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 Posted: Thu Nov 15, 2007 6:04 pm
I found out that BlackSun Festival (which is a good-sized Gothic music festival) is going to be held in March of 2008, as opposed to its usual date in the summer. My 18th birthday is just a few weeks prior to the festival, and BlackSun is held about two hours from where I live, so it seems like I will be able to go this year.
However, I have no gothy friends, and most of my friends are still under 18, so I haven't a clue as to who I could go with! I'm somewhat shy, so I don't want to go by myself and end up alone and feeling awkward the whole time. Also, since I'm still a young girl, I do have my worries about what could possibly happen to me as I walk back to my hotel at 3am. sweatdrop
I really don't know what to do. I really want to go, since I've never really been to a concert (spare classical concerts), and at age 18 I'll finally be able to see the artists I love! However, I may have to go alone, and I worry about if I'll still be able to have fun, and (since I'll likely be staying in New Haven overnight) how safe I will be. My mom offered to tag along with me, but it would be rather awkward to go to such an event with my mum, and I would feel badly if she took me, only to have me scamper off among black-clad festival goers, leaving her to entertain herself.
Should I go on my own? Should I stay at home if I can't find anyone to go with? Any advice?
Also, general advice about how a shy goth who has no friends in the scene should go about socializing at her local club would help too! I have not been out yet, but once I'm 18 and have my driver's license, I do want to check out the goth nights at local clubs.
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Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 12:34 pm
If I were you I would go. I was more then once on the one or other concert or event alone when friends did not have the time and I can only speak of a positive experience. Sure it might happen that you stay alone, but so far everytime somehow I ended up talking with someone. Even if I just wanted to listen to the music and then leave again I ended up in a conversation. People are normally very open.
But if going alone really is not your thing then I suggest ask here on this forum if anyone goes aswell smile
Maybe the one or other person here goes there aswell. These people could pm you and you could exchange information and meet there!
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Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 4:56 pm
Honestly I think going alone would be kind of a bad idea seeing as dangerous things can be.But if you go,make sure you have some kind of protection or somthing.
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Posted: Sat Nov 17, 2007 4:29 pm
I would definitely not go alone...no matter what. If you want to go that badly you could take your Mom, I don't see how anyone would judge you on that especially if you just tell people she was interested in the festival and wanted to check it out too.
Well you do have a while until the event, so perhaps you'll make friends in that time? Try to be a little more open and make some friends. If you do find someone to go with make sure you can trust them to be as responsible as you are, or at least agree to how they do things. You don't want to be ditched or feel uncomfortable with that person.
I am 20 and I still don't go to any events alone where I don't know anyone.
But I have older siblings and my boyfriend so it's not so hard for me ^-^;;
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Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 10:01 am
I would go! Concerts are great places to meet new people even if you are on your own. I have been to several concerts on my own eventhough I'm only 17 years old.
I also had the problem of having no goth friends but on concerts and parties you can meet really great people. For example I met a goth guy, 30 years old at a concert of Siouxsie and we are best friends now, I currently see him almost every weekend!
You just have start talking to people at clubs and concerts and you will gain more friends. And a tip: if you go to a club be sure not to be early or you will end up sitting in a corner because the dancefloor is still empty! Just be there 2 hours later then the start!
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Posted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 6:07 pm
Go go go go go. You'll regret it if you don't.
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Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 9:33 pm
I have the same problem. There have been a few concerts that I didn't go to because I didn't have anyone to go with...maybe I should start going anyway. whee
There's an all-ages club near where I live, too, I believe, but once again...not sure if that wouldn't be totally stupid alone.
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