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 Posted: Sat Dec 31, 2011 9:09 pm
Soooo, a little bit about me..
Name: Elros or El works
Age: 22
Hobbies/Interests: Oh, goodness.. I have a lot, actually. But, the most prominent ones are reading, writing and playing games (both video and tabletop; including, but not limited to: DnD, MtG, Assassin's Creed, Gears of War, etc., etc..)
Relationship Partners/Status: Ok, I am currently in 3 relationships and it's kind of an "everybody is dating everybody else" sort of situation. I've been with my fiance for 6 years, my girlfriend for about 6 months and I got together with my boyfriend just about 3 months ago. 3nodding My gf and bf are engaged to each other and that's probably the biggest contributing factor (aside from the fact that we all live together) to how this all came about. As for the status of said relationships: it's all still kind of weird and confusing, honestly. ^^;;
When I heard about polyamory: I had actually heard about it a fairly long time ago but it wasn't until I started dating my gf that I actually researched it, you know?
How long I've been polyamorous: I'm not exactly sure. I know that there was at least an inkling of it when I realized that I didn't really concern myself with gender, though...
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Posted: Sat Dec 31, 2011 9:14 pm
Do the guys date each other too?
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Posted: Sun Jan 01, 2012 1:05 am
Esiris Do the guys date each other too?
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Posted: Sun Jan 01, 2012 7:06 am
Elros Namasi Yes, they do. Each individual in this foursome of ours is maintaining three relationships. 3nodding Is the relationship exclusive to the people in the foursome or could people go out and date other people who are dating other people as well?
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Posted: Sun Jan 01, 2012 2:29 pm
Esiris Is the relationship exclusive to the people in the foursome or could people go out and date other people who are dating other people as well?
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Posted: Sun Jan 01, 2012 4:49 pm
Just in case you're interested- that kind of relationship is known as polyfidelity.
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Posted: Sun Jan 01, 2012 7:52 pm
Esiris Just in case you're interested- that kind of relationship is known as polyfidelity.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 3:27 am
It can be really great knowing you have several people who love you. But it drives me crazy when one or more of them withdraws into themselves, especially over something stupid and, frankly, outside their control. Not to say that I'm innocent of the behavior. I know there have been plenty of times that I've done the same and driven them to such frustration that I'm sure they'd like to grab and shake the s**t out of me. =.=
Anywho.. Overall, I'd just like for them to be happy. But I'm neurotic as all hell and incredibly needy so, when they crawl inside their own heads for awhile, I start to feel lonely, unloved, unwanted and I end up listening to what I 'affectionately' refer to as my crazy voice which has me convinced that they'll come to realize how much of a worthless, miserable human being I am and leave me at some point. v.v;
Nuts, right? And that's just referring to today.
On top of that, because of the holidays, there's been a lot of company over and family functions to attend which has put one hell of a damper on displays of affection. I hate having to hide it but, admittedly, it's a necessary evil for the most part. Which I find to be really goddamn depressing.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 8:31 am
I know how that is- are they introverts or are they being passive aggressive?
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 2:45 pm
Honestly, it's more an aspect of introversion. All four of us have a tendency to internalize whatever is bothering us at the time, especially when we ourselves feel like it's something silly to be upset about. But it makes things tense until we get whatever it is off our chests.
As for having to hide what we've got going: there are a few simple reasons.
I told my dad because he's very laid-back. But I can't tell my mom because she's likely to flip out. My fiance (Think) can't tell his family because they're judgmental assholes. My girlfriend (DS) can't tell her family because they're all batshit insane. And my boyfriend (Mousie) can't tell his family because his mother is nuts and his dad is military.
Now, for not telling most of our friends: really, we're only concerned about it getting back to one person. We've had issues with him before. Essentially, when DS and I got together, he was under the impression that there was an orgy going on in the bedroom of my old apartment and he got jealous and felt left out, I guess. He got really creepy to be around and we ended up kind of withdrawing from each other because we couldn't be close without him watching us like a f*cking hawk. ><; He even went so far as to ask Mousie and DS if he could have sex with her. And then, he had the balls to say that he would have posed the same question to Think and I but we were more acquaintances than friends. So, he pretty much implied that DS and I were ******** that could be rented out. e.e
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 2:59 pm
Elros Namasi So, he pretty much implied that DS and I were ******** that could be rented out. e.e Wow... and this guy is a "friend"? cat_eek
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 3:59 pm
Esiris Wow... and this guy is a "friend"? cat_eek
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 5:40 pm
Elros Namasi Esiris Wow... and this guy is a "friend"? cat_eek Why not end the friendship?
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Posted: Wed Jan 04, 2012 1:54 pm
Esiris Why not end the friendship?
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Posted: Thu Jan 05, 2012 10:03 pm
Bleh, I really need to talk to DS and Mousie about their apparent (at least to me) withdrawal from me but they've been dealing with their own couple stuff and I don't want to add any stress because I'm being needy. u.u I've been feeling emotionally and physically starved for attention from them. Not to mention what it's doing to my already unstable mental health. ><;; But I can't bring myself to say anything because I feel like I'm just being a bother. So I'm stuck as to what to do. I wanna be close to them again but I don't want to impose. And I wanna take a step back and go curl up in a corner to pity myself but that'll ******** up Think and I don't know how the two of them would take it. u.u God, I'm such an emo-kid. FML.
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