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 Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 4:10 pm
alright. so, as a method of therapy for my mental health it has been decided that i need to put aside my drinking, smoking, sex, predatory attitude and other hedonistic habits. i'm turning to my faith for the willpower and to prevent myself from going crazy, though i am still stuck in the phase of complaining and wanting. so i would lik eto ask if any of you have any tips for how to restrain myself? sweatdrop redface
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 4:42 pm
Uh, get a hobby? Keep yourself busy, so you don't think about that stuff...
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 4:52 pm
i do have a hobby, and i do keep myself busy. ._. but thing is, i am used to ALWAYS thinking about sex, unless i'm spacing out.
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 5:54 pm
Most men constantly think about sex, that's normal. The urge to act may be a different story. If you already have a hobby, then try to come up with something more distracting than such thinking. As far as changing your overall nature try self help books. I know it sounds corny, but at least look at something that will help you see things differently.
Also, faith really does help. I wish you the best of luck in your endeavor. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 6:00 pm
>.> ok, i hate when people have the idea that most men are just sex-addicted pigs. just cause SOME people (both men and women) are, doesn't mean that all of any particular gender are. this i promise you.
.... and i don't want to change my overall nature, i just want to get though a rough patch in life in a healthy and constructive way. i'm allover the place emotionally, and my habits arn't helping. i jut need to learn how to get some control over my own life. i am NOT planning on remaining abstinant.
i do thank you for the help however. i am sorry for being so tense, i'm realy irritable... i should have been clearer from the start though, that's again my fault.
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 7:41 pm
Chieftain Twilight >.> ok, i hate when people have the idea that most men are just sex-addicted pigs. just cause SOME people (both men and women) are, doesn't mean that all of any particular gender are. this i promise you. .... and i don't want to change my overall nature, i just want to get though a rough patch in life in a healthy and constructive way. i'm allover the place emotionally, and my habits arn't helping. i jut need to learn how to get some control over my own life. i am NOT planning on remaining abstinant. i do thank you for the help however. i am sorry for being so tense, i'm realy irritable... i should have been clearer from the start though, that's again my fault. I think that it is part of our nature to think of such things, but as she said, acting on them is what counts. Taking some sort of self-control venture helps alot. You learn to take hold of yourself. I took Shaolin Kung Fu when I was younger and it really helped me control my emotions and actions. The fasting for Ramadan helps too. Not only is it purifying my body and actions more, it is helping me gain control of myself in a positive way. It is like, if I tell myself no enough..eventually I learn that it's okay to sometimes be no. Suggestions: yoga, martial arts, fasting, denial and reward (such as not gaming for 2 hours, then allowing 30 minutes of gaming) If you are all over the place..do stuff all over the place. XD I hate doing chores and get easily distracted, so make some sort of game out of things...clean under the bed, go wash a few dishes, put away a few clothes, sweep the floor in one room, I do random stuff all over to keep me entertained and it works to a point XD Keep busy is definitely a big help. Hope that helps.
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 10:11 pm
Chieftain Twilight >.> ok, i hate when people have the idea that most men are just sex-addicted pigs. just cause SOME people (both men and women) are, doesn't mean that all of any particular gender are. this i promise you. .... and i don't want to change my overall nature, i just want to get though a rough patch in life in a healthy and constructive way. i'm allover the place emotionally, and my habits arn't helping. i jut need to learn how to get some control over my own life. i am NOT planning on remaining abstinant. i do thank you for the help however. i am sorry for being so tense, i'm realy irritable... i should have been clearer from the start though, that's again my fault. I'm sorry if I offended you. Sometimes, I'm not the best with words. sweatdrop I never thought that most men were "sex-addicted pigs." On the contrary I always thought that frequent sexual thoughts were normal for both men and women. Thank you for clarifying what you ment. I actually had a rough patch a while ago. I started setting small goals for myself that gradully got larger and pulled myself out of it. I know that method doesn't work for everyone, but I hope it helped.
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Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 9:11 pm
i dunno, i'm sorry... iii-_- i'm very obviously a mess right now.... ugh... having fights with people, and stuff like that.
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Posted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 7:23 pm
I'd tell you to look into Epicureanism.
It's quite easy to control one's hedonism when one realizes that many of the things we consider pleasurable cause more harm than good and that one should discover the nature of one's happiness and pleasures and plan ahead to enjoy them to their full extent.
Excessive alcohol consumption and especially smoking are really horrendous habits that should be avoided regardless of faith, though.
There is nothing physically wrong with the occasional glass of wine, but one shouldn't drink alcohol for the sake of drinking alcohol. This is why I strongly encourage going without it entirely.
People have even started becoming dependent on coffee nowadays... rolleyes
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Posted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 7:58 pm
almisami I'd tell you to look into Epicureanism. It's quite easy to control one's hedonism when one realizes that many of the things we consider pleasurable cause more harm than good and that one should discover the nature of one's happiness and pleasures and plan ahead to enjoy them to their full extent. Excessive alcohol consumption and especially smoking are really horrendous habits that should be avoided regardless of faith, though. There is nothing physically wrong with the occasional glass of wine, but one shouldn't drink alcohol for the sake of drinking alcohol. This is why I strongly encourage going without it entirely. People have even started becoming dependent on coffee nowadays... rolleyes Tea dependancy as well. I use wine in cooking, but that's about it.
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Posted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 8:08 pm
000SirCrocodile000 almisami I'd tell you to look into Epicureanism. It's quite easy to control one's hedonism when one realizes that many of the things we consider pleasurable cause more harm than good and that one should discover the nature of one's happiness and pleasures and plan ahead to enjoy them to their full extent. Excessive alcohol consumption and especially smoking are really horrendous habits that should be avoided regardless of faith, though. There is nothing physically wrong with the occasional glass of wine, but one shouldn't drink alcohol for the sake of drinking alcohol. This is why I strongly encourage going without it entirely. People have even started becoming dependent on coffee nowadays... rolleyes Tea dependancy as well. I use wine in cooking, but that's about it. tea is yummy... ;-; and i adore drinking because that state of drunkenness feels so magical, it's like a trance.... ^////^ i get to be the real me, the wild, untamed, feral, limitless me!
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Posted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 9:41 pm
If I were you, I would try to find substitutes for the things like smoking or drinking like with other food or drinks and I would also tell the people that I am around most of my time that if I do or am going to do whatever it is I don't want to do then to pinch me, make me suffer (not violently), or blackmail me so I would abstain from all that stuff if I am doing it in front of them.
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Posted: Wed Aug 26, 2009 8:28 pm
Chieftain Twilight 000SirCrocodile000 almisami I'd tell you to look into Epicureanism. It's quite easy to control one's hedonism when one realizes that many of the things we consider pleasurable cause more harm than good and that one should discover the nature of one's happiness and pleasures and plan ahead to enjoy them to their full extent. Excessive alcohol consumption and especially smoking are really horrendous habits that should be avoided regardless of faith, though. There is nothing physically wrong with the occasional glass of wine, but one shouldn't drink alcohol for the sake of drinking alcohol. This is why I strongly encourage going without it entirely. People have even started becoming dependent on coffee nowadays... rolleyes Tea dependancy as well. I use wine in cooking, but that's about it. tea is yummy... ;-; and i adore drinking because that state of drunkenness feels so magical, it's like a trance.... ^////^ i get to be the real me, the wild, untamed, feral, limitless me! Ya, I've seen some of the real people and their wild untamed sides..that often they don't realize how they come across, but they don't care because it's about what they feel, not how they project themselves to others. I have a mental crack high that is with me most of the time...no drugs, no dependencies, just a happiness and enjoyment of life. Tea is good though, I definitely drink tea.
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Posted: Fri Aug 28, 2009 3:25 am
000SirCrocodile000 Chieftain Twilight 000SirCrocodile000 almisami I'd tell you to look into Epicureanism. It's quite easy to control one's hedonism when one realizes that many of the things we consider pleasurable cause more harm than good and that one should discover the nature of one's happiness and pleasures and plan ahead to enjoy them to their full extent. Excessive alcohol consumption and especially smoking are really horrendous habits that should be avoided regardless of faith, though. There is nothing physically wrong with the occasional glass of wine, but one shouldn't drink alcohol for the sake of drinking alcohol. This is why I strongly encourage going without it entirely. People have even started becoming dependent on coffee nowadays... rolleyes Tea dependancy as well. I use wine in cooking, but that's about it. tea is yummy... ;-; and i adore drinking because that state of drunkenness feels so magical, it's like a trance.... ^////^ i get to be the real me, the wild, untamed, feral, limitless me! Ya, I've seen some of the real people and their wild untamed sides..that often they don't realize how they come across, but they don't care because it's about what they feel, not how they project themselves to others. I have a mental crack high that is with me most of the time...no drugs, no dependencies, just a happiness and enjoyment of life. Tea is good though, I definitely drink tea. heheh... whee yeah, i admit it though... my drinking is terrible because i am Schitzophrenic and Depressed... so i tend to get worse when drunk... sweatdrop either a.) Violent, or b.) depressed. and Koko: yeah, that is a good idea. smile thanks!
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Posted: Sat Sep 05, 2009 8:10 pm
Umm, I don't know how to approach that. I've sort of been practicing abstinence all my life, it's kind of a natural thing for me. Keeping yourself busy, finding things that you enjoy that don't harm you, and keeping in mind that you can't always get what you want, and even if you could, it would bring more harm than good.At least that's what I'm thinking this Ramadan. smile
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