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On one hand, it could be a great thing for him to remember you by and your love and such and such, and it will give him something to love and hold onto and distract him from obvious pain he'll be feeling.

On the other hand, it will be a painful reminder to him if/when he ever wants to be with someone else, and the kid will probably always wonder about it's mother and could feel empty inside their whole life- like how sometimes kids who are adopted feel like they need to meet their birthparents. There are both ups and downs on this and ultimately, the decision is yours.

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No good will come of this.. He's gay. You can't change people's sexual orientation. I'm a lesbian and I can not STAND it when guys crush on me and ask me repeatedly if I want to date them when the answer is no.No, I'm not even a little bit bisexual. No, I'm not curious about guys. No, I do not want to try one just to see. No, I am not only gay because I haven't had c**k. No, you are not going to be the guy to turn me straight.

And it's the same for me when I like straight girls, I just have to accept it's not going to happen.

abort. Her body can't handle having a baby, she's too young.

You would wager wrong, then, especially since I used to be very religious and then I met this girl and was head over heels for her and couldn't stop thinking about how badly I wanted to kiss her. And then I clung to this hope that I was bisexual for a while before I realized guys just didn't do it for me. I mean really, did you have to fool around with both sex's to know which sex you wanted to fool around with?

And no, I wasn't best friends with either of them, but I don't think it matters. Being able to be friends with someone after a relationship is pretty much the same across the board. I'm not still friends with both ex's because it just so happened that way, I am because I put in the effort. And this girl, if I'm good friends with her now, why wouldn't I still want to be friends with her after?

Because sexual orientation isn't about what you've done, it's about what you like. I knew I was a lesbian 4 years before I ever kissed a girl. Because I liked girls, and I wanted to be with them, and I had crushes, and I didn't have those things with boys. And she has liked boys, too, and girls too. She's actually got a preference for girls in that she really wants to be with one, but she's just never had the opportunity. And I don't understand the whole 'best friend's dating can't be friends after', I'm friends with both of my ex's, and one of them I didn't even know before I dated her. But we're still good friends.

How long is 'waiting a little longer'? Because I've liked this girl since I met her when I first moved into the city, which was in August. I've told her 'hey I like you' and suggested dating with the paper rose and there are some things that suggest she does like me and some that she doesn't. It's a really complicated situation, I guess, and I can't tell if I'm being hopeful because I like her or if I'm being pessimistic because my dating self esteem is low or what.

I just wanted to say definitely not.

If you like him, I say go for it. At fourteen you shouldn't be having sex, anyhow.