heard the term tenderqueer for the first time today

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Catsophony

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Catsophony

Urban dictionary.... oh my god....

right
might be one of the most butthurt submissions I've ever seen on that site lol

I get what it’s talking about though.

I get it too?? on some level??
like no one wants to be manipulated by someone playing the victim and those are exactly the type of mind games I've seen people play with each other in queer discussion s**t but
idk
it also seems like a pretty easily avoidable person? like just don't engage and you're fine? lol

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Catsophony

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Catsophony

Urban dictionary.... oh my god....

right
might be one of the most butthurt submissions I've ever seen on that site lol

I get what it’s talking about though.

I get it too?? on some level??
like no one wants to be manipulated by someone playing the victim and those are exactly the type of mind games I've seen people play with each other in queer discussion s**t but
idk
it also seems like a pretty easily avoidable person? like just don't engage and you're fine? lol

I definitely don’t think it’s specific to queer people. People and their labels nowadays amirite 🥴
My mom can get that way. Thinking she knows how other people should handle their emotions and why they are feeling how they feel all while being completely hypocritical. One time I told her I could listen to a podcast because the person voice bothered me too much. She called me ridiculous and got all hot and bothered. Not even like... 2 months later she told me about a podcast she couldn’t listen to because the persons voice was soooooo annoying 🙄 I was like oh so you won’t listen to it because their voice bothers you? She didn’t recognize that it completely resembled the same situation but I didn’t mention it.. just moved on.

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SailorGamer

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Imagine needing a community
Why would you need to be part if you feel rejected
I mean I'm bi but I wouldn't say I'm part of the LGBT community

you're kinda changing the subject don't you think
I'm not worried about my place in the community because I know I belong in it
but that doesn't mean I'm gonna withhold critique of the wack s**t other members of it have to say

oh yeah they say a ton of wacked of stuff
And sure it's shitty but aligning yourself in a community that allows that kinda behaviour eh it's not the best

that's just a logical fallacy now
there is no deity or Council of Gays or whatever making the rules of queer behavior and what qualifies you as a queer person and thus part of the community
there are just shitty people and not so shitty people and it's subjective and can't really be gatekept by anyone

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SailorGamer

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SailorGamer

Imagine needing a community
Why would you need to be part if you feel rejected
I mean I'm bi but I wouldn't say I'm part of the LGBT community

you're kinda changing the subject don't you think
I'm not worried about my place in the community because I know I belong in it
but that doesn't mean I'm gonna withhold critique of the wack s**t other members of it have to say

oh yeah they say a ton of wacked of stuff
And sure it's shitty but aligning yourself in a community that allows that kinda behaviour eh it's not the best

that's just a logical fallacy now
there is no deity or Council of Gays or whatever making the rules of queer behavior and what qualifies you as a queer person and thus part of the community
there are just shitty people and not so shitty people and it's subjective and can't really be gatekept by anyone

sure doesnt feel that way tho lmao

[kkuhjuh]

LOL WHAT A TERM I HATE IT lol

[Prikklypear]

gay for fried chicken

[Himbos]

this is going to get so much usage from me now LMAOOOO
im so tired of ppl who crytype to me then try to get my friend group to dump me lmao

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kkuhjuh

LOL WHAT A TERM I HATE IT lol

I like the surface level definition but the way it seems to be used is uh
less than desirable lol

[clownfriend]

i thought it was like the equivalent of a softboi ? like someone who takes advantage of people using an air of gentleness to get what they want from ppl ?

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kkuhjuh

LOL WHAT A TERM I HATE IT lol

I like the surface level definition but the way it seems to be used is uh
less than desirable lol

lol the example killed me bc i knew ppl like that and most of them were super toxic ahahaaa
wish ppl could just use regular words to describe their personalities instead of adding a slur to the end of an adjective

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clownfriend

i thought it was like the equivalent of a softboi ? like someone who takes advantage of people using an air of gentleness to get what they want from ppl ?

softboi is bad too????? I thought it was just the word white girls use for their trans guy friends

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kkuhjuh

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kkuhjuh

LOL WHAT A TERM I HATE IT lol

I like the surface level definition but the way it seems to be used is uh
less than desirable lol

lol the example killed me bc i knew ppl like that and most of them were super toxic ahahaaa
wish ppl could just use regular words to describe their personalities instead of adding a slur to the end of an adjective

pretty sure it's a play off of genderqueer because it's a very specific type of person

[Feetdom]

What about for the bi-curious

[kkuhjuh]

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kkuhjuh

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kkuhjuh

LOL WHAT A TERM I HATE IT lol

I like the surface level definition but the way it seems to be used is uh
less than desirable lol

lol the example killed me bc i knew ppl like that and most of them were super toxic ahahaaa
wish ppl could just use regular words to describe their personalities instead of adding a slur to the end of an adjective

pretty sure it's a play off of genderqueer because it's a very specific type of person

mmm personal experience says otherwise, my a*****e friends were mostly spread p evenly from the BTQ parts