So, Boyfriend Wants Me To Do Things, But...

[LorienLlewellyn]

Make sure he's showered as recently as possible. That will help with smell and taste. You can also use a flavored condom. That will help with the taste and prevent him from ejaculating straight into your mouth.

But don't push yourself too hard either. If you still don't like it and really don't want to do it, you're not obligated to. It doesn't matter what his previous girlfriends did. He's with you now, and you don't need to compare yourself with them or anyone else.  

[Voldeturtle]

I get how you feel. With me and my boyfriend, he was a lot more capable of just doing the sexual stuff than I was, so I ended up recieving oral for quite a while before I could bring myself to give it.
Don't push yourself, because if you feel demeaned when you do it, feeling forced won't make it feel any better for you or him. I'd just go with Lorien's advice on sorting out taste and such, seeing as I've never had a problem with it.
It helps if you don't overthink it, stupid as that sounds. If I were to overthink it, I wouldn't be able to get it done, so I just get on with it as opposed to thinking along the lines of 'oh god, I'm going to put his p***s in my mouth, he wees out of that thing' and such. Plus, it makes it easier for you, and more enjoyable for him if you wait until you actually want to do it. Enthusiasm feels much better in all kinds of sexual activity.
But don't feel pressured. Being forced into doing oral, or anything else, is what I'd find demeaning. If you don't want to give head, then don't. He might like it, but you and only you decides what goes in any part of your body, and he should be able to understand that giving head is not something all people are comfortable with.  

[Matadair]

If you feel you aren't ready, then wait until you are certain that you are.  

[Tyshia2]

My advice would be, you've tried being comfortable with giving oral, and it didn't work. If you're not comfortable with it, you're not comfortable with it, and that's not a problem.

I think it's more of a problem that you feel this is something you need to do to make your significant other happy. It's not. There are plenty of things you two can do besides oral, and he's said that you don't have to do it if you don't want to. It sounds like he's trying to be understanding and have a positive sexual relationship that you can both enjoy, which is wonderful. Don't worry so much about doing this one specific thing, and try to focus more on enjoying the other things you guys do.

However, if you do want to keep trying, the person above who suggested flavored condoms was brilliant. But again, if that doesn't work out, don't worry so much. As long as you're both having fun, you're doing it right.  

[hades_from_hell]

a relationship is two people working together. if he cannot understand how uncomfertabel this is for you then that means there a break in the comunication between you. you shoudl not force yourself to try and make him happy this much it will never ever lead to a good outcome. it will mostly lead to resentment start building up.

but if you want to contiue forcing yourself you might have to mind wipe yourself. something wich i know not all peopel can do.  

[Little-Lenah]

From what you have told us, it sounds like he is forcing you to do things he knows you're not comfortable with. But he does it anyways because he knows you want to make him happy.

It also sounds like he doesn't have any respect for your boundaries and your limits. You need to have a talk with him and plant those boundaries firmly in his mind, because if you don't, he'll continue to disrespect you and believe it is okay to do so.

Tell him outright that you do not like blowjobs. Let him know that you are not comfortable with him coming in your mouth. It is your body; he has no right to force you, and you have every right to say no. He needs to respect your decisions and not undermine you when you've told him you aren't comfortable.  

[Nadira]

1. Your boyfriend is a jerk. If he can't respect your needs, then get out of the relationship before you get hurt. I don't care if you like him, his behavior is borderline abusive.

If you aren't comfortable in doing something, and he is INSISTENT that you do it. Something is WRONG with that relationship. It's supposed to be about RESPECT and COMMUNICATION between two people.

Sex might be nice, but when it's borderline abusive, it's not worth it. Trust me, just move on. You will find someone better, and more deserving of your time.  

[Shallow Carnage]

Little-Lenah

From what you have told us, it sounds like he is forcing you to do things he knows you're not comfortable with. But he does it anyways because he knows you want to make him happy.

It also sounds like he doesn't have any respect for your boundaries and your limits. You need to have a talk with him and plant those boundaries firmly in his mind, because if you don't, he'll continue to disrespect you and believe it is okay to do so.

Tell him outright that you do not like blowjobs. Let him know that you are not comfortable with him coming in your mouth. It is your body; he has no right to force you, and you have every right to say no. He needs to respect your decisions and not undermine you when you've told him you aren't comfortable.

Aside from the what as already been stated in this thread by the others and the pointer's granted by our Captain.. This!.. read this again and again until it is burned into your mind... Everything else relevant has been said.. Also Tips to Nadira for being 100% correct as well.. My response is simply to get you to reread the excellent answer's they have already shared.  

[Pia Austin]

soren_alenko

Well, things aren't working out like I hoped. I've tried doing oral on him with a condom on, and not only does it not feel so good on his end, I've only been able to make him go once. I've tried to get him to buy thinner/flavored condoms for such things, but no luck. He just wants me to do them condomless.

Tonight, he was really pushing for me to do him to completion, but I wasn't able to do so since it was physically straining and tiring for me. Not to mention the idea still repulses me. So he had to finish himself off, but he asked again if I'd at least try some of his man juice. Reluctantly I did, and it was just so disgusting to me. He said it was probably because I had this preconception that it'd be bad, but I don't think it was that.

I really want to do this for him to make him happy, especially now since things are a bit hard for us both at the moment, but it's almost too much for me.

Don't force yourself to do it if you don't like it. If he leaves he leaves. I would leave if my bf grossed me out in anyway  

[Little-Lenah]

Question.

Why are you doing this to yourself if it obviously only brings you grief?