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 Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 6:56 pm
Well, more specifically, relationships.
I mean, what are things you like in a relationship (and dislikes in relationships), expectations, problems, and all that jazz.
I personally have problems with cling-y-ness. Not so much with dealing with it, but rather, I'm clingy. Normally, I'd do anything to avoid actual interaction with people, but when I'm dating someone, all I want to do is be around that person. Now, they can spend times with their friends... but I'd want to be with them, too. <___< Although, I'm not really jealous. The only time I get jealous is if they start paying more attention to someone (or something) else than me. Once again, that comes with the cling-y-ness.
What about y'all? Or do you even care to have this conversation?
--Edit--
My girlfriend is uber awesome!
And I love her to pieces.
Also, that makes me curious: How do you feel about public display of affection (PDA) and when do you think it's too much; kissing; hugging; saying I love you; sexing your favorite swing at the public park? O_o
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 7:07 pm
~{}~Hay, Jay~
It's your favourite topic follower. ;D
I have the same problem; cling-y-ness is second to god-ly-ness. I not only like to be around the person I'm dating, but, pretty much everyone. When I hug that person, the one I'm dating, I don't wanna let go. It's been a pain to past girlfriends, but, luckily, my current girlfriend is almost the same way; just, only with me, as far as I know. <~ <;
I try to convince everyone that I am not the jealous type, but, that fails, since, I am. I get jealous over the lamest things; friendships, parental-bonding, sibling interaction. Anything. I hate it, but, hey, what can you do? ~{}~
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 7:31 pm
=D I have a topic follower? Hooray!
My girlfriend says she's clingy, as well, but compared to me, she seems like an independent island that's fine with being along. XD It's not something I'm proud of it, but still.
As for jealousy, I know my girlfriend is beautiful, so I've grown accustomed to the fact that guys are gonna wanna hit on her. Which I don't think is bad, just as long as she doesn't encourage them. Nothing wrong with getting an esteem boost.
Although, if she flirts back, then I won't be happy in the least. But like I mentioned before, if she gives anyone more attention than me, I don't like it. Even if that person is family. Or if it's a game or some activity that she places priority over spending time with me, I get incredibly jealous. Of course, school is number 1 priority. But that free time better be mine. <___<
Naw, I'm not like that. I mean, she usually goes out with her mum for a bit on the weekends or sometimes her dad. Thankfully, she doesn't go out with her friends... or else I'd get even less time with her. Although, I do get jealous when she texts them when I talk to her.
But you're right: what can you do? I said I'd work on it, though. It's a very hard process.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 7:53 pm
~{}~Yes, yes you do. 8D<3
Hmm...You do bring up an interesting point; flirtation doesn't hurt, as long as it's one-sided. I do my fair share of "friendly conversation", but, I wouldn't go as far as to call it flirting. If they want to call it flirting, than, by all means, let 'em; just, no blackmailing me. ;~;
I try to work on it, but, changing is hard. D: I don't get too jealous when it comes to activities, but, I know I wish she weren't doing that thing that's occupying her.
I don't really keep a schedule check on my girlfriend, so, her outside activities are a mystery to me. But, I don't really mind. Unless, I suspect cheating, which I haven't ever even considered suspecting. ~{}~
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 8:17 pm
Well, the whole way we met is by our "friendly conversation." XD And we do tend to have a bit of that with other people, but we don't go that far. And just to make sure she doesn't get upset, I keep it to the same gender. So I tend to make guys uncomfortable a lot. X3
I mean, I'm dating a girl, so I don't know why they're so threatened. Of course, gay men have married women, but then they were usually trying to pretend they didn't have those feelings. Well, whatever. Point is, I have a girlfriend and I'm way happier with her than any fling with a guy. So they just need to take a chill pill.
And I don't keep tabs on her, either. Who and what she does in school is a mystery. I mean, she usually doesn't text during lunch, which is okay. She has to have some time with her friends. She does give a lot to me. Which is a sacrifice I don't really have to make, seeing as I don't have any friends. It's a personal choice.
And that's good. You should trust your girlfriend. I've never been cheated on, but just the thought alone isn't pleasing at all.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 9:36 pm
A girl that has loyalty, respect for herself, communication skills, the cabality to be beautiful(any girl can be pretty, if she knows how to wear herself)...
and someone who wont give up cause she made one mistake?
So basically, the opposite of any girl I've ever dated before
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 10:08 pm
Aww, I'm sorry. Mainly because I laughed when you said that, but also 'cause that's no good.
But those are definitely good qualities. Although, I think beauty is also more of a perspective thing. Although it's not something I'm proud of, I am a bit shallow. But still, definitely good qualities.
For me, I'd add someone who wants me just as much as I want them.
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Posted: Mon Oct 19, 2009 3:31 am
~{}~Well, I would keep the flirts to the same gender, but, me being bisexual, one tends to get susceptible. Dx I have made my fair share of guys uncomfortable. >:3
Unfortunately, Jay, I have been cheated on. And, yes, it isn't pleasing, not at all. I guess you could say it feels kinda like nothing, only because you] end up feeling like nothing, upon the discovery.
My apologies, as well, Corrupt; I laughed, too. xD I agree with you both, there. "Beauty is Skin Deep".
Me; I prefer someone who likes to laugh. Someone with a good sense of humor, and someone who tries to be themselves, despite where they are. Because, well, those are my best qualities. As far as I know. ~{}~
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Posted: Mon Oct 19, 2009 3:50 pm
Jay_Flores Aww, I'm sorry. Mainly because I laughed when you said that, but also 'cause that's no good.
But those are definitely good qualities. Although, I think beauty is also more of a perspective thing. Although it's not something I'm proud of, I am a bit shallow. But still, definitely good qualities.
For me, I'd add someone who wants me just as much as I want them. Im not offended, I do actualy find it humorous how blind I have been over the worthless girls.
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Posted: Mon Oct 19, 2009 6:59 pm
Haha. I don't really know what I am. I'm not particularly attracted to either gender. They both have features that I find aesthetically pleasing. As for personality, both have their foibles. And, obviously, they have their strong points. Although, I tend to lean more towards girls because the most male figures in my life weren't exactly the best representatives. So I'm sorry if I seem a bit sexist towards my own gender.
That's no good. I'm sorry that happened to you, you seem like a nice guy. I wouldn't imagine someone would be happy to find that out, even if they didn't like the person. I know, why would two people be together that don't like each other? I don't know, but it happens. And that's usually the end result. Or it's a one-sided hate. Something retarded like that which doesn't make sense.
Well, the bright side to all that is you now know the warning signs of a girl that isn't going to stay loyal. Or at least, I hope you did. The best thing you can do with a situation like that is to not let it happen again. You seem pretty decent, too. So I'm sure there's a good girl out there for you. Or guy. Which ever way your door swings.
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