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Minerva the Bookwyrm Captain
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 Posted: Mon Dec 29, 2008 2:18 pm
My parents didn't want to spoil Christmas, so they didn't mention it until last night... cry cry cry You know how most of you are aware that Mum's mum has breast cancer and is going through chemo right now? Apparently, Dad's dad has cancer in his esophagus and is going through it right now, too. Dad's parents don't live close like Mum's, so they were able to hide it from us. Pop-pop will be getting treatment until June, and Grums' will end before Easter, so Pop-pop's must be more aggressive. I was coping okay before, but now..
When it was only Grums I could simply focus on it being ONE person and not get TOO down. It helped that breast cancer has a higher survival rate than any other cancer besides skin cancer. It was a bit difficult to deal with before, but I magnaged okay. 3nodding
Now, however... sweatdrop crying both sides having it at the same time... sweatdrop crying It's a lot to handle. I'm basically guaranteed to lose a grandparent within the year. DAMMIT! *smashes nearest object*
I'm a cheerful individual, so I'll try not to let it outwardly affect me, especially around my little sisters, but it's going to be a challenge. cry
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Posted: Mon Dec 29, 2008 2:43 pm
O.O On both sides...AT THE SAME TIME?! That must really suck, I'm sorry. I wish I could help.
I kinda know how you feel. Well, Both of my g-parents on my dad's side were gone before I was born, and I've never met my mom's mom. So, that leaves one grandparent that I actually know. And, He is in the hospital right now, due to Lung cancer, and the possibility of Stomach cancer. He's already lost almost his whole right lung to the cancer. I went to visit him yesterday...And he cant even sit up, or move his arm half a foot without being immobilized from pain. The doctors said that they'd be absolutly shocked if he's alive when this weekend hits.
I wish I could belive that he will be able to make it longer then just a few days...But in his current situation, it's kinda hopless. He hasn't eaten any food in two days, refuses to eat anymore, and will only drink less then a quarter cup of water a day, and that's slowly declining. T.T
But, like you, I have a younger sister, and I don't want to show her how worried I am. Espechially when she and her best friend came to me balling last night because of it. I had to comfort them - and I knew that if I started crying, it would make it worse. v.v
Life is so hard sometimes.
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Posted: Tue Dec 30, 2008 12:06 am
I will start by saying, I am very sorry for what you're going thru and I will keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers
Well, I think that your parents were just delaying giving you the information, so that Christmas wouldn't have more stress than what you already have going on. It was probably in the best interest of your whole family at the time. Perhaps, your parents didn't want to deal with it at the time either.
As probably your oldest member, I know it must be extremely difficult for you, but I am certain it is just or a little more for your parents. No one is ever ready to lose any member of their family that they love, EVER.
But let's stay on the positive side & there is a good possiblity that they will beat it & be healthy, so no matter what you do, keep the faith!
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Posted: Wed Dec 31, 2008 2:55 pm
Back in late 2003 my grandmother was diagnosed with lung cancer, she survived until Valentines Day 2005. Throughout the whole ordeal I never got to see her because my parents had just been divorced, and my uncle wasn't taking me because he was triyng to get along with my dad. If there's anything I can tell you, it's spend the time they're sick with them. Whether they make it or not, it still means the world to them that you were there. If you can't actually see them, call them. Make sure that you let them know how much you care. Chances are they'll survive, so it's not saying goodbye, but it's still important that you have that time with them. This is difficult for them, too, because you know how afraid they probably are, so you need to be there for them.
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Posted: Wed Dec 31, 2008 10:58 pm
I'm sorry. I fully understand what your going through. I mean... kinda. I don't have two relatives with cancer, but my great Uncle had cancer. He had the tumor removed, and they think they got all of it. He's going through Kemo. His last appointment was on Christmas eve, so I know what it's like to not see them. But I know that he's getting better. I hope your relatives get better as well.
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Posted: Thu Jan 01, 2009 8:52 am
I'm sorry lots of you went through hard times too, but thanks for the support, everyone. heart
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Minerva the Bookwyrm Captain
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Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2009 7:30 am
l can relate in more ways than one. l hope everyone can strong as this troublesome time. Hopefully soon everyone will be well & we can leave it as "just a hard time".
To be quite honest, it's very difficult for me to talk not alone think about it.
The disease & the word "cancer" should just leave this world sad
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 1:39 pm
Well i know what you are going through in a way.
What i mean is that when my dads was 17 his mother (my grandmother) died of brain cancer. Also my grandfather on my moms side died from like two or three strokes. So i guess it is not exactly the same thing but it is still like what you are going through. biggrin
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Posted: Thu Jan 15, 2009 10:13 am
I'm new here, but wanted to say that I'm sorry for all the bad news....My dad has cancer also, and is going through treatment for it......Doctors have come a long way for treating cancer....His cancer is shrinking now and he is doing better.....I pray that the treatments will work the same for your family members as well...The best thing to do is to stay as positive as you can , and be strong....I know it's not easy, but it works for me...I hope this helps you all..........Ok now I need a drink....Oh I forgot that's another thing that helps me too... rolleyes ... cheese_whine
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Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 2:12 pm
Thanks, Beer. That's a good idea. *grabs apple juice* Oh, that isn't what you meant by "a drink?"
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Minerva the Bookwyrm Captain
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 1:28 pm
My grandpa (he isn't related by blood but I've known him forver. He was at my birth and he is my best friend's grandpa) just got diagnosed with brain, lung, stomach, and intestines cancer like 4 days ago. He had been feeling sick and went to the hospitial. They give him two and a half weeks to live. Some people last longer then the time doctors give them, some shorter. I just pray he survives long enough for me to see him one last time. He lives halfway across the country from me and the next time I can possibly go back home is last march, early april.
Min, I know I posted at the Haven quite a while ago but I hope things are going well. Good luck. =)
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 2:25 pm
SuzelovesJamesPotter My grandpa (he isn't related by blood but I've known him forver. He was at my birth and he is my best friend's grandpa) just got diagnosed with brain, lung, stomach, and intestines cancer like 4 days ago. He had been feeling sick and went to the hospitial. They give him two and a half weeks to live. Some people last longer then the time doctors give them, some shorter. I just pray he survives long enough for me to see him one last time. He lives halfway across the country from me and the next time I can possibly go back home is last march, early april.
Min, I know I posted at the Haven quite a while ago but I hope things are going well. Good luck. =) He died last night.
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Minerva the Bookwyrm Captain
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Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2009 12:48 am
I'm sorry, Suze. That's terrible. If the cancer had spread to that many organs then there really wasn't anything that anyone could do. sad At least he didn't suffer for too long.
Both of my grandparents only had cancer in one organ apiece, so I'm hoping tha they're both fine after the treatments.
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Posted: Thu Apr 16, 2009 4:06 pm
My dad's dad is now cancer-free! biggrin biggrin I'm grateful for that.
My mum's mum isn't yet. She's actually been in the hospital for the past 6 weeks ever since her lung collapsed, and she contracted a staff infection while she was there. sad You'd think a hospital would be a place where you CAN'T become ill. evil Plus, the medication they have her on is making her lose her mind. She keeps forgetting why she's in the hospital, and a few times has been saying she has to take of issues that were resolved 20 years ago. I'm very worried. crying
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Minerva the Bookwyrm Captain
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Posted: Fri Apr 17, 2009 10:48 am
Oh Goodness luv, how terrifying. I'm so very sorry. sad
I know you must be suffering from a tremendous amount of stress and worry. Don't forget that you have friends on the forums as well who would be more then willing to help you with anything you may need around here.
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