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 Posted: Thu Jul 07, 2011 5:57 pm
woofpuppy
Hello smile Hope everyone reading this is having a little bit of goodness in their day wink
I'm a 43 y.o. male, married to a woman for 10 years at this writing. We have an 8 year old child and a big, dumb but loveable dog. I've been completely monogamous since my wife and I met, and she says she has also. I'm bisexual, my wife knows about it, my past LTRs with both men and women, and she's told me about hers. She's also the jealous type. If a woman flirts with me (rare these days) she goes ballistic. She's also jealous of my 6.5 year LTR with another man, even though it was years before we met, she never met him and never will.
One day, out of the blue, she comes to me and says I have her 'permission' to have a relationship with another man, because she knows I'm never quite satisfied - part of me has been cut off for 10 years. O.K. Wow. I wasn't expecting that. I haven't acted on it yet, but I soooo want to. I know I eventually will. She did say if I was with another woman, though, she'd have to kill me.
My wife is also bisexual, a little. She does some Kinsey scale thing where I'm right in the middle and she's between bi & straight. I think she gave me her 'permission' because she wants the same. I already told her I wouldn't divorce her for having an affair, but I'm wondering if us having separate relationships on the side would be the best thing. I have a friend who's poly, and looking at how her relationhip(s) work out, I'm wondering if that would be a better solution for us. I don't like the idea of 'cheating', even with approval. Bringing another person into the family is more appealing to me.
So I'm here to learn, maybe ask some questions, and see where I should go from here.
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson Hehehehehe Welcome. heart
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Posted: Thu Jul 07, 2011 6:33 pm
Shayne Indra woofpuppy
Hello smile Hope everyone reading this is having a little bit of goodness in their day wink
I'm a 43 y.o. male, married to a woman for 10 years at this writing. We have an 8 year old child and a big, dumb but loveable dog. I've been completely monogamous since my wife and I met, and she says she has also. I'm bisexual, my wife knows about it, my past LTRs with both men and women, and she's told me about hers. She's also the jealous type. If a woman flirts with me (rare these days) she goes ballistic. She's also jealous of my 6.5 year LTR with another man, even though it was years before we met, she never met him and never will.
One day, out of the blue, she comes to me and says I have her 'permission' to have a relationship with another man, because she knows I'm never quite satisfied - part of me has been cut off for 10 years. O.K. Wow. I wasn't expecting that. I haven't acted on it yet, but I soooo want to. I know I eventually will. She did say if I was with another woman, though, she'd have to kill me.
My wife is also bisexual, a little. She does some Kinsey scale thing where I'm right in the middle and she's between bi & straight. I think she gave me her 'permission' because she wants the same. I already told her I wouldn't divorce her for having an affair, but I'm wondering if us having separate relationships on the side would be the best thing. I have a friend who's poly, and looking at how her relationhip(s) work out, I'm wondering if that would be a better solution for us. I don't like the idea of 'cheating', even with approval. Bringing another person into the family is more appealing to me.
So I'm here to learn, maybe ask some questions, and see where I should go from here.
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson Hehehehehe Welcome. heart
Heh, I figured I'd run into you here sooner or later wink heart
Mameoyashi: Thanks for the welcome and the book selections. I will definitely get one, as I'm not really sure how this is going to work. Guidance is a good thing.
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 10:23 am
woofpuppy
Heh, I figured I'd run into you here sooner or later wink heart
Mameoyashi: Thanks for the welcome and the book selections. I will definitely get one, as I'm not really sure how this is going to work. Guidance is a good thing.
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson You're welcome smile Research is the first step to figuring things out smile I also want to reply to your PM but I can't because it's set to friends only so mine won't go through to you sad
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 10:41 am
Mameoyashi woofpuppy
Heh, I figured I'd run into you here sooner or later wink heart
Mameoyashi: Thanks for the welcome and the book selections. I will definitely get one, as I'm not really sure how this is going to work. Guidance is a good thing.
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson You're welcome smile Research is the first step to figuring things out smile I also want to reply to your PM but I can't because it's set to friends only so mine won't go through to you sad
I just re-opened PMs. smile Sorry, I forgot about that. Had a little bother recently and had to lock things down.
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 10:45 am
woofpuppy
I just re-opened PMs. smile Sorry, I forgot about that. Had a little bother recently and had to lock things down.
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson Completely understandable, no worries smile I do wish that the system would warn people with PMs set to 'friends only' before they send a PM to a non-friend that the person won't be able to reply D:
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 12:18 pm
woofpuppy
Hello smile Hope everyone reading this is having a little bit of goodness in their day wink
I'm a 43 y.o. male, married to a woman for 10 years at this writing. We have an 8 year old child and a big, dumb but loveable dog. I've been completely monogamous since my wife and I met, and she says she has also. I'm bisexual, my wife knows about it, my past LTRs with both men and women, and she's told me about hers. She's also the jealous type. If a woman flirts with me (rare these days) she goes ballistic. She's also jealous of my 6.5 year LTR with another man, even though it was years before we met, she never met him and never will.
