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Posted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 9:19 am

****this thread isnt to bash all men just the select few who have no heart or like to mess around with other peoples hearts X__x****

why do guys have to suck so goddamn much
GAH!
ok so here's my story:

i was in love with my best friend i asked him out a long a** time ago his reason for saying no
"i dont love myself so i dont know how to love another" PLEASE you cant just say no
and i asked him out a few years later
and guess what!
" that would not be possible as you may already have guess i unfourtunatly perfer the same sex, but if that were not the issue i would go out with you"
ok so because i lack a p***s is his reason for saying no PERFECT so now i feel stupid for trying again AND i now hate my gender because of it perfect

ok so i decided get the ******** over him and i did
why
because i met a fantastic boy who the biggest sweetheart ever
unfourtunatly he's my friends ex from last year O_o;;
and apperently she had feelings for him still
and he obviously isnt over her
eigther way i tell my friend this and she informs me that she doesnt actually plan on getting back together with him O_o;; and i know she just said that to make me feel better because she started to lay on the guilt like"oh this is why i NEVER show my friends the boys i like" and then says stuff like i'll just cry and be over it and i told her i wont do anything if she didnt want me to and i told her i told her this because she is my friend and i wanted her to know why because she is my damn friend and we shouldnt hide s**t form eachother, whatever after hours of drama she says she doesnt care and compleltly tells the boy off and so hes confused as ******** O_o and asking me whats wrong with her because he wanted to be friends with her again. which is apperently not happening anymore.

ok so he tell me for months and months and months that he really really likes me and wants to be with me blah blah blah ok so he drives his a** up here (he's from tulsa O_o''''' and im from canada) ok so he gets up here we chill
we laugh we have a load of fun
and we even end up together one night and after that a few days later i see him sulking and holding a braclet my friend gave him last year a day before she dumps him ok so i ask him just so he can get out his demons and maybe feel better but no he wont tell me whats wrong so now i feel helpless to even make someone i care about feel better >_<;;
ok so i bring up the topic of us being together one night and he tells me
"i dont wanna sound like an a*****e (im thinking oh boy here it comes) but i thought i was ready for a relationship ...etc..." also he tells me about stuff going down with his family and i can CLEARLY see he isnt over my friend GRAND! ok so we decided to leave us at friends until he can figure his s**t out oh and apperently he regrets thats night or so it seemed like it the way he said he felt bad about it, so i feel like the BIGGEST tool around and like the biggest mistake, ok so we make plans to hang out and now he isnt even freakin talking to me and avoiding me like the goddamn plage and we both agreeed it wont be akward and i never ussually make it akward i really dont, but hes going out of his way to make things worse!
BAH! worst part is i still freaking like him sooo much
so my conclusion
BOYS GODDAMN SUCK! D:<

++EDIT scratch that ******** him he turned out to be the BIGGEST jerk a** ever holy crap, he deicded it was my fault i broke my ankle and that i was using him for his car when i asked him if he can take me to the ******** hospital WTF MAN! i asked him nicley he could have said no and been over with it wrst part was he was with me when i hurt myself then decided to throw it back at me and then one thing lead to another and in the end i hope i never see his stupid face again! UGH! WASTE OF MY LIFE!++

so tell me your story and maybe we can all collaborate and give eachother advice on our "boy issues"

Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 9:31 pm

Mmkay, 1) Not ALL guys suck. I really hate when people say that because, you know they have the same emotions as girls. They get nervous, shy, and get over people just like girls do. You're not going to find one whose perfect, just like girls aren't perfect. That's too much to ask of a human being.
2) Your profile says you're 19, but you're really acting like some girl whose still in junior high. There's no written rule that a girl can't date her friend's ex, but if you're going to lose a friend, then damn it don't do anything with him! Seriously, your girls are more important than a guy. Even IF you're 19, you have your whole freaking life to find someone.
3) Don't blame yourself for your friend not liking you "I dont love myself so i dont know how to love another" is, actually, a legitimate excuse. If he was depressed, then there's no way he could've had a stable relationship. My boyfriend has been depressed his whole damn life, and our relatonship is anything BUT stable. He says he loves me, but I can't expect him to really show it, which is fine because I care about him, too. And if your friend was gay, then there was nothing you could do about it, anyway.
4) Sounds like you weren't ready to be "together" with him. If you thought it wouldn't change anything or wouldn't make it awkward, then you were very mistaken. It always changes things. Think about that next time.
My advice on the situation: Forget him. He's not over your friend, and you deserve someone who only has eyes for you. Also, he's in Tulsa and you're in Canada. How do you expect to make it work when you're not even in the same country? It probably sounds like I have no sympathy for you, which is absolutely not true. However, if you're 19 you have bigger things to worry about than him. Don't beat yourself up for making a mistake, because-again-perfection isn't for human beings. Friend isn't so bad, just let him talk to you like he did. He said it himself, basically, that he's not ready to be in a relationship. Not your fault. Yeah, it's going to be hard, but there's someone else out there for you, and you'll find them. Maybe it is him, but you can't wait around your entire life.

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Posted: Mon Jul 16, 2007 7:48 pm

Annie Havok-Morphine

Mmkay, 1) Not ALL guys suck. I really hate when people say that because, you know they have the same emotions as girls. They get nervous, shy, and get over people just like girls do. You're not going to find one whose perfect, just like girls aren't perfect. That's too much to ask of a human being.
2) Your profile says you're 19, but you're really acting like some girl whose still in junior high. There's no written rule that a girl can't date her friend's ex, but if you're going to lose a friend, then damn it don't do anything with him! Seriously, your girls are more important than a guy. Even IF you're 19, you have your whole freaking life to find someone.
3) Don't blame yourself for your friend not liking you "I dont love myself so i dont know how to love another" is, actually, a legitimate excuse. If he was depressed, then there's no way he could've had a stable relationship. My boyfriend has been depressed his whole damn life, and our relatonship is anything BUT stable. He says he loves me, but I can't expect him to really show it, which is fine because I care about him, too. And if your friend was gay, then there was nothing you could do about it, anyway.
4) Sounds like you weren't ready to be "together" with him. If you thought it wouldn't change anything or wouldn't make it awkward, then you were very mistaken. It always changes things. Think about that next time.
My advice on the situation: Forget him. He's not over your friend, and you deserve someone who only has eyes for you. Also, he's in Tulsa and you're in Canada. How do you expect to make it work when you're not even in the same country? It probably sounds like I have no sympathy for you, which is absolutely not true. However, if you're 19 you have bigger things to worry about than him. Don't beat yourself up for making a mistake, because-again-perfection isn't for human beings. Friend isn't so bad, just let him talk to you like he did. He said it himself, basically, that he's not ready to be in a relationship. Not your fault. Yeah, it's going to be hard, but there's someone else out there for you, and you'll find them. Maybe it is him, but you can't wait around your entire life.

1.) the disclaimer at the top saying its not directed towards all guys just certain ones
2.) i am in fact 19 and it doesnt matter whether or not i felt hurt and wrote this it was a way of venting
3.)and it wasnt a legitimate excuse because if you know most guys they will say anything other than im not into you, they hate admitting to it so they say other s**t to let you down easily, i was pissed about that because i knew what he was getting at and he couldnt come straight forward and say it. guys aren;t as complex as you may think, they are in fact pretty damn simple.
4.) my main point wasnt the distance or the fact he wasnt over her it was about him leading me on for months and months and months then dropping this all on me in 5 minutes, also me and my friend talked it over and we're cool still it's just him i had an issue with
and just because im 19 doesnt mean i have bigger things to worry about maybe i have nothing else to worry about you don't know that so i wouldnt just jump to a simple conclusion like that

plus the whole point of this thread is for people to come and vent about their boy related problems instead of spamming the sub forum with the same stuff. i apreciate your advice truley i do but please dont assume that just because im a certain age doesnt mean it automatically will change my emotions and feelings, so i say if you feel like whining like a junior high kid then do it if it helps you.

Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 11:08 pm

BAH! HEARTACHE.
SO WHEN I WAS IN 6TH GRADE, I GOT DECIDED TO GIVE THIS GUY A CHANCE. I MEAN, I TRUSTED HIM, WE HAD EVERY CLASS TOGETHER BUT WE WEREN'T THAT CLOSE. AND EVENTUALLY I ENDED FALLING IN LOVE WITH HIM AND WE WERE BOTH DEEPLY IN LOVE. OK?
BACKTRACK----EARLIER IN THE YEAR, ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS HAD A COLOSSAL CRUSH ON HIM. I MEAN SHE DID ANYTHING TO BE WITH HIM. BUT SHE SUPPOSEDLY "GOT OVER HIM". AND WITH MY FRIENDS WE DONT CARE IF ONE OF US GOES OUT WITH OUR EX'S OR EX-CRUSH. SO THERE I WENT 4 MONTHS LATER.
BACK TO THE FUTURE--MY FRIEND THAT HAD A CRUSH ON HIM DIDN'T CARE THAT I WAS WITH HIM SO WE WERE HAPPY THEN ONE DAY SHE SENDS ME THIS NOTE SAYING THAT SHE CAN'T BE MY FRIEND BECAUSE SHE HATES HIM WITH A BURNING PASSION. SO I'M LIKE WTF? I DONT GIVE A CRAP ANYWAYS....5 OTHER THREATENING NOTES LATER! I BREAK UP WITH HIM BECAUSE IM SO CONFUSED AND WE'RE BOTH HEARTBROKEN.
INTO 7TH GRADE, THE RELATIONSHIP IS ON AND OFF FOR ABOUT 5 MONTHS AND EACH TIME "SHE!!!!" IS BREAKING US UP TELLING US LIES ABOUT EACH OTHER. EVENTUALLY IN DECEMBER I ASK HIM OUT ONE LAST TIME AND HE SAYS "I JUST DON'T WANT MY HEART BROKEN ANYMORE [AGAIN?? I DONT RECALL THE EXACT WORD] AND I KNOW IT HURTS YOU TOO...I DON'T WANT ANYMORE HEARTACHE FOR US BOTH.IM SORRY GUERA [ITS A SPANISH NAME..MY NICKNAME THAT HE GAVE ME] ...FORGIVE ME." YEAH...I CRY OVER IT FOR 2 MONTHS [HE WAS MY 1ST BF EVER AND I TRULY LOVED HIM] AND I GO THROUGH 2 OTHER BF'S IN THE SAME YEAR BUT I THINK I USED THEM TO GET OVER HIM...BUT YES. AND 8TH GRADE YEAR WE GOT CLOSE AGAIN...LIKE EVERY CLASS TOGETHER CLOSE..SO CLOSE OUR TEACHERS THOUGHT WE WERE TOGETHER..AND HE WOULD STARE AT ME AND JACK MY STUFF..HE STOLE MY LOCKER COMBINATION...AND I ASKED HIM OUT AGAIN NEAR THE END OF THE YEAR AND HE SAYS "PLEASE GUERA, I REALLY DON'T WANT OUR HEARTS BROKEN...ITS FOR THE BEST. cry " AND THAT MOMENT BROKE MY HEART...IT SHATTERED IT ACTUALLY. YEAH. THERE'S MY HEARTACHE. TO THIS DAY IM NO WHERE NEAR OVER HIM AT ALL. HOPEFULLY MY 9TH GRADE YEAR BRINGS ANOTHER CHANCE. emo

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Posted: Sun Oct 28, 2007 11:13 pm

I can't read CAPS it gives me a headache... I agree... Men SUCK!!!

Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 1:57 pm

You had the bad luck of meeting the wrong person imo. I learned that there are some rules that if possible should be abided.

1. If a guy talks a lot about his ex try to stop getting more feelings towards him. Many people be it boy or girl end a relationship not because they don´t love the person anymore, but because they think it can`t work. Emotionally they are still in love with the ex. So unless the person is really over it avoid dating someone still thinking about the ex. Being friends with the ex is fne, but she may not play a big role in his life anymore

2. Don´t tell anyone who you`re in love with until you are officially dating this person. Like that noone can ruin the relation for you or feel the need to try to prove herself by getting the one you love.

3. Become lovers with the best friend can work, but I learned that it is maybe better to avoid that since it might ruin the friendship if you ever split up and that would be a too higher price in my opinion. I have a best friend and we both actually think we fit together. So we tried to kiss but both felt it was wrong. it was like kissing a brother. If you know your best friend for a very long time it might be that you have an odd feeling. We decided to stay apart.

That`s what I learned. Does not work always but to me it helped many times smile

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