselves.
Written by Ben Acosta
Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.
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