Can't masturbate "normally" + Sex issues

[Gummy Juice]

Just so people aren't all confused. I'm male with a female avi. Also, I'm 19

1) I'm sure most men masturbate and orgasm by going up and down the shaft with their hand(s)
The way I have always done it since I was 7 is by lying on my stomach and holding the corner of a soft blanket between my p***s and the bed. Then I just move up and down with my pelvis while fantasizing until I c**. This method feels so intense with pleasure from start to finish, and I do it atleast once a day.

2) This method of masturbation is done while my p***s is soft. After I c** though it ends up being semi-hard. I think that info is important because it might have something to do with my problems with my partner. It takes quite a bit to get me hard and when I finally am, it just dies very quickly. =( A lot of times it only gets semi-hard and not good enough to penetrate.

3) Anytime I try masturbating the way most males do, I don't feel a thing, Sure it might get hard, but I feel absolutely no pleasure. I also find it impossible for me to fantasize while doing this method. I don't know why. I've tried stroking it a few different ways, and even with KY-Jelly, but it never feels anything like it does when I'm lying on the bed thrusting my pelvis on the blanket.

I need to get the "normal" way to work for me because I think it would be a possible cure for my ED problem. At the same time though, I don't believe it could ever feel as great as my current method does.

Edit: by popular request, I changed the word thing to p***s

[Theawesomemanman]

Gummy Juice

Just so people aren't all confused. I'm male with a female avi. Also, I'm 19

1) I'm sure most men masturbate and orgasm by going up and down the shaft with their hand(s)
The way I have always done it since I was 7 is by lying on my stomach and holding the corner of a soft blanket between my thing and the bed. Then I just move up and down with my pelvis while fantasizing until I c**. This method feels so intense with pleasure from start to finish, and I do it atleast once a day.

2) This method of masturbation is done with the "thing" is soft. After I c** though it ends up being semi-hard. I think that info is important because it might have something to do with my problems with my partner. It takes quite a bit to get me hard and when I finally am, it just dies very quickly. =( A lot of times it only gets semi-hard and not good enough to penetrate.

3) Anytime I try masturbating the way most males do, I don't feel a thing, Sure it might get hard, but I feel absolutely no pleasure. I also find it impossible for me to fantasize while doing this method. I don't know why. I've tried stroking it a few different ways, and even with KY-Jelly, but it never feels anything like it does when I'm lying on the bed thrusting my pelvis on the blanket.

I need to get the "normal" way to work for me because I think it would be a possible cure for my ED problem. At the same time though, I don't believe it could ever feel as great as my current method does.

Yeah I'm about to do what you said you have no pleasure doing after I post this mrgreen . Since you were 7? Lmao wtf I don't think I started masterbating until I was 14 or 15.............

Yeah I actually used to do what you did, but it would take me to long to c** or sometimes I jsut would get barely any pleasure.

Why don't you just make yourself a fleshlight? There's places where they teach you how to make home made ones.

[Gummy Juice]

Theawesomemanman

Yeah I'm about to do what you said you have no pleasure doing after I post this mrgreen . Since you were 7? Lmao wtf I don't think I started masterbating until I was 14 or 15.............

Yeah I actually used to do what you did, but it would take me to long to c** or sometimes I jsut would get barely any pleasure.

Why don't you just make yourself a fleshlight? There's places where they teach you how to make home made ones.

Tonight was the first night I actually considered buying one of those. I was looking at them and reading reviews just before creating this thread, I'd hope a fleshlight would work for me but I'm still worried about it not working. If they weren't $50 I'd buy one in a heartbeat to test it out. I'd hate to spend $50 that I don't really have right now, and find out that it still gives me no pleasure.

I will look into making a home made one though! What would the opening be made out of?

[Xiatos]

Gotta say, I own a fleshlight. They are pretty ace.
The only complaint I have with it is that cleanup is a pain in the a**. Well, not the clean up itself, that's easy as hell. But drying the thing is a b***h. Takes forever, and if you put it up when it's not completely dry mold can form.

[Sie Lieben]

You should definitely check into some pills to help your ED.

[Amryxx]

Your "thing"... gah, just call it a p***s, will you?

I don't think there's a "correct" way to masturbate, as long as you enjoy it I think it's fine. As for your erectile dysfunction, the problem might be mental - are you nervous, or just turned off by your partner? (BO, you're cheating on someone, etc.?) Don't be so quick to resort to the manual override a.k.a Viagra, you're still 19!

[Syndactyly]

You're 19 and you can't say p***s?

Anyway... Some guys masturbate like this. It IS weird that you can't enjoy jacking off at all and feel no pleasure from it. Does your p***s bother you? If you are uncomfortable with having a p***s, this could explain why you hump the bed like a girl. Sorry, someone had to say it. You've hump and squish on your soft p***s. How can you fantasize you're ******** someone when really you're dry humping a flaccid d**k?