One day, out of the blue, she comes to me and says I have her 'permission' to have a relationship with another man, because she knows I'm never quite satisfied - part of me has been cut off for 10 years. O.K. Wow. I wasn't expecting that. I haven't acted on it yet, but I soooo want to. I know I eventually will. She did say if I was with another woman, though, she'd have to kill me.
My wife is also bisexual, a little. She does some Kinsey scale thing where I'm right in the middle and she's between bi & straight. I think she gave me her 'permission' because she wants the same. I already told her I wouldn't divorce her for having an affair, but I'm wondering if us having separate relationships on the side would be the best thing. I have a friend who's poly, and looking at how her relationhip(s) work out, I'm wondering if that would be a better solution for us. I don't like the idea of 'cheating', even with approval. Bringing another person into the family is more appealing to me.
So I'm here to learn, maybe ask some questions, and see where I should go from here.
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson Heya Woof and welcome. I highly suggest the both of you read "The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton. Good primer for non-monogamy. Welcome! ^_^
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 12:25 am
Leo is Leo. 3nodding
She's 19, speaks in the 3rd person, and up until very recently would have sworn up and down that she would never ever be in a poly relationship.
Except now she's in one, so clearly that was a lie. xD
Uhm yeah, so she's just figuring everything out and whatnot. Some people know her from other threads. *waves to them*
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 1:25 am
Leolilac Leo is Leo. 3nodding
She's 19, speaks in the 3rd person, and up until very recently would have sworn up and down that she would never ever be in a poly relationship.
Except now she's in one, so clearly that was a lie. xD
Uhm yeah, so she's just figuring everything out and whatnot. Some people know her from other threads. *waves to them* Bwahhaha hey Leo dear. I was the same way, I swore up and down I was "too jealous" or whatnot. *huggles*
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 1:54 am
Leolilac Leo is Leo. 3nodding
She's 19, speaks in the 3rd person, and up until very recently would have sworn up and down that she would never ever be in a poly relationship.
Except now she's in one, so clearly that was a lie. xD
Uhm yeah, so she's just figuring everything out and whatnot. Some people know her from other threads. *waves to them* Yes, much welcome, Leo smile
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 9:48 am
Hello, everyone! I'm Geffyn. I've been around LD for a while, so if you post there, maybe you know of me. Hopefully that's a good thing. Haha.
With the partner I've been with longest, I've been in a poly relationship for about three years. I've been married for almost two years. My husband is in the guild here, Daemon Von Blaque. I also have two boyfriends. One I've been with for over two years, the other for about six months. My partners have other partners of their own, as well. With their partner's partners, etc, our relationship network consists of twelve people currently. We also have some sexual friends who we love very deeply.
Information outside my relationship.. I just turned 20 about a month ago. I'm a junior in university, starting an accelerated masters of sociology program in the fall. I'm doing some summer classes at the moment to patch up some requirements before next semester, since I needed a few things out of the way to be on track for the accelerated program. I'm also very interested in philosophy and started out intending to be a philosophy major. My username, The Gay Science, is the title of a novel by Friedrich Nietzsche. I still think I'll go back for the philosophy degree after I'm done with this one. Still three years to go, though!
I work as a go-go dancer/stripper. I absolutely love it. I love my fellow dancers. I've made some of the best friendships of my life at this club. It pays amazingly well. People have a lot of negative preconceived notions about my job, but at least in my case basically none of them are true. I always feel safe at my job. No one since I've been working there has been hurt in any way. The costumers don't touch us at any point. The bouncers are awesome and they take good care of us. It's the best job I've ever had. Before working as a stripper, I was a lifeguard and I'm also certified as a rescue diver. I absolutely love swimming. I swim basically every day.
And that's all I can think of about myself for the moment. I look forward to meeting everyone and getting to know you all!
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 10:04 am
Hi Geffyn, hi Leo- welcome to the guild!
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 12:26 pm
Leolilac Leo is Leo. 3nodding
She's 19, speaks in the 3rd person, and up until very recently would have sworn up and down that she would never ever be in a poly relationship.
Except now she's in one, so clearly that was a lie. xD
Uhm yeah, so she's just figuring everything out and whatnot. Some people know her from other threads. *waves to them* Welcome Leo. I hope that you figure things out to your satisfaction, the guild is around to help of course smile The Gay Science Hello, everyone! I'm Geffyn. I've been around LD for a while, so if you post there, maybe you know of me. Hopefully that's a good thing. Haha. With the partner I've been with longest, I've been in a poly relationship for about three years. I've been married for almost two years. My husband is in the guild here, Daemon Von Blaque. I also have two boyfriends. One I've been with for over two years, the other for about six months. My partners have other partners of their own, as well. With their partner's partners, etc, our relationship network consists of twelve people currently. We also have some sexual friends who we love very deeply. Information outside my relationship.. I just turned 20 about a month ago. I'm a junior in university, starting an accelerated masters of sociology program in the fall. I'm doing some summer classes at the moment to patch up some requirements before next semester, since I needed a few things out of the way to be on track for the accelerated program. I'm also very interested in philosophy and started out intending to be a philosophy major. My username, The Gay Science, is the title of a novel by Friedrich Nietzsche. I still think I'll go back for the philosophy degree after I'm done with this one. Still three years to go, though! I work as a go-go dancer/stripper. I absolutely love it. I love my fellow dancers. I've made some of the best friendships of my life at this club. It pays amazingly well. People have a lot of negative preconceived notions about my job, but at least in my case basically none of them are true. I always feel safe at my job. No one since I've been working there has been hurt in any way. The costumers don't touch us at any point. The bouncers are awesome and they take good care of us. It's the best job I've ever had. Before working as a stripper, I was a lifeguard and I'm also certified as a rescue diver. I absolutely love swimming. I swim basically every day. And that's all I can think of about myself for the moment. I look forward to meeting everyone and getting to know you all! Welcome Geffyn biggrin Good to have you in and about the guild.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 12:45 pm
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Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2011 8:03 pm
My screen name is Leon Loire. If you noticed the picture I posted of myself however, you will know that my last name is Nelson. Neither of which is important I guess. I'm twenty three and married. I've been married for less then a year, however I have known my wife and dated her for five years previous to marriage. I am in the army, something I am sure you would have noticed if you viewed the picture. I am a tanker crewman, but don't read into that. We don't use tanks in the war anymore and I haven't even seen one in over half a year. So I'm basically mechanized infantry. I am currently deployed to Afghanistan. Not much more to say on that aside from it isn't all it's cracked up to be.
On a more personal note, I am Polyamory however my wife is not. Well, thats not completely true. Me and my wife practice S&M in our daily life. I am her master, she is my slave. I won't go into details however I will state that despite what you may think, it works perfectly for us. As the master it is my job to bring in others for however long I wish. And since my wife prefers women, I only bring in women. Why she married me if she prefers women I get asked often. It's because I am the only man who she has ever been attracted to and fulfills every quality she ever wanted in one. I make it a personal goal to always better myself for her sake and for the sake of our marriage. And I am proud of the fact that if there is anything I am good at, it's relationships and women.
I am a pacifist. And I disagree with the military and it's views. I joined for my wife's sake so don't judge me. I'm not some grunt who enjoys killing and is all hooah about being a soldier. I get annoyed when the others brag about the dog they had to shoot or how they just want to put a couple in the heads of the locals. I'm here to do my job so my wife can be happy and safe at home, well fed with a roof over her head. And if I have to take a life so I can return to her, I will. I may not like it, but it's my duty. Not my duty to my Army, but my duty to her.
That was longer then expected. If you have any questions just ask. I have much wisdom and experience to offer. That and any conversation will make this deployment go faster.
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Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2011 10:45 pm
LeonJLoire My screen name is Leon Loire. If you noticed the picture I posted of myself however, you will know that my last name is Nelson. Neither of which is important I guess. I'm twenty three and married. I've been married for less then a year, however I have known my wife and dated her for five years previous to marriage. I am in the army, something I am sure you would have noticed if you viewed the picture. I am a tanker crewman, but don't read into that. We don't use tanks in the war anymore and I haven't even seen one in over half a year. So I'm basically mechanized infantry. I am currently deployed to Afghanistan. Not much more to say on that aside from it isn't all it's cracked up to be. On a more personal note, I am Polyamory however my wife is not. Well, thats not completely true. Me and my wife practice S&M in our daily life. I am her master, she is my slave. I won't go into details however I will state that despite what you may think, it works perfectly for us. As the master it is my job to bring in others for however long I wish. And since my wife prefers women, I only bring in women. Why she married me if she prefers women I get asked often. It's because I am the only man who she has ever been attracted to and fulfills every quality she ever wanted in one. I make it a personal goal to always better myself for her sake and for the sake of our marriage. And I am proud of the fact that if there is anything I am good at, it's relationships and women. I am a pacifist. And I disagree with the military and it's views. I joined for my wife's sake so don't judge me. I'm not some grunt who enjoys killing and is all hooah about being a soldier. I get annoyed when the others brag about the dog they had to shoot or how they just want to put a couple in the heads of the locals. I'm here to do my job so my wife can be happy and safe at home, well fed with a roof over her head. And if I have to take a life so I can return to her, I will. I may not like it, but it's my duty. Not my duty to my Army, but my duty to her. That was longer then expected. If you have any questions just ask. I have much wisdom and experience to offer. That and any conversation will make this deployment go faster. Welcome. You aren't the only kinky person here if that makes you feel better. pirate I am the s side of things myself.
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