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Sunday. before that the last I knew of was a year ago.

It's not as easy as packing up and stepping out the door. I actually have to say it. My mother lives 2000 miles away. I would at the least need to be taken to the airport. That won't be a problem though, I know he'd at least do that

I have given him the ultimatum like 3 times before. It doesn't work. It's sad how pathetic he can be when I say I'll leave him. He cries and says he'll kill himself and can't live without me. He begs and pleads so bad, it's really a great performance.

I tell him he hurts me and he says he doesn't mean to. He knows it does so how can he not mean to? confused

I'm tired of giving him chances. He has some really great aspects about him, but it doesn't mean anything when there isn't trust.

I'll talk to him again when he comes home and see what happens.

have you ever fantasized about these other women while being intimate with your gf?

That's just the thing. I'm not an everyday kind of girl. I'm mixed and could probably be considered exotic, I think he's even said I was before too. even their body types aren't even similar to mine. the amateur porn he looks at, these people look like the kind of people you pass by in the streets. it really bothers me because they're so REAL.

I totally agree with you. I wish he'd only have eyes for me sad

Generally from all the replies I've got, this is obviously unacceptable. D:

yes I am the type that doesn't like him looking at porn. Maybe it wouldn't bother me as much if he wasn't specifically looking at one race that I'm not. and he prefers amateur porn cause they're more "real".

the last time he asked a girl for naked pictures was before we got together. so I'm not sure if I let it slide because it hasn't happened in so long and only once or not?

it seems like I'm an idiot for even still being with him though sweatdrop

Well I will just start from the beginning. I met my boyfriend online and AFTER we started going together in real life, I found tons of porn and naked pictures of girls he talked to online on his computer. This was about a year and a half ago. He caught me looking at it and saw my disappointment and immediately deleted everything. He said he'd never do any of that again etc. I believed him and I ended up moving in with him.

Along the course of this time I had kept finding porn on his computer since I use his computer too. Every single time he would give me the same song and dance about not doing it again. At one point I figured well I'll just make him some pictures of me and he won't feel the need to do it again. It worked for about a week then he was looking at porn again and hadn't even looked at my pictures for a week. Sometimes after we had sex, I would find out afterward that he had looked at porn before we did it (not all the time but sometimes).

Then for a few months I hadn't found anything (I assume he was just hiding it better). Today I found out that he was looking at porn again AND he had asked a girl for naked pictures on msn.

I really don't understand. I'm not holding out on him, we have sex regularly. Everytime I ask him why he says he's just curious. When I asked him today he said word for word "I just wanted to look at something different." ...what is that even supposed to mean?

He's jealous and possessive and I know if I were doing this to him, he would be upset. so why is it ok that he's doing it to me? it's like he doesn't realize he's destroying my self esteem.

I've told him how I feel about it and every time he kisses at my feet how sorry he is and won't do again.

what should I do about this?

I never called you stupid, a simple no would have been sufficient. smile