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 Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 3:23 am
This started from another thread, but I'm curious what shapes other families take. Mine's currently a V with me at the point.
And to answer you here Saew, I'm going through my divorce and one of the points of my V is a ldr. They aren't all bad. smile It's just a matter of how much time, energy and money you both want to put in to keeping as much physical contact as possible. smile Mine went 5 years as friends before finally meeting in person in March, now he's family and I'm going to see him in 8 days.
The money part's the hardest to come up with, I think. >.< Mostly because I'm unemployeed and attempting to get on disability.
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 4:53 am
My shape is currently a dot blaugh
It has been well over a decade since I last tried a ldr. I know I've changed quote a bit since then. Still doesn't do anything for the anxiety though sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 8:46 am
VVV is our current shape-
Annette <> Me <> Blackrose <> Chryos H. <> H's BF
I had a BDSM partner- but not anymore and I'm interested in someone and am taking things slow.
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 9:54 am
Found myself as a prong on the end of a W recently-ish.
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 10:57 am
Saew My shape is currently a dot blaugh It has been well over a decade since I last tried a ldr. I know I've changed quote a bit since then. Still doesn't do anything for the anxiety though sweatdrop I understand anxiety. >.< I'm on meds for anxiety now. I have no advice there, but I can say if you like them enough, and they like you enough, nothing, not even borders will keep you apart. heart Hope and faith in love are good things. smile
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 11:02 am
Esiris VVV is our current shape- Annette <> Me <> Blackrose <> Chryos H. <> H's BF I had a BDSM partner- but not anymore and I'm interested in someone and am taking things slow. The most I've ever had to handle in poly is a V with me at the center (I happened to fall for men who had no interest in anything else). I may in the future have to face one of my partners bringing in someone else and I'm not sure how I'm going to handle that. It's interesting and neat to me that you've got that shape going on with your family. How is the balancing act for it? Do you all spend time together as a family or stay separate with just the points spending time together?
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 11:04 am
Mameoyashi Found myself as a prong on the end of a W recently-ish. The Tim Horton's cup is gone! lol /random Same question for you guys, do you all spend time together as a family? Or stay separated?
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 11:15 am
Shayne Indra The Tim Horton's cup is gone! lol /random Same question for you guys, do you all spend time together as a family? Or stay separated? Indeed. I felt like a change. smile And no, we're not really a 'family'. I haven't even met the gal on the far end of the W actually. P and M are my friends, though I've never been terribly close with either of them. Graverg was better friends with M, turned into FWB, turned into dating. It's getting more serious between those two but I'm still not very close with M or her partner P. I hang out with Graverg and M or Graverg, M and P sometimes but not very often at all. So it's all pretty separate. But it works out and I'm really ecstatic that Graverg found someone else to be with even if I personally don't mesh as great with that person smile
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 11:26 am
Mameoyashi Shayne Indra The Tim Horton's cup is gone! lol /random Same question for you guys, do you all spend time together as a family? Or stay separated? Indeed. I felt like a change. smile And no, we're not really a 'family'. I haven't even met the gal on the far end of the W actually. P and M are my friends, though I've never been terribly close with either of them. Graverg was better friends with M, turned into FWB, turned into dating. It's getting more serious between those two but I'm still not very close with M or her partner P. I hang out with Graverg and M or Graverg, M and P sometimes but not very often at all. So it's all pretty separate. But it works out and I'm really ecstatic that Graverg found someone else to be with even if I personally don't mesh as great with that person smile To me, you're incredibly strong for that. smile I've got to be family. We're not a monogamous family, but I need us to be family, so if one of my boys wants to bring someone else in to the mix, it's got to be someone I can be able to form some kind of attachment with too.