It's time to introspect, and ask yourself WHY this is. I don't think you have ED, I think this is psychological.

[insom nom nom niaa]

What's happened here is that you've become accustomed to stimulation directly on the glands of the p***s from a foreign object. Men who masturbate with their hand up and down the shaft only touch the glands at certain points during the stroke, but are able to remain much harder for a longer period of time because what they do eases the blood flow in the p***s.

Basically what you're doing is akin to one masturbation technique called the "rosy palm". The p***s is held in the left hand by the base of the shaft while the right palm rubs the glands in circles. Men who masturbate the "normal way"(as you've termed it) will notice that it takes them a lot longer to get hard this way, but is a lot more pleasurable. It also goes down much quicker when doing this technique, so constant stimulation is needed. This is where your "keeping it up" problem lies.

You need to acclimate yourself to masturbation that semi-simulates vaginal intercourse, such as stroking it like "normal people" do. It may take a while, and you may feel less pleasure on the way too the orgasm, but you will still orgasm and ejaculate.

Basically, the way you're masturbating is akin to a blowjob. The way "normal people" masturbate is akin to intercourse.

[code0fvulgarism]

I have an idea!
Why don't you go down on your girlfriend,
and while you are eating her out,
sneakily set up your normal masturbation habit, and get yourself aroused, by pleasing
yourself in your normal way while you please her...
then make yourself hard and try to have sex with her in the missionary position, so that
it seems like you are doing it your normal way...
Set up the illusion!!

[WorstThingToSay]

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[Yumi The Strange]

insom nom nom niaa

What's happened here is that you've become accustomed to stimulation directly on the glands of the p***s from a foreign object. Men who masturbate with their hand up and down the shaft only touch the glands at certain points during the stroke, but are able to remain much harder for a longer period of time because what they do eases the blood flow in the p***s.

Basically what you're doing is akin to one masturbation technique called the "rosy palm". The p***s is held in the left hand by the base of the shaft while the right palm rubs the glands in circles. Men who masturbate the "normal way"(as you've termed it) will notice that it takes them a lot longer to get hard this way, but is a lot more pleasurable. It also goes down much quicker when doing this technique, so constant stimulation is needed. This is where your "keeping it up" problem lies.

You need to acclimate yourself to masturbation that semi-simulates vaginal intercourse, such as stroking it like "normal people" do. It may take a while, and you may feel less pleasure on the way too the orgasm, but you will still orgasm and ejaculate.

Basically, the way you're masturbating is akin to a blowjob. The way "normal people" masturbate is akin to intercourse.

I guess he's right xD

[Amber_TheOne]

Oh my man. You can develop problems from lying on your stomach. You're typically not supposed to masturbate that way due to the pressure going to the head? I think. I would give you the site I've gotten this from but I don't remember where I found it. I do know that it said it can cause problems with cumming, sex and having orgasms. It's the same for girls. I would lie on your back just like most people and do it that way.

Here is a site that I think "might" help you. Maybe:
Masturbation Help ^^

[Magic-Froggie Sundae]

insom nom nom niaa

What's happened here is that you've become accustomed to stimulation directly on the glands of the p***s from a foreign object. Men who masturbate with their hand up and down the shaft only touch the glands at certain points during the stroke, but are able to remain much harder for a longer period of time because what they do eases the blood flow in the p***s.

Basically what you're doing is akin to one masturbation technique called the "rosy palm". The p***s is held in the left hand by the base of the shaft while the right palm rubs the glands in circles. Men who masturbate the "normal way"(as you've termed it) will notice that it takes them a lot longer to get hard this way, but is a lot more pleasurable. It also goes down much quicker when doing this technique, so constant stimulation is needed. This is where your "keeping it up" problem lies.

You need to acclimate yourself to masturbation that semi-simulates vaginal intercourse, such as stroking it like "normal people" do. It may take a while, and you may feel less pleasure on the way too the orgasm, but you will still orgasm and ejaculate.

Basically, the way you're masturbating is akin to a blowjob. The way "normal people" masturbate is akin to intercourse.

Syndactyly

You're 19 and you can't say p***s?

Anyway... Some guys masturbate like this. It IS weird that you can't enjoy jacking off at all and feel no pleasure from it. Does your p***s bother you? If you are uncomfortable with having a p***s, this could explain why you hump the bed like a girl. Sorry, someone had to say it. You've hump and squish on your soft p***s. How can you fantasize you're ******** someone when really you're dry humping a flaccid d**k?

It's time to introspect, and ask yourself WHY this is. I don't think you have ED, I think this is psychological.

"I think these two have it right....I was gonna say both of these things, but oh well...."

[M0NSTER]

Has your partner ever given you a blowjob or handjob? If that doesn't give you some intense pleasure, then I really do suggest getting some pills. That's really all I can think of.