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[Response to "Mameoyashi"]


First of all if he waits fifteen minutes and then calls the police, they will probably laugh at him. Trust me, they don't go into missing persons cases for someone who has been missing for so short a time (unless you say, saw the person being kidnapped or something). My mom tried to pull that on my brother when I was younger when he turned 18, they said they couldn't do anything about it.
Well, that may be a slight exaggeration... But only slight, lol...

He seems very controlling for every aspect of your life. But the question is... if he is your ex why do you still call and check in? If he is your ex why do you care what he thinks about what you do?
Because I still love him. Regardless of the fact that I don't wish to be married yet, I do still care and want to be with him forever. I'm just not ready for forever yet. I wasn't planning on getting married until 30 or 35, although my first baby was planned for 23-26. May be earlier because I relized how very much I want a child, but i'm not yet ready to tare care of it... Oops! Off topic!

I don't want him to hate me. I need the little support he gives me, as he is the only one giving it.

Talk to him, tell him honestly what your feelings are and tell him to stop being so controlling over your life. It's *your* life, you do with it what you want to. If you want to date, go ahead and date. It doesn't matter if he knows or not because he is your ex and has absolutely no claim on you.
Okay see, he and I have had this discussion many times, and because of that he's getting better. If I force the issue, I will exacerbate it. He's attempting to get a handle on his controlling behavior, but he is having a very difficult time. In the future he may be able to be more, er, normal... But right now, it's extremely frustrating... Especially because i'm the more "dominant" tyoe and truly despise being controlled.

This is full of all sorts of red flags, controlling and posessive behaviour, especially concerning you playing with yourself.
He weirds me out on that topic. One day, he's telling me how "hot" it is that I play with myself, the next day he's saying it's horrible, and he feels awful, unable to satisfy, threatens to stop having sex with me... Even though he knows that as two mature adults (sorta) with young, healthy bodies (very much so) we crave and desire sex and the resultant endorphins. We're physically and chemically attracted to each other, and after a year and a half of sex without condoms, i'm still not pregnant, we're both STD-free, etc. It makes more sense to have sex with each other and stay safe then to go slutting around randomly.

Honestly, were I you, I would distance myself from this guy as much as possible because he seems like seriously bad news in my mind.
Everyone says that and has been saying that for over a year, to be honest =/ He lives a block and a half away, and without him I am pretty much broke, have no cigarettes, no weed, no gas money, no video game money, etc. He has a tight grip on me, I let it happen, I don't mind being provided for... Just don't like having my whole life covered, I wanna do stuff too.

Though as a smaaaall side note: There's nothing wrong with slutting around either, as long as you are ethical and responsible about it as well. It's called being an ethical slut
Yeah, but in a town this small, everyone hears about it xD People already knew me as a slut because when I had my slave (AKA boyfriend, but everyone knew he was my b***h, I would bring him to school in drag and on dog leashes and stuff), I would sleep with all of his friends. Also, I need to STOP stealing other girls' boyfriends, I made a lot of enemies =x



Thanks so much for your input, just having someone to talk to helps WAY more than you can understand.