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 11:30 am
Shayne Indra Mameoyashi Shayne Indra The Tim Horton's cup is gone! lol /random Same question for you guys, do you all spend time together as a family? Or stay separated? Indeed. I felt like a change. smile And no, we're not really a 'family'. I haven't even met the gal on the far end of the W actually. P and M are my friends, though I've never been terribly close with either of them. Graverg was better friends with M, turned into FWB, turned into dating. It's getting more serious between those two but I'm still not very close with M or her partner P. I hang out with Graverg and M or Graverg, M and P sometimes but not very often at all. So it's all pretty separate. But it works out and I'm really ecstatic that Graverg found someone else to be with even if I personally don't mesh as great with that person smile To me, you're incredibly strong for that. smile I've got to be family. We're not a monogamous family, but I need us to be family, so if one of my boys wants to bring someone else in to the mix, it's got to be someone I can be able to form some kind of attachment with too. Well if they were complete strangers it would be different, I think. But I know M and P pretty well, they're good people, it's just... You know when you like someone well enough that you can hang out with them every so often, but there just is something that doesn't mesh well enough for you to become very close friends? I don't know, it's hard to explain. I'm comfortable with where my friendship is with them and I just don't see the need to try to force something that isn't there (I've tried before, it only ended up with me pushing myself further away from them). So even if Graverg is getting closer with M, I don't want to try to force something that isn't there between me and M (even if it's just a closer friendship kind of deal). It's... hard to explain I guess. I guess we're still kind of like a family. But more of an extended family who you don't see terribly often rather than a close immediate family. XD;
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 11:36 am
Mameoyashi To me, you're incredibly strong for that. smile I've got to be family. We're not a monogamous family, but I need us to be family, so if one of my boys wants to bring someone else in to the mix, it's got to be someone I can be able to form some kind of attachment with too. Well if they were complete strangers it would be different, I think. But I know M and P pretty well, they're good people, it's just... You know when you like someone well enough that you can hang out with them every so often, but there just is something that doesn't mesh well enough for you to become very close friends? I don't know, it's hard to explain. I'm comfortable with where my friendship is with them and I just don't see the need to try to force something that isn't there (I've tried before, it only ended up with me pushing myself further away from them). So even if Graverg is getting closer with M, I don't want to try to force something that isn't there between me and M (even if it's just a closer friendship kind of deal). It's... hard to explain I guess. I guess we're still kind of like a family. But more of an extended family who you don't see terribly often rather than a close immediate family. XD; That's still a family. biggrin Whatever form your family takes is good for you. smile It's just interesting to me. smile
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 12:15 pm
Shayne Indra Esiris VVV is our current shape- Annette <> Me <> Blackrose <> Chryos H. <> H's BF I had a BDSM partner- but not anymore and I'm interested in someone and am taking things slow. The most I've ever had to handle in poly is a V with me at the center (I happened to fall for men who had no interest in anything else). I may in the future have to face one of my partners bringing in someone else and I'm not sure how I'm going to handle that. It's interesting and neat to me that you've got that shape going on with your family. How is the balancing act for it? Do you all spend time together as a family or stay separate with just the points spending time together? Riri, Annette, me and Chryos, all live together. It is like a family. I like the warmth that has been fostered in the house. I was never close to my family, I was always the loner in the corner with my gameboy. I like that I can foster my own family, it sometimes leaves me wishing I was closer to my bio family though. We do things together, and things apart. I have a date planned for Riri maybe next week, or the week after. Chryos's pursue lives eh 20ish min away from us. They go to the same school, easier to see each other. I was a little hesitant at first, when Chryos suggested he wanted to date someone. Then I hit myself in the head with a clue bat. I love Chryos, and Riri, so Chryos will have someone else too, why should I be threatened/scared/worried. I got over it quickly.
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 12:36 pm
Shayne Indra Esiris VVV is our current shape- Annette <> Me <> Blackrose <> Chryos H. <> H's BF I had a BDSM partner- but not anymore and I'm interested in someone and am taking things slow. The most I've ever had to handle in poly is a V with me at the center (I happened to fall for men who had no interest in anything else). I may in the future have to face one of my partners bringing in someone else and I'm not sure how I'm going to handle that. It's interesting and neat to me that you've got that shape going on with your family. How is the balancing act for it? Do you all spend time together as a family or stay separate with just the points spending time together? Our family used to be more like a daisy chain: My Dom's BF / / My Dom / / Me - Annette (my spouse) / / Blackrose / / Chryos / / Kay Then Kay and Chryos broke up, and Chryos started something with H. My Dom isn't my Dom anymore either- but we used to be a real family. Since my former Dom and his BF have a room, Chryos and Blackrose have a room and Annette and I have a room- we'd have "couple time" and then we'd have family time. That's kind of died off though lately- and it really hurts, but such is life. Annette and I are going to buy a house- and then my former Dom and his BF will be on their own- the plan is for Blackrose and Chryos to live with us and save for a house of their own.
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 11:55 pm
Esiris we'd have "couple time" and then we'd have family time. That's kind of died off though lately- and it really hurts, but such is life. Soon love. Between the wedding, and people not clued into our relationship about... Soon. *throws popcorn* I miss cuddles... crying Also, "family outting" to a lake sound fun? Its heating up and I miss the mountains reflecting off the lake. Esiris the plan is for Blackrose and Chryos to live with us and save for a house of their own close by Fixed. ^_^
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Posted: Sat Jul 09, 2011 1:04 am
I'm a dot that hopes to grow up to be a triangle. Maybe even a square with x's in it, if the opportunity knocks.
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