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 Posted: Tue Sep 25, 2012 6:07 am
so i got a job at a resteraunt a couple weeks ago, just to let you guys know
well everyday we have a homeless mentaly challenged guy who comes in and we give him one free meal a day. he is very friendly and nice but my god, he keeps asking how my mother is doing and i keep telling him i dont have one. it really bothers me because he does it so often, sometimes a couple times in just one visit
not really anything i can do about it since he cant seem to remember that ive told him i dont have a mother, i know that, but it still bothers me. its not something ive dealt with as best as i could.
once again, every issue i have in my life seems to revolve around the fact that she died gonk i need to get new problems
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Posted: Wed Sep 26, 2012 12:00 am
Because he is mentally challenged, he may not be able to comprehend that you don't have a mother. Try telling him that your mother passed away and is now with the angels. Chances are that he will continue to ask you about how your mother is doing with each and every visit. So don't make this a problem for yourself, just take it in stride and be as nice as you can. Give him a smile and tell him the same answer again ... Your mother passed away and is now with the angels. And thank him for asking. Keep your head up, and perhaps one day, it'll sink in with him and you'll be a better person for it.
BTW, my mom passed away a few years ago, and I miss her, too. Though it does get easier to cope with as time passes on. Just know that life must go on, so one of the best things you can do for yourself is to take her with you, by remembering all the good times you had with her. 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Sep 26, 2012 5:01 am
Eileen50 Because he is mentally challenged, he may not be able to comprehend that you don't have a mother. Try telling him that your mother passed away and is now with the angels. Chances are that he will continue to ask you about how your mother is doing with each and every visit. So don't make this a problem for yourself, just take it in stride and be as nice as you can. Give him a smile and tell him the same answer again ... Your mother passed away and is now with the angels. And thank him for asking. Keep your head up, and perhaps one day, it'll sink in with him and you'll be a better person for it.
BTW, my mom passed away a few years ago, and I miss her, too. Though it does get easier to cope with as time passes on. Just know that life must go on, so one of the best things you can do for yourself is to take her with you, by remembering all the good times you had with her. 3nodding its not something ie dealt with very well, it has gotten easier as the years go on but it still hurts to think about often so usually i make a point not to. and when i do get sad about it i get really frustrated with myself because you would think that after nearly 9 years i would be able to deal with this better. last night at work i avoided the guy as much as i could so he woudlnt ask. he only asked about my husband and dog yesterday so i hope he is over the whole mother thing have you ever read the book motherless dauthers? its pretty much just a collection of stories from other girls and women who lost their mother's, i found its been helping me alot when im feeling at my lowest
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Posted: Thu Sep 27, 2012 12:30 am
My mom passed away 4-1/2 years ago, and I do get into occasional bouts where I miss her dearly. But I've just learned to deal with it and the sad feelings soon pass. And no, I have not read that book. Though I am glad you have found that book to be helpful for you.
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Posted: Thu Sep 27, 2012 6:13 am
Eileen50 My mom passed away 4-1/2 years ago, and I do get into occasional bouts where I miss her dearly. But I've just learned to deal with it and the sad feelings soon pass. And no, I have not read that book. Though I am glad you have found that book to be helpful for you. im usually pretty good about keeping my emotions in check until mother's day comes around or january since thats her birthday month and the month she died. its just when someone constantly wants to get me to talk about it when it starts to bother me usually i can get my mind back on track if i just think about kittens or sandpaper
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Posted: Sun Sep 30, 2012 6:27 pm
There was a guy at the dog park who asked me if Cowboy was an Australian Shepherd EVERY time I saw him. It really started getting on my nerves to have the SAME conversation with him every time I saw him. The fact that I knew his dog's name somehow didn't dawn on him that we've met before. So ya, I can't imagine how much worse it is for you.
Although, when Rascal was still alive, and I'd run into someone I hadn't seen in a while. They would ask me if I still had Rascal. Not how was he doing, they just wanted to know was he still around, and it really pissed me off, cause I was like, he's ONLY 12, 13, wtv age he was. The thought of him being dead as normal for them really really bothered me. Cause of course two years ago I was sure he'd live to be 20.
Again, not the same, I'm rambling, but all this to say, if that bothered me, I'm sure you have every right to be upset about your situation.
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