Okay, I know what a lot of you are thinking "Step-mom" thus I should automatically assume "evil"...
What you need to understand is that my Step-mom was my best friend's mom growing up. I have known and spent as much time (or maybe more time) with this woman as my biological mother. I have always thought of her as a mother figure. She has survived having one lung removed due to cancer as well as having more than 1/4 of one of her kidneys removed due to a second cancer. I have always had the utmost respect for her, but lately I am starting to see traits in her that make me realize why her daughter (my no longer best friend for many years) gets it from. I always blamed her father...but her father was a lazy drunk. The two faced manipulation comes from my Step-mom aparently.
As some of you know on October 25 I moved out of a homeless shelter and come to stay with my father and Step-mother until November 1st.
All this time I was worried about my father being the one I upset the most during this visit. However it seems that the one who is angry near the end is my Step-mom. The problem is, I don't even know what I did for her to be mad about!
I know my Step-mom has fragile health and I have a four year old...who always seem to have something. But honestly, before this arrangement was made my daughter had just finished getting over a cold/sinus thing...they KNEW about that. Well not a day after we moved in she came down with another cold. Which my Step-mother caught. I don't know where my daughter caught it, I had no way of knowing she would get sick after so recently recovering from a very simiarlar style cold before.
I feel awful that my Step-mom is sick, has to go to the doctors and might even end up in the hospital AGAIN because of a bronchial infection.
But again...I couldn't have predicted this! What was I suppose to do? My whole family was on immune boosting vitamins before we moved in to prevent this.
I have tried very hard to help keep her living, dining rooms and kitchen clean...just as if my daughter and I weren't here. I have cleaned dishes, loaded dishwasher...everything.
The only thing I can think that might bother her a bit is that I tend to be a night owl...she is an early to bed, early to rise person. I am not so much either. I like to be up until 2-3 am and up between 10-noon...
However I have been getting up at 7-8am to watch my daughter while I am here, yet keeping my night time schedule.
Last night not wanting to impose on my Step-mom to have to watch or feed my daughter this morning I choose to pull an all nighter so I would be awake when my daughter got up.
A couple times during the night my Step-mom made her usual bathroom trips while I stayed on the computer (all three rooms are close together)...I am not playing music or talking...just typing. The second time she went back to bed at 3-4am...she SLAMMED the bedroom door.
I have sensed something brewing, but she keeps telling me it is nothing. What tipped the scales...this morning after she woke up at 7am she got a phone call on her cell. Her oldest daughter...I could hear her saying "no she didn't do it" and "can you believe it" - I know I suffer from being overly paranoid about thing sometimes. But I strained my ears anyways...and almost as if she realized I might be able to hear her she started whispering and turned on the TV and turned up the volume 10 points higher than normal listening volume (this isn't a loud neighborhood). *sighs* I just wish she would tell me what I did to make her so pissed at me. I am out tomorrow...but still. *sighs*
Thoughts or Comments?
What you need to understand is that my Step-mom was my best friend's mom growing up. I have known and spent as much time (or maybe more time) with this woman as my biological mother. I have always thought of her as a mother figure. She has survived having one lung removed due to cancer as well as having more than 1/4 of one of her kidneys removed due to a second cancer. I have always had the utmost respect for her, but lately I am starting to see traits in her that make me realize why her daughter (my no longer best friend for many years) gets it from. I always blamed her father...but her father was a lazy drunk. The two faced manipulation comes from my Step-mom aparently.
As some of you know on October 25 I moved out of a homeless shelter and come to stay with my father and Step-mother until November 1st.
All this time I was worried about my father being the one I upset the most during this visit. However it seems that the one who is angry near the end is my Step-mom. The problem is, I don't even know what I did for her to be mad about!
I know my Step-mom has fragile health and I have a four year old...who always seem to have something. But honestly, before this arrangement was made my daughter had just finished getting over a cold/sinus thing...they KNEW about that. Well not a day after we moved in she came down with another cold. Which my Step-mother caught. I don't know where my daughter caught it, I had no way of knowing she would get sick after so recently recovering from a very simiarlar style cold before.
I feel awful that my Step-mom is sick, has to go to the doctors and might even end up in the hospital AGAIN because of a bronchial infection.
But again...I couldn't have predicted this! What was I suppose to do? My whole family was on immune boosting vitamins before we moved in to prevent this.
I have tried very hard to help keep her living, dining rooms and kitchen clean...just as if my daughter and I weren't here. I have cleaned dishes, loaded dishwasher...everything.
The only thing I can think that might bother her a bit is that I tend to be a night owl...she is an early to bed, early to rise person. I am not so much either. I like to be up until 2-3 am and up between 10-noon...
However I have been getting up at 7-8am to watch my daughter while I am here, yet keeping my night time schedule.
Last night not wanting to impose on my Step-mom to have to watch or feed my daughter this morning I choose to pull an all nighter so I would be awake when my daughter got up.
A couple times during the night my Step-mom made her usual bathroom trips while I stayed on the computer (all three rooms are close together)...I am not playing music or talking...just typing. The second time she went back to bed at 3-4am...she SLAMMED the bedroom door.
I have sensed something brewing, but she keeps telling me it is nothing. What tipped the scales...this morning after she woke up at 7am she got a phone call on her cell. Her oldest daughter...I could hear her saying "no she didn't do it" and "can you believe it" - I know I suffer from being overly paranoid about thing sometimes. But I strained my ears anyways...and almost as if she realized I might be able to hear her she started whispering and turned on the TV and turned up the volume 10 points higher than normal listening volume (this isn't a loud neighborhood). *sighs* I just wish she would tell me what I did to make her so pissed at me. I am out tomorrow...but still. *sighs*
Thoughts or Comments?
A Quiz On Ladi - heart - Ladi's Good Traits (12 people have been kind enough to speak up) - heart - Ladi's Bad Traits (2 people have been brave enough to speak up)
