Ok, Guys of the LI, I need your help.

[G a l ii n D A f i e d]

Hello there.
Cutting to the chase, I need to know what a girl can do to make a guy wonder about her.
You see, my Ex has been treating me like trash since we broke up.
He has a new girl now, and I'm not interested in him as a boyfriend. I simply want to be his friend again.
According to the school councilor, he's too immature to simply sit down and talk it out with me. There was a lot of sex in our relationship, and a complication as a result.
So, he suggests I treat him as he treats me. Pretend he doesn't exist, avoid him, ect.
But I don't think this will be enough to catch his attention and make him see that he's dealing with things the wrong way.
So you're all guys, right?
What would work on you in this situation?

★~D a n c i n g through life, no need to tough it
When you can SLUFF it off as I do
Nothing matters, but knowing nothing matters
It's just L I F E
So keep d a n c i n g through~ ★

[G a l ii n D A f i e d]

Bumpz.

★~D a n c i n g through life, no need to tough it
When you can SLUFF it off as I do
Nothing matters, but knowing nothing matters
It's just L I F E
So keep d a n c i n g through~ ★

[casper_montihugh]

To be honest, I am currently infactuated with a girl with that as the main reason xD
Being aloof causes a tension to get to know them, but that part is a bit too late.
Could work by the fact that you want something more that you can't have. Depending on the interval of the break up and now, it may be too soon for it to be normal.
Especilly if you were his first.

[G a l ii n D A f i e d]

casper_montihugh

To be honest, I am currently infactuated with a girl with that as the main reason xD
Being aloof causes a tension to get to know them, but that part is a bit too late.
Could work by the fact that you want something more that you can't have. Depending on the interval of the break up and now, it may be too soon for it to be normal.
Especilly if you were his first.

Well, it's been almost six months, and I wasn't his first girlfriend, or his first time having sex.

★~D a n c i n g through life, no need to tough it
When you can SLUFF it off as I do
Nothing matters, but knowing nothing matters
It's just L I F E
So keep d a n c i n g through~ ★

[casper_montihugh]

There could be other variables to this situation probably,
But it may be one that may be too stressful to try to accomplish.
Humn, trying not to offend, may I ask why you would want him as a friend?

[Calculus Freak]

> I need to know what a girl can do to make a guy wonder about her.

.... What? You can't 'force' someone to feel something about the other person.

Plus, if he treats you like s**t , why are you trying to gain their attention? WHAT DO YOU GAIN OUT OF GETTING HIS ATTENTION? If he still treats you this badly, I don't see the need to help or 'gain their attention' anymore. Just move on from that person.

Please answer me why you are still doing this? Do you feel attached to him or something?

[casper_montihugh]

Calculus Freak

> I need to know what a girl can do to make a guy wonder about her.

.... What? You can't 'force' someone to feel something about the other person.

Plus, if he treats you like s**t , why are you trying to gain their attention? WHAT DO YOU GAIN OUT OF GETTING HIS ATTENTION? If he still treats you this badly, I don't see the need to help or 'gain their attention' anymore. Just move on from that person.

Please answer me that...

Jerks are sought after the fact that dominance is a trait that is search for by instinct. Also, it may be a defense mechanism that could be a drag to fix... Though that may not be the issue.

[G a l ii n D A f i e d]

Well, we where great friends before we started dating, and even during.
He's the only one I could talk to about nerdy things like Pokemon and Zelda, and random obscure stories without getting laughed at for how into it I get.
I don't have a friend like that anymore, so I feel like some sort of passage has been clogged up. I can't release stress in the form of nerdiness anymore. It builds up and due to the changes in body chemistry from that complication I spoke of, I get overstressed and I faint.
I haven't been very healthy at all since we broke up.
My doctors say the best thing I can do health wise is to stay in contact with him, but it isn't possible when we fight like cats and dogs.

★~D a n c i n g through life, no need to tough it
When you can SLUFF it off as I do
Nothing matters, but knowing nothing matters
It's just L I F E
So keep d a n c i n g through~ ★

[Zarow]

You sound like a complete idiot.
"WELL, I BROKE UP WITH HIM, HE'S STUPID, AND IGNORES ME. HOW CAN I GET HIM TO TALK TO ME AGAIN?"
Advice? Quit while you're ahead.

[G a l ii n D A f i e d]

Calculus Freak

> I need to know what a girl can do to make a guy wonder about her.

.... What? You can't 'force' someone to feel something about the other person.

Plus, if he treats you like s**t , why are you trying to gain their attention? WHAT DO YOU GAIN OUT OF GETTING HIS ATTENTION? If he still treats you this badly, I don't see the need to help or 'gain their attention' anymore. Just move on from that person.

Please answer me why you are still doing this? Do you feel attached to him or something?

Mostly for my mental and physical health.
That, and I feel like something is very wrong when we fight like this.
From the day I met him, even when I thought he had to be the ugliest creature on two legs, I felt lik we where somehow connected for life. I don't know how, but I just know that we'll play big parts in each other's lives, one way or another.
I feel like we'll need each other someday, and I don't want us denying it becaus we have some sort of long burning hatred going on.

★~D a n c i n g through life, no need to tough it
When you can SLUFF it off as I do
Nothing matters, but knowing nothing matters
It's just L I F E
So keep d a n c i n g through~ ★

[G a l ii n D A f i e d]

Zarow

You sound like a complete idiot.
"WELL, I BROKE UP WITH HIM, HE'S STUPID, AND IGNORES ME. HOW CAN I GET HIM TO TALK TO ME AGAIN?"
Advice? Quit while you're ahead.

You don't have to tell me that I'm an idiot. I know that already, and unfortunately, there is no cur for that illness.
And our break up was mutual.

★~D a n c i n g through life, no need to tough it
When you can SLUFF it off as I do
Nothing matters, but knowing nothing matters
It's just L I F E
So keep d a n c i n g through~ ★

[casper_montihugh]

Maybe because it was a drastic change to stray away from him? The lack of fullfilling the need to be nerdy is also a stress, to which may not have the best influences.
If no go, it may be an ease to know that you don't need him to chatter of those subjects, because others are bound to. Never know. People are too worried of possible social disasters that they may not make an attempt, and create some kind of stereotype of the people that are said to be 'normal': Noone normal holds no interest in games, or anything creative.

[Calculus Freak]

S0 i AM W o n D e r Ful

Zarow

You sound like a complete idiot.
"WELL, I BROKE UP WITH HIM, HE'S STUPID, AND IGNORES ME. HOW CAN I GET HIM TO TALK TO ME AGAIN?"
Advice? Quit while you're ahead.

You don't have to tell me that I'm an idiot. I know that already, and unfortunately, there is no cur for that illness.
And our break up was mutual.

★~D a n c i n g through life, no need to tough it
When you can SLUFF it off as I do
Nothing matters, but knowing nothing matters
It's just L I F E
So keep d a n c i n g through~ ★

Oh there's a cure for that for sure. Time. It may take you years to realize your answer...

But look, if this guy doesn't even need you and yet you still feel attached to him... All I got to tell you is toughen it out. Look at the bright side, you at least experienced what it's like to feel for another person.

I mean, I personally think I'm the only guy who would be willingly to talk about math 24/7. Sure, things do get lonely... My resolution was to reach towards your own dreams, something you'd like to do when you get older instead of thinking about other guys.

People are a random variable. You never know if they will be by your side or not. I can tell that when you said along the lines of "We somehow both need each other", that you spoke by your heart....

I'll be honest right here.. Please find something to do besides gawking about him . It'll just hurt you more to care about someone that doesn't even care about you back. And even if he claims 'to be', he has someone else now, hence his love (or regards) towards you is invalid for the most part.

I can care less if you say you can't control your so called illness. You have to grow up and realize the fact that for about 80% of the people you meet, you'll eventually stop talking to them within a period of months, or years sometimes.

Long story short, you gotta grow up. Be more independent. Don't get clingy towards one guy for too long, ESPECIALLY if you were the one that dumped him and now crawling back to him in crocodile tears....

[Bored Katharsis]

I was in this situation. Except I was the new girlfriend and his ex was the psycho still wanting to be his friend.

He wanted nothing to do with her anymore and that was that. Of course, that was because she was a manipulative crazy b***h during the course of their year-and-a-half relationship. But she also thought they had some sort of "connection" and needed to stay friends with him for her "mental well-being." God, it's crazy how much you sound like her.

And my advice? Get over him and find someone else. You can never force someone to "wonder" about you or want to be friends with you again. I've been with this guy for almost two years now and she STILL WON'T TAKE A HINT. He ignores her texts and she still won't leave us alone.

Don't end up like her. Please.

[Calculus Freak]

Bored Katharsis

I was in this situation. Except I was the new girlfriend and his ex was the psycho still wanting to be his friend.

He wanted nothing to do with her anymore and that was that. Of course, that was because she was a manipulative crazy b***h during the course of their year-and-a-half relationship. But she also thought they had some sort of "connection" and needed to stay friends with him for her "mental well-being." God, it's crazy how much you sound like her.

And my advice? Get over him and find someone else. You can never force someone to "wonder" about you or want to be friends with you again. I've been with this guy for almost two years now and she STILL WON'T TAKE A HINT. He ignores her texts and she still won't leave us alone.

Don't end up like her. Please.

Agreed! Yes! ._